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    Default Help with response..

    Need help with reply... I know she is going through a few family issues... But I have not spoken to her about it..

    She: how was your day?
    Me: the usual , a few meetings.. How was your day?
    She: it was okay.
    She : not in the greatest mood right now.

    How do I respond to this ? Any help would be appreciated. I don't want to ask about the situation..but I want her to know i am there to listen and give advise but I don't want to be direct about it

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    Tricky. You have to reply, else you come off as insensitive. But it can lead to the friendzone very easily.

    I would probably go with "Wanna talk about it?", good balance of interest but not too much. No "you know I'm here for you", which is too needy.
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    Very rough situation.

    Girls like this (in my experience), tend to either be doing 1 of two things.... they are either in a tough spot, or... they are seeking attention (and I know that seems harsh to say, but it does happen).

    It's like people who post on FB stuff like, "fml" or , "things just can't get any worse."
    It's a cry for attention. If someone's life was seriously so wrong and things were so bad, facebook maybe isn't the place to post it... I know she isn't saying this on fb to you, so it's a different situation.

    Some girls do just like that attention they get knowing a guy is there. It's a friend zone thing. But... not replying would be insensitive.

    I tend to stray away from bringing things up like that. I figure, if she wants to talk about it, she will tell me. I know women love to beat around the bush about everything, but if you want to tell me, tell me.

    So, my approach on issues like this is to be like, "well, I know a guy who is a ton of fun and you should meet up with him, to talk, or just have an awesome time"... or some variation of that. (obviously that "guy" is you)

    This shows a girl that you do care, but you also are giving her the option of not necessarily needing to discuss it if she doesnt want to, but it also makes you seem like an escape if she needs it. It's worked well for me in the past.

    It all depends on the situation she is in. I have no idea what her family problem is, but typically, unless its your girlfriend or someone you have been dating for a while, she'll end up talking about whatever is bothering her to her friends. So be cautious about falling into THAT friend zone.

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    She's not in a good mood, how would you want someone to respond to you if you were feeling down? If you framed it right already that your fun and outgoing, adding in the fact you listen well too shouldn't place you at any sort of lower value. If anything, it shows your a much more emotionally sound person, placing you at higher value. Once you understand how she is feeling you can start picking her up, she'll feel more connected to you.

    Some active listening here would do wonders, I guarantee it. Start with an open-ender "what's got ya feeling down"

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    Quote Originally Posted by ricky87 View Post
    Need help with reply... I know she is going through a few family issues... But I have not spoken to her about it..

    She: how was your day?
    Me: the usual , a few meetings.. How was your day?
    She: it was okay.
    She : not in the greatest mood right now.

    How do I respond to this ? Any help would be appreciated. I don't want to ask about the situation..but I want her to know i am there to listen and give advise but I don't want to be direct about it
    I would say maybe freeze her out since you don't want to get dragged down into that pit with her. Just leave on a high note "Well nice talking to you then, see ya!" Then do a Freeze Out of a day or 2 and then re-open with something about her feeling better.

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    If your talking to a girl and she's shopping for clothes. She texts sayings

    "I hate being short it limits my range .. "

    How would you respond to that in a flirty way ?

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    Quote Originally Posted by ricky87 View Post
    Need help with reply... I know she is going through a few family issues... But I have not spoken to her about it..

    She: how was your day?
    Me: the usual , a few meetings.. How was your day?
    She: it was okay.
    She : not in the greatest mood right now.

    How do I respond to this ? Any help would be appreciated. I don't want to ask about the situation..but I want her to know i am there to listen and give advise but I don't want to be direct about it

    1/ When a girl asks me how my day is going? It's always, "fantastic, amazing, awesome, great, super" or any other word that makes you look like you are always having fun and having a great day. Girls don't want to hang out with losers who are ALWAYS having bad days or problems in their lives. Girls have enough drama and problems of their own so they don't need to take on any more on behalf of the guy they are dating.

    2/ When she said she felt crappy after SHE asked how you were doing just say, " Hope you feel better soon but I hope it isn't contagious through texting or talking the phone."

    Usually as some others have said the girl wants attention or is using it as a Sh1t Test. Using these 2 ways you dhv. Even when she feels genuinely crappy you are compassionate in an Alpha way.

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    Default Re: Help with response..

    Quote Originally Posted by ricky87 View Post
    If your talking to a girl and she's shopping for clothes. She texts sayings

    "I hate being short it limits my range .. "

    How would you respond to that in a flirty way ?
    1/ Hey you could be a WNBA player who is 6'4" to 6'8". Where do you get clothes for one of those girls? Shoe shopping? I think the only thing that fits with those humongous feet are basketball shoes or clown shoes. Which of those would you want to wear with a sexy dress?

    2/ Some midgets would kill for your tall height.


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