EVERY girl on EVERY dating site gets bombarded with messages by hundreds of guys... Especially the really hot girls.
And the guys who are able to get them to reply at all, have to be prepared for a lot of tests that most likely will be thrown their way.
I'm putting together a new book that will be available sometime in the near future... but I wanted to share one little segment with you now.
*A little background info-
I'm getting close to turning 43 yrs old..... and THIS girl is 31 & Definitely a solid 9!
I decided to message her for research purposes (knowing I'm almost 12 years older than she is) Because I'm sick of hearing guys complain about being too old to get really hot, younger women!
(Stop putting those types of limiting beliefs on yourself!!!)
Here is the message exchange I had with her:
(Pay attention to the several sh!t tests she throws at me, right from the beginning. Most of them are little ones, but she did drop a MAJOR one during the interaction....)
Hey There nerd-ball… ;-)
So, I'm reading your profile & you sound like a super-normal, regular, next door neighbor
sort of woman.
However; your pictures capture an unmentioned quality about you...
Something in your eyes gives away the fact that you're a bit spunky/sassy. There's a more
upbeat, playful, adventurous side that you didn't describe, but it's totally noticeable.
By the way, I'm Mark.
I hope you're having a fantabulous Wednesday.
I know not of this "spunk/sass" you speak of... My day is pretty enjoyable, considering the goofs I work with.
My Follow-up Message:
Ohhhh, deny it all you want, but I'm not buyin' it.
I'm thinking you're probably "queen goof" & have been known to play some pranks from time to time.
Again, it's all assumption but I have a feeling you're quite experienced in that aspect.
Anyway, I'm sure you're supposed to be "working" so you should probably quit messing around & get back to it.
Her Reply: (*MAJOR Sh!t test!!)
I walk around and point a lot. It's not that taxing. What kind of freaky weird business are you in anyway? Selling plastic vomit and novelties? It's either that or sex trafficking.
I do play pranks, A LOT. My favorite is just the classic sneaking up and scaring people. Because of that, I enjoy jumpy friends.
My Follow-up Message:
Oh yes, jumpy friends are always a great source of entertainment. I applaud your efforts.
"Sex trafficking" is such a harsh term don'tcha think?
I prefer to call it "People Moving". It has a much nicer ring.
Besides, my choices were THAT, or being a freelance mortician; and believe me... it isn't nearly as glamorous as it sounds. (It's such a dead-end job too)
I kinda halfway sorta dated a guy once that removed dead bodies from the scene of their death. I thought it was so freaking interesting, but he didn't like talking about it. Kind of like 'Nam I guess. Makes my job sound incredibly boring.
My Follow up:
"Kinda sorta halfway dated"....
I'm sure he'd be THRILLED to hear it put like that. LOL!
I would have to agree, walking around & pointing doesn't sound very exciting. You should really beef up your job description; embellish a bit if you must. Make it sound a lot jazzier.
Anyway, what I ACTUALLY do, really is a little more interesting than a "typical job"... I'm a dating / relationship coach. Yep. For real. I teach Relationship Psychology / Social Dynamics.
And, if you've ever seen that Will Smith movie "Hitch" that's a fairly accurate depiction. (Betcha wouldn't have guessed that one...)
Wow! That is freakin cool!
*Note- I had a hunch this was another potential sh!t test / sarcastic response, so I played it casually just in case she was actually genuinely intrigued. But I also decided to throw in a little playful smart-ass remark at the end, in y next message to her...
Yeah, it’s a pretty fun gig. But, I have to admit that I’m always surprised just how bad/ clueless most guys are!! LOL!
But I manage to help them out. (Which greatly benefits women like YOU…)
Her Reply: (With another minor Sh1t Test)
I see, said the blind man.
But women like me do your job for FREE. :P
LOL! Touche’ bratty-pants!!
You’re like a nut, wrapped in a goofball & covered in crazy sauce!
mmmm… sounds good. I’ll have that.
That’s actually the special of the day… Would you like the lunch size portion, or the full meal?
Her next Reply: (a couple hours later.. and after looking at my profile & photos again)
Your long hair in that one pic is wicked cool. Then again, I have a huge weakness for long hair...
Why didn't you mention that a few years ago, before I cut it? (Dork!!)
What's wrong with you girl??
I suppose I could buy one of those "Hannah Montana" wigs & revive that look...
Do they still sell those things?
Tell ya what, you keep your eyes peeled... and if you happen to stumble across one, hook a brotha up!!
You got it!
*Since this interaction, we have exchanged direct email addresses. I told her we would talk “digits” later… as to express non-neediness & to make her wonder why I’m not asking for her number yet, (which is working nicely.) She’s emailed me several times & is asking about meeting up.
So, there you have it!
A guy in his 40's CAN attract younger, hot women!
But just know, you're pretty much guaranteed to receive several tests... so don't be a chump & blow it when they come!