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Thread: Big problem with first dates

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    Default Big problem with first dates

    I excel at online pickups,and phone game I can have a girl giggling in seconds but when I meet up with them I turn into a wuss, its like Im only alpha when Im on the phone or in front of a keyboard. On first dates the Female usually say "wow, you're really quiet" on the most recent date she said these exact words "You're fun online, what happened?" I dont approach women outside the internet sad but is that a huge problem? I never did any day game approaches and Im too young for the night game scene
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    Default Re: Big problem with first dates

    " I dont approach women outside the internet sad but is that a huge problem?
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    Yes it is. The problem with many guys is that they use online dating as a crutch to meet women to overcompensate for the fact that they are awkward with women in the real world. The ladies will figure this out quickly within the first couple of dates. I have accounts on both POF and Tinder but I don't use them all the time. I still go out and meet women at bars and during the day as well. Online dating is a great way to meet women but you shouldn't make it your only avenue. Especially when you're starting out.

    The best profiles and text game aren't going to save you from having bad real world game. You need to work out that awkwardness with women. Keep meeting women online because its good practice meeting up for dates but you should also practice being more social in your day-to-day life. When you go out talk to everyone: The old lady in the produce aisle, the dude behind the deli counter, waitresses, the checkout girls,...etc. Spend more time approaching attractive women during the day as well. Nothing beats real life experience. Cheers!

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    Default Re: Big problem with first dates

    You gotta practice day game approaches. I just met a girl online and had a first date, I was nervous as sh!t because I never really go on that many dates, but there were no awkward pauses because we found things in common and expanded on them. It's all about relaxing and listening and being in the moment. Kissed her that night and I'm seeing her again later. You need to practice day game because then you'll really learn to get over the fear and be a good conversationalist

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    Default Re: Big problem with first dates

    Quote Originally Posted by viruscast View Post
    I excel at online pickups,and phone game I can have a girl giggling in seconds but when I meet up with them I turn into a wuss, its like Im only alpha when Im on the phone or in front of a keyboard. On first dates the Female usually say "wow, you're really quiet" on the most recent date she said these exact words "You're fun online, what happened?" I dont approach women outside the internet sad but is that a huge problem? I never did any day game approaches and Im too young for the night game scene
    Hey man, let me try and help you out. Have you ever had sex before? I'm going to assume you have. You know that feeling you have right after you have sex and put your clothes back on and you feel like a brand new man and everything is good? You want to bottle that feeling up and put it in a jar. I'm being serious. Get a jar and put a Sticki-Note on it that says "Viruscast's Swag Jar". If it were me, I'd take my post-sex piss in the jar and keep it in the fridge and take a sip out of it before I go out but that may be a little extreme for you. Instead, next time you feel really good and confident, go buy some of your favorite soda or whatever. Put that energy into that soda can...I'm being serious. Actually SEE the confidence's aura going into the soda can. Open up the soda can. Pour it in the jar. Sip from the jar before you go out on dates, just a little. Rinse and repeat.

    If you don't like that, ever seen the movie The Boiler Room? If not, Google the scene "act as if boiler room" and click on the YouTube link. You need to learn to act as if. I'm not saying to be cocky either, but to have the self-assured air of a man who knows he's in total control of the situation. If you're not a conversationalist, there's a thread on here somewhere about how to talk to girls. I'm using a shitty old computer right now and the saved link is not with me but remember FORD (family, occupation, recreation, dreams) not RAPE (Religion, something, politics, something) if you can't find the other thing. That should at least get you started. Best of luck! Urbancowboy out.


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