Re: Am I waiting too long to kiss close?
Given the fact the two of you came out of long relationships, it's alright that you haven't kissed her yet. If you had wanted to do so early, you could have done it though.
Right now, you're big problem is that you are depending on this situation way too much. You are investing too much concentration and effort, and that can lead to self sabotage. What you need to do is dump all of your worries and fears and just have confidence in yourself. If you believe in yourself, you can do just about anything when it comes to picking up and doing stuff with any girl.
In terms of what you should do now, don't freeze her out. Usually in most situations, Freeze Out is never the answer. You would benefit more by firing up a flirty conversation with her. Fire it up with a reference to a nickname, a past fun moment, and so on. When she sees your message, you want her to think of the fun talks the two of you have had, and the potentail fun the two of you could have if she continues to stick with you.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X