Now that I am married, I can share more of my 'dating' secrets. I stopped doing match and other dating sites because it became too easy to get 1st or 2nd date sex, but I wasn't growing my Pick Up Artist skills and decided I would rather be good with women in real life (bars, clubs, during the day, etc), then to just sleep with a large amount of random women online.
I know tough problem to have, but stick with me... it's a true story.
OK - Here is my advice for online dating.
1. NEVER wink. It is worthless online.
2. Send the following Email to EVERY hot girl you see - it is magic and short and simple and works.
Body: "Hey, I just had to say that I find you incredibly attractive and love what you had to say in your profile. I would love to get together for a drink sometime and find out more about you. Talk to you soon, (your name)."
Send the same Email to every girl you can.
It works magic and is simple. Up to this point I've only shared this with a few of my friends.
Paul (Married XPUA).