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    Default Ugh... texting plz holp

    First night

    "Hey this is Tara "

    Me: Hey just got home

    Her: Me too

    Day two

    Me : Hey there :P

    -- No response from her

    Day three

    Her: Heyy sry I was working when u text me last night! whats up

    Me (phone was off.. 5 hrs later): I just got this now hey

    Her: Whats up

    Me: Hey just hangin at my place what ya doin?

    Her: Not much just working u watchin the heat game?

    Me: Nope just hangin.. whos winnin?

    Her: Heat!!! Whoo hooo
    her: U dont watch basketball

    Me: Only when I'm goin out thou
    Me: do you have any plans tomorrow

    Her: Oh okay! Lol
    Her: Just gym & work

    Me: You wanna meet up with me tomorrow nite after work?


    No respone yet (not worried) but I know my text game is horrible compared to my verbal game.
    I'm decent at verbal game, great at escalating, but my text game is weak.

    Honestly, I just try to text to push for a meetup I'm not really trying to build comfort or anything obviously but I think I could have my way with most women if I can get the meet up.

    I want younger and hotter always, so I need my text game ON POINT.

    Pointers appreciated
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    Default Re: Ugh... texting plz holp

    You're texting her like one of her texting buddies that she doesn't make anything of it. ( you can do better!! You're a PUA!!)
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Ugh... texting plz holp

    You're putting too much stress on yourself right now because you are working towards an end goal. You are focusing too much on the future instead of the now. Just enjoy the conversation you are in at the moment, not the one that you think you will have tomorrow. Don't text her because you are strategically trying to get her to go out with you. It causes you to lose your naturality, which in turn causes you to lose her. Just trust me when I say that by focusing on the now and enjoying yourself, you will not only enjoy this venture more, but you will also have more success as well.

    As for the technical details, I can give you a few tidbits.

    First off, you are texting her too much. Don't text her so many days in a row. Unless she initiates first within the time span, shake things up by going two or three days between conversations. Now you shouldn't do that all the time. It's alright to text her back to back days. However, it's not recommended that you do it all the time.

    Secondly, the flow of this entire thing is nearly dead. On the first day, you basically said hello and then left. Second day, you sent the same opener, and the third day you killed a potential conversation tangent with an opener. A rookie move, and it amounts to no variety. If there's anything that I hear women complain about the most, it's when a person sends them a hello, and then does not proceed to carry out a conversation with them. If you begin the shot, then you have to carry it through.

    In addition, although you try to add emotion to your texts through emoticons, they seem incredibly boring. They are the typical jargon I would see from any amateur, and it doesn't interest me in the slightest way. As you go from Day 1 to the end of Day 3, you can clearly see she lost a load of interest. The emoticons stopped coming, the texts became blander and blander, it was just heading towards the crap chute by the time you asked her out. When you are texting someone, it is critical that you make it interesting. Flirt with her, get the conversation going onto weird and wild tangents, be that guy that isn't like the rest.

    I would recommend to go around on the forums and check out the threads on text game. Fortunately, our one and only hyp has compiled all the best text threads and posts on the forums into one thread that can be found here.
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    Default Re: Ugh... texting plz holp

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    You're texting her like one of her texting buddies that she doesn't make anything of it. ( you can do better!! You're a PUA!!)

    NO
    my name should be switched to "South florida AFC" lmao jk ..


    @ Swagman

    Damn you right. Whenever I do well with the ladies it is when I'm in the moment. The conversation did go to crap but I was just pushing for a meetup.. is this bad?

    I know my texting needs more emotions, and yes I do supplement with the emote icons because they do lack emotions.

    I'll check out the link you left me in the morning I did read GnG texting guide which is where I got that "hey there :P" opener lol

    yes also the "what ya doin"

    So yes it was the same opener, good eye

    Hopefully I'll be pullin some more numbers 'been lazy lately so feel free to help me out if you see another thread I start

    Also follow up on the convo

    Her: "Well it's my friends bday tom so were all going out to celebrate afterwards"

    (I just asked her if she had plans lol >.<)

    Me: Oh that sounds fun! Ok well maybe we can do something another time.

    Her: Absolutely

    ^meh will push for meetup later obv maybe humpday?

    As far as txting her too much I would't have followed up if she never texted me back the 3rd day.. didn't invest too much really.
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    Default Re: Ugh... texting plz holp

    Her: "Well it's my friends bday tom so were all going out to celebrate afterwards"

    (I just asked her if she had plans lol >.<)

    Me: Oh that sounds fun! Ok well maybe we can do something another time.

    Her: Absolutely
    I would have not sent that message to her. It looks like you are qualifying yourself by backing off and saying to her that what she is doing is, in fact, fun. I know it's confusing to think about like this, and it actually comes from David DeAngello. If you check out his lecture series on humor and sexual escalation, then it becomes easier to understand. In addition, the "maybe we can do something another time" is a typical response that will get rejected and ignored. You would have been better off questioning, teasing, and flirting with her about the party itself.

    To give you some examples, here are some that I would have sent:

    • A night at {Strip Club name}, that sounds fairly interesting
    • Be careful! I think you might be one of those girls that gets drunk after two shots
    • Please, it's not a party without me. I think it's more appropriate to call it a "Birthday Formal"


    I would actually recommend that you start reading humor and getting ideas of what to do. I like to read the articles on Smosh.com, and David DeAngelo's series on Cocky Humor is giving me some really good insight. Look into both of those to help out your text game!
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