I've had some successes with this HB9.5, but ultimately failure. Here's my situation...
This girl is 20 and I'm 35, normally I wouldn't touch a relationship with a girl that young, but she's mature for her age, gorgeous, athletic and driven, which I like. In fact, I've had better conversations with her than many women closer to my age.
I've spent a lot of time gaming this girl in my volleyball class and over facebook and built interest over a 4-6 week period. We finally set-up date #1 and I told her to meet me downtown and that I would take care of the rest.
I met her at her car and we walked to a coffee shop a couple blocks away. Conversation was good and I walked her to a restaurant for dinner. The restaurant I chose has crappy desserts, which gave me the opportunity to invite her back to my place for dessert. My original plan was to get my fire pit started and roast some smores with her, but it started to rain. She came over anyway because she dug the idea and we cooked the smores over my gas range indoors, which by the way proved to be a killer first date...there was plenty to laugh about and it was easy to Kino. We stayed in the kitchen for the most part and then I offered to show her a dvd of me during one of my belt tests in jiu jitsu. I could tell she was turned on by it, but about half an hour later she got called into work. As she was leaving my house I stopped her at the door and kclosed. I know it felt good to her because she thanked me and squeezed my hand before she left.
I waited until the morning and told her how much fun I had even though she didn't know how to cook marshmallows and we went back and forth a bit. I waited until the next day to tell her I was taking her out for dinner and a movie the next night. I know some guys on here don't like movie dates, but I'm totally into them. You can kino escalate all over the place. She was down and didn't bat an eye.
She met me at my house and I drove us to the park. We walked around a bit and decided on a restaurant to go to. I know many of the employees at the restaurant she chose so she was impressed when everyone was so friendly towards me. Dinner went well and we went to Star Trek immediately after. I noticed on FB that she "liked" the Star Trek FB page so I knew it would be a good choice. As soon as we sat down I pushed up the seat arm between us and grabbed her leg. From then on I escalated kino throughout the evening. When we got back to my house everything felt awesome and I kclosed again for awhile in my driveway.
Honestly, at this point I thought I was in. Two awesome dates, great energy and chemistry...I was on cloud nine.
Here's where I failed...
A couple days passed and I invited her out Thursday night...she said she might be working for someone else at her work so I texted and asked her about Memorial day the following Monday. She said she wasn't working, but on call for 24 hours. I immediately felt like I might be coming off needy, but wasn't extremely worried about it because of how the dates had gone. That same night I realized a Fall volleyball class I'd signed up for was about to fill up so I sent her a head's up text letting her know she should sign up if she was interested, she never texted back. It was at this point that I began feeling like I'd made a major mistake and had come across needy and too intense so the next day I didn't text her at all. I saw her at school once and she had a picture of my nephew that had fallen out of my wallet and into her purse during the movie, already in her hand ready to give it to me. She seemed genuinely excited to see me, but she had a test and had to leave quickly. Like I said, that day I didn't text her, but that evening I checked my phone before going to bed around 11pm and she had texted me at 10pm, "Hey, I hope you had a great day ". I texted back thanks and asked her how her test went, but I'm guessing she was already asleep. She returned my text before 9am the next morning and we went back and forth for an hour or so.
Throughout the next day I couldn't get her off of my mind, I didn't know if she was or wasn't interested and I was definitely into my head way too much. I couldn't control myself and I texted her and told her, "Sunday night, me and you at my place...I'm cooking you dinner". About half an hour later she texted, "I'm on call Sunday and I'd hate to get called into work after you go to all that trouble. I was pretty frustrated and I kind of lost my cool. I sent her this stupid text..."So, I'm starting to think I might be bothering you since you haven't given me any other options to hang out. I know you're a working girl and I respect that, I'm busy too. If you're not feeling it just let me know."
She responded about an hour later with this,"You are not bothering me at all, I surprised myself by liking you actually...the last several months I've been hooked on someone that does nothing but play head games with me. I'm working on closing that door but I feel guilty starting something with you while I still have one partially open. But I'm working on it."
Obviously it sucked to read that, I was frustrated, but new I shouldn't write anything back immediately and I definitely shouldn't talk sh1t about the dude so I waited to text back until the evening. I responded with what feels like another dumb text. "It's all good, I understand. You're trying to affect positive change in your life, which isn't easy and takes time. Youre in the middle of a personal evolution. I can't say I'm not bummed, I felt a potential with us I haven't felt in awhile, but one thing I've learned over the years is timing is everything. Don't worry about vball class it won't be awkward, we're adults right?
At this point I'd decided to ice her until I could win back some control. She texted about half an hour later, "Timing is everything, it will be kind of awkward when you get your ass kicked by a girl ". Her text was in reference to vball because we'd been poking fun at who was better for a long time. I didn't text back and when I was in vball class today I pretty much just ignored her and tried to seem as Alpha and popular with everyone else as I could.
My plan is to just continue icing her and she either comes back around when she gets things figured out or she doesn't, but I'm really wondering how to play it if she texts me or tries to talk with me. I feel like I should just play uninterested and stay aloof, but I'd like some more exact and precise ideas for how to proceed when she contacts me? Thanks.