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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    Gold EMsaenz, thank you.

    I ended one of my first relationships because the girl was getting too serious and wanted to get married. I knew I still had serious growth ahead of me and was in the middle of my own personal evolution. It was a tough break up because I cared about her, but ultimately, was a necessary and important decision that has been one I feel very fortunate to have made.

    This will be a great angle to take and a way to show her the parallels between us. The fact that the girl wanted to marry me will be a dhv and shouldn't make me look like an AFC.

    Thank you.

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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    Awesome update Ninja, pleased that you read my Ultimate Guide to Boyfriend Destroyer Techniques and actually put it to use! Your report demonstrated just how effective the StrawMan technique was, by building up this guy she was seeing, she then realised that he wasnt actually that great at all. Now you know he wasnt caring etc etc. so you can play on those faults of his. You linked it to the high/lo mindframe game aswell, and did well in punishing her response.
    Maybe suggest getting a coffee or hanging out a bit after your volleyball class, she is obviously going through a hard time and would appreciate the comfort. All in all a very well executed report and am excited to hear how this progresses!

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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    I've used the advice you two have given me to the best of my ability because what you've both said feels logical and makes sense to me. I think your ideas have worked as well as anything could have and I appreciate the time you've both taken to help me find a positive solution.

    Here's an update...

    EMS suggested building a stronger emotional connection. I was able to do this via text and it worked really well. As my texts got longer, hers did as well, which was a good sign. We were able to joke back and forth quite a bit and after I felt like I'd accomplished my goals with the conversation, I ended it on a text of hers. The following day she and I were on different teams in vball and we both battled on the winner's court, my team won so I poked fun at her after class a little bit. I felt like it would be a good time to use Zeus's idea for a coffee so I invited her out the next morning saying, "I have about an hour free tomorrow morning...let's meet for a coffee." When she got back to me she said she was working from 7-12 and then had lab until 2:30. All I could think was, sh1t...I don't think I could have done much more, I'll just have to put my focus somewhere else and see if anything happens with her down the road.

    The next morning around 10am she texted and asked what I was up to before class the following day. This was obviously a good sign and I was stoked she took the initiative to set something up. We met for coffee today and it went pretty well. I kclosed and we went to vball. Class went well and she walked to our next class with me. She texted me a little bit ago, which has been rare for her to take initiative with texting. All of these feel like really positive signs. When we were having coffee she mentioned her ex had dropped off all of her things to her parents house the other day...another good sign. However, she also mentioned she was going on a hike on Monday with a couple guys, one of which I know who has a girlfriend, but the other I know nothing about. (Sh1t Test maybe?)

    One of my girls who's a friend mentioned things were working out perfectly and that I needed to give her time, that this transition can't be easy for her. I agree.

    My question is this...we've got a couple more weeks until spring term is over and our schedules become quite a bit easier to deal with. Until then, what is a good way to set something up with her without picking the wrong time and getting turned down again. Should I drop my guard and ask when is a good time to hang out? Is there another more creative way to set something up without giving her control or is a little control a good and necessary thing? In addition, what is a good focus to have with her right now? My gut says keep things light and fun.

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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    Awesome man, sounds like you are making good progress.
    She is obviously interested so i would say to avoid the situation of her flaking on you leave it a while and see if she tries to set up a date or arrange to meet up whenever. If she tells your she has a free day or free hours then might be a hint she is wanting to do something with you.

    If she has just come out of something then you dont want to be putting pressure on her. Obviously things in her past relationship ended bad so you talking about a relationship with her is just going to make those bad memories come up in her mind again. Be fun and live in the moment, dont plan anything in the long run and she wont feel any pressure

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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    I know this is not what you're going to want to hear and is contrary to what others have said, but it doesn't sound like she's into you as much as you think she is. She obviously has things she needs to figure out but you're staying too much in her picture and unfortunately getting friend-zoned as a result of it. Her inviting you out for coffee doesn't mean anything, her permitting you to kiss her doesn't mean anything. Based on your posts you've got ultra-desperate oneitis. Not to say it's not warranted, I'm sure she's just as incredible and drop-dead G as you say.

    But that's your biggest problem. As much as you understand the techniques, rules, and lingo of pua dating, you don't have the Mindset yet because you're lost in this one girl. You're gonna read into every little thing way too much, and you're going to fret over whether or not to contact her or invite her out. Meanwhile she's happily continuing on with her life totally oblivious, calling you out for coffee whenever she has a couple of hours spare, rather than actually making time for you.

    This may come off as harsh but someone needed to say this. Whatever she's going through right now she's not into you. Date other girls. Stop chasing this one for a month or two and reconnect later.

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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    Interesting take Essential, but turns out you missed the boat a bit since she was in my bed until 3am last night talking about how she wanted to introduce me to her parents.

    Thanks for your thoughts though.

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    Default Re: MASTER PUA NEEDED, ex kills 3rd date

    Quote Originally Posted by -Ninja- View Post
    Interesting take Essential, but turns out you missed the boat a bit since she was in my bed until 3am last night talking about how she wanted to introduce me to her parents.

    Thanks for your thoughts though.
    Nice one! In that case totally ignore me. Haha.


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