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Thread: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

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    Default Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    Hi, I`m a newb so please bear with me.

    I had a great date with a girl. Talked for hours and drank beer. Kissed for a few secs, but she has been dealing with another dude for some time, so I`m not sure if she got bad conscience or what kind of feelings she has for him. She said he was a bit boring, but she`s fond of him.
    We agreed on meeting soon again.

    So I f...d up two days later by texting, coming across as too eager. She answered first message and wanted to meet next week, but my second message was met with silence. (these texts were prolly a bit AFC) Two days later I texted: Hey! Cinema on thursday? - No answer....

    But today she "liked" a post I made on FB that showed some social proof. Linking to a newspaper writing about my music. Got many likes from girls on it.

    So my question is (sorry for this long post guys): Is she by "liking" friend zoning me or keeping the door open?
    Should I contact her again in a week maybe?

    Thanks for your patience!

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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    She's not interested in you. The "like" didn't mean a thing other than "I like it.". Start flirting with her.

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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    You can still possibly get her, but she's not showing any interest right now. From here on out, no more AFC messages. Freeze her out for a little bit, and then call or text her. Flirt with her for a short period of time then get off. Then the next time after that you'll ask her out again. Don't get your hopes way too high though. If it's a no from there never talk to her again (or at least for awhile). Post the AFC messages.

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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    Well Jesus, all these guys here are beating me to the punch! Agree with both of them to an extent. I say an extent because I believe you should just get rid of her number right now. Early on in the interaction, a mistake can lead to the death of everything. If you are in a relationship, or things are super intimate, an off moment won't be that detrimental.

    However, given the fact that this is only the second conversation, I don't think you have much of a chance with reviving things with this girl. I would also be interested in seeing the texts though. Although things may be too damaged to save this girl, there's always learning for the next one.
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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    Thanks for the replies guys.
    Here are the AFC messages translated:

    Two days after date:
    Me:
    Hey! Got any plans tomorrow?

    Her:
    Hey! Yes tomorrow I do have something actually. But I have time in the week.
    Did you have fun at the summer party yesterday? (I went to a summer party with my job)

    Me:
    Yes was real fun actually. Ended up in a karaoke bar. Did you do anything fun?
    Then we`ll do something in the week. Any days that are bad for you?

    NO REPLY

    two days later
    Me: Hey! Wanna join in on xxxxxxx on thursday? (movie we talked about seeing together)

    NO REPLY

    Then two days later, the FB like, which she rarely does.

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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    Here's a better text. "I had too much fun! I couldn't escape it. We even ended up at a..... Forget it. I know you must have been bored doing whatever it is you do."

    This would have piqued her interest. Then after a couple of exchanges you bring taking her out up. "I'm pretty busy this week, but may have some time on (day)." Then judge based off her response. If she says ok, then either stop texting or change the subject. Then the next day hit her with something like, "There's a bucket of popcorn with our name on it. (Movie name) looks (verb)! Ex: This is the End looks hilarious! (Day) at (time). Thursday at 7."

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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    Thanks lilsting! Good stuff.

    How long would you wait to make contact again? A week ok? A month? We actually hang out in some of the same bars, so I might run into her. Is that a better option?

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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    I would wait a month before re-initiating. Usually, I have discovered that with some girls it's just easier to wait long enough to the point of where they forget after you screw up. Take your time to develop your skills and really advance them, and then once it comes back around time to hit her up again, do so with some more experience under your belt.

    As to the bar, if you see her, say hello and then move on. Nothing more. Focus on other women, and you will quickly forget about her. Trust me.
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    Default Re: Am I being friend zoned or is she keeping the door open?

    Quote Originally Posted by MrOcto View Post
    Thanks lilsting! Good stuff.

    How long would you wait to make contact again? A week ok? A month? We actually hang out in some of the same bars, so I might run into her. Is that a better option?

    Mate, forget her. You're not able to spark her interest in you actually, because you fucked up. Do as swagman says and sarge other girls, or befriend this girl.

    She's not replying your texts, what else do you need?

    Develop your abilities and only then, if you really want, reinitiate with this girl, but not before.
    Best of luck!


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