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Thread: Need Some Advice!

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    Default Need Some Advice!

    Here's the story, friends.

    Have been talking to this girl for about two months now, and we were almost to the point of being in a relationship. Well, last Saturday I was at a party and I hooked up with one of our mutual friends (my though process was that because we aren't in a relationship, I was doing no wrong).

    Now, this girl uses twitter regularly (think of twitter as a social network using only facebook statuses), and, on sunday, she posted some things that made it look like she found out what happened. So, some mutual friends shot her some texts saying," Oh, so I guess you found out then?" and some things like that.

    So, the same day we're texting and I ask her when she's free, and she says," I'm free Wednesday if you tell me what really happened last weekend." (Keep in mind, I do really like this girl so I thought it was best to just be honest). So, I go to her house Monday morning and we talk about it and the conversation goes as so.

    Me:I really like you, and that's the only reason I'm telling you this, but me and (girl) hooked up last weekend.

    Her: I don't know what to say, it's not that big of a deal because we're not dating.

    Me: I get that, but I just wanted to let you know before you found out from someone else. (Which was inevitable, same group of friends etc.)

    Her: It's fine, really.

    We set the date Wednesday and kissed goodbye. Now, I had this uneasy feeling where I knew things weren't going to go that well, and turns out I was right. Later that day she texted me and cancelled Wednesday, offering no explanation other than she couldn't make it (Which was odd because any other time she couldn't make it she gave a valid explanation and apologized several times).

    So, my question is, where do I go from here? I feel like I went super AFC when I confessed, and that ruined all of my chances. I understand that we're probably over but is there anything I can do to salvage this situation?

    Any help is appreciated, I apologize in advance for super long post!

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    Default Re: Need Some Advice!

    I don't think telling her was the issue, but more in HOW you told her. It sounded like you were almost apologizing for it. Uh uh.

    First off, I don't like airing my dirty laundry. If she had asked me then I would simply tell her that it's my business what I do with my dating life. Not in a complete douchebag way, mind you. But you could also tell her that it's too early to discuss such things.

    Nonetheless you'd probably have to tell her anyways because of all the mutual friends you have. But you shouldn't be apologetic about it.

    From here I think you should just let her work through it on her own. Without your interference. It obviously bothered her. Let her get over it and don't make it worse by trying to apologize in order to get things back on track. Girls get mad sometimes at what we do. So what. She'll get over it eventually. Hit her up in a week and see what she's up to.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Need Some Advice!

    Ok, before I say anything else, what did you have on mind when you said 'you hooked up' did you just meet with her? slept with her?
    English is my second language

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    Default Re: Need Some Advice!

    Thanks for the advice, Batman! I'll definitely do that.

    Cesar, the other girl and I had sex.


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