Marvilo, Lockdown said it all brother. I basically want to find myself through my solitude. That being said I'm not turning away women or anything, I'm just working through some deeper issues I have within myself (such as the need for validation from women, being scared of being alone, etc). I want to be happy WITHOUT a relationship so I can be in one and not be codependent, which I kind of think is what the author is getting at here.
Within this process I have ended up hurting a few, and even realized that two girlfriends of mine I was close with I no longer want in my life simply because they are slightly dishonest but mostly childish and I don't care to be around them anymore. And it isn't just females either its been a few males as well. I have been being a total ass lately according to other people but I'm just making the changes in my life I want.
These kind of matters are always grey area.
That being said, I have went through a few women and a lot of success and failures in all aspects of my life to get to this point. It is a process, just something you can just accomplish.