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    Sigmund is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Petite cutie brush off

    Evening gentlemen,

    So last night I was at a popular bar/hotel in Brisbane for a big Sunday night thing for the Queen's B'day holiday. Anyways I met this HB 9 chick (I'll call her Z for now) and started chatting to her. She then said she was moving on and offered me her phone number. I wasn't sure whether she meant for me to call her later that night or the next day but I did message her about an hour later to see if she was still at this place.

    Bumped into her again and then she said she wanted me to buy her a drink (stupid of me to be all like "yeah sure" but she then gave me money from her friend which covered my drink too). She was being a bit stand off-ish when I was standing with her and her friends. We then went to move off somewhere else and in the process I got separated from her with her housemate. So then her housemate and I spent the next 30 mins trying to get back with her (the place was packed so hence it took so long). Her HM was reassuring me saying that Z thought I was cute and that she and Z's other friend (gay male) were really hoping that she'd go home with me.

    -By the way, this HM chick was a champion so the 30 mins with her wasn't all bad, however she was like HB sub-4 so wasn't go to try it on with her instead.-

    So it turns out however that some dude the Z had history with, albeit rocky, had just turned up and that she was a bit messed up because of that. The HM told me this but said not to worry to much. Me and HM finally found Z but straight away HM said to me "nup, not going to happen". Bit disappointed but tried not to show it. Gave HM and the gay mate a hi-5 because they were both pretty cool and I thought it might show that I was indifferent to what was going through Z's head. Then I just bailed.

    So after that longwinded preamble, my question is this: I still have her number; do you think it's worth my attempts to maybe send her message during the week? and if so, what would be my best way to do it? Maybe something funny to put a smile on her face so that she possibly will regret having flaked on me.

    If you've read this, thank you and I would really appreciate any advice.

    Cheers.

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    Default Re: Petite cutie brush off

    Didn't get any feedback but I thought I'd give this a go anyway; nothing to lose anyway.

    It's been like 3 days since I saw her and haven't had any contact...

    Me 1:58pm - Howdy! Hope you haven't been distracting any more ping-pong players this week. (personal joke about how we started talking the other night).

    Later

    Her 4:45pm - Haha I save that skill for my drunken nights

    Me 7:34pm - No offence sweetie but my drunkeness might of played a part in it too :P

    I don't feel like this has given her much too feel all high and mighty about seeing as how I've texted her first, hopefully she gets a giggle out of my neg too. Just have to wait and see how it goes.

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    Default Re: Petite cutie brush off

    To answer your question at the start of the thread, it might be a no go. Luck wasn't on your side, so for reasons out of your control (the ex walking in and killing the mood) the conversation ended on a low instead of a high. Generally you will get a much better second interaction with her if the night ended on a high. Your strategy at the end with the high fives and play of indifference may have done a bit to raise the bar. For that, I consider it well played.

    Now, as to what you sent her, excellent job with the opener! First time I've seen a rookie actually do the right thing first. You referenced back to a funny moment in the night, and it gets her thinking about the fun moments of the night, instead of the downhill end. Once again, well played.

    Now this is where you lag a bit. Your response to her was not a neg. I would consider it more so a slightly humorous defense. Never try to do a neg. negs are dangerous, and they can easily end in failure if not used correctly. Always aim to try and flirt with her. Flirting is safer, and it does not yield any of the negative consequences that a neg would.

    I would say your next approach, depending on what she texts back, is to try to carry the conversation into a new tangent. Ask her how her day was or something, and then joke around with that and go further. However, I would not approach this as if you are safe to go just yet. You are still in that gray area because of the previous interaction. Play this safe, and keep your head on straight.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Petite cutie brush off

    Cheers mate. I thought I was just trying to Disarm her a bit rather than playing the ol' fall into her lap card. She seems to know what she's doing though and started to turn it back to her side. I sort of didn't get quality responses from her so I left it after one of her final short response messages and didn't bother replying.

    My plan is to leave it alone today and reinitiate on Friday. Might start with something like "Hey you, feeling more talkative today? I'll help you out; what have you been up to today?"

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    Default Re: Petite cutie brush off

    Quote Originally Posted by Sigmund View Post
    Cheers mate. I thought I was just trying to Disarm her a bit rather than playing the ol' fall into her lap card. She seems to know what she's doing though and started to turn it back to her side. I sort of didn't get quality responses from her so I left it after one of her final short response messages and didn't bother replying.

    My plan is to leave it alone today and reinitiate on Friday. Might start with something like "Hey you, feeling more talkative today? I'll help you out; what have you been up to today?"
    No, don't do that. That's the best way to tick her off and get her to not respond. She doesn't have any obligation to invest anything in you. No man or woman does (unless you are their boss, that is). Your best bet is to just forget about it. Your first interaction in text was well played and correct, but that didn't do anything. As I said before, this is most likely because the conversation ended on a low. Don't blame her, and don't blame yourself, you did everything right. Like I stated, luck just wasn't in your favor. Sorry bud
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    Default Re: Petite cutie brush off

    Word.
    Cheers man, I'll just chuck her number in the trashpile, I think that it will still benefit me in learning how to not get too caught on possible leads and reinforce that indifferent alpha attitude I'm going for.


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