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    Default How do busy people keep a relationship?

    How do two people with full-time jobs start a relationship?

    I met this girl. We really like each other and text a lot every day but rarely get to meet up. In fact, we've only seen each other twice in two months. The problem is she often only gets one day off per week. Weekdays she'll work until 7pm each night and to take public transit to meet me, it would be about 8pm by then (and even I'm pretty tired by this point of the day).

    But is this what normal people do? I'm not used to dating people with full-time jobs. Even though I'm 28, I'm used to dating flexible girls (IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN! Hahaha… okay, I'll be quiet), so they'd come see me whenever I was free and so we'd get to spend a lot of time together. But how are you meant to build a relationship when you both work all week long? Maybe I've just been spoiled until now. Should I be putting an effort into us seeing each other week nights, even though we're both kinda tired?

    Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you handle it?

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    Default Re: How do busy people keep a relationship?

    I dated a girl who lived 1.5 hours away from me. It was tough but we saw eachother when we had the time. Typically on a weekend. We dated for about 3 years.

    I am now dating a girl who lives about an hour away, but we make time... If you care, and especially if she does, time will find itself.

    If one or the other person isn't investing that effort, then it won't work. It will become a burden and it will make the person feel overwhelmed by the other person.

    It's a reallllll tricky spot to get into when it ends up like that because the resentment the person feels will kill the relationship. However, if you like her, and she likes you, an hour or two to hang out and have a drink isn't a bad thing. I am not saying you or she has to bend over backwards to meet up, but make it casual. Make it fun. Then you will see more time coming in because you just end up being able to make time for that person.

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    Default Re: How do busy people keep a relationship?

    I once dated a girl that lived 2.5 hours away and even in another country I drove down on the weekends or she drove up to me. During the week we would have Skype dates, I find those better than talking on the phone or through text because you can actually see the person.

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    Default Re: How do busy people keep a relationship?

    Truthfully, the key for all of life is that you will make time for those things that matter to you.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: How do busy people keep a relationship?

    I had a serious GF that lived 4 hours away in another city. At the time I was in college and working a 20 hours a week part time job. I would drive down for a weekend a couple times a month and she didn't have a car so she would have to take a bus to come up and visit me. Basically if the commitment and interest are there, you will find a way to make it work.

    Right now being in a serious relationship with someone that lives more than 45min away doesn't interest me. That could change in the future, but right now I'm not in that head space. I still date women from out of town, but there is no commitment between us.

    It really comes down to whether you have the energy for it because these types of relationships are a lot of work. Definitely not impossible though! Cheers!


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