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    Default Help with this canceled date text response

    So guys, give me a little advice here so I don't blow this one over the wrong text, as I've done in the past. Its a little long but thanks for reading! The background is that I met this attractive/smart/awesome girl about 2 weeks ago and picked up her number. She texted me the same night with a "It was nice to meet you " obviously showing interest. A day or two later I texted her to set up a date for mid-week (last week), and we set up a time and place for some casual drinks. Went on the date, everything went awesome. Kept it real casual for the first date in this case though (just a nice hug or two, some light verbal flirting), as this is an actual girl I would want to date and didn't want to try to push it too fast. End of the date she jumped up gave me a huge hug, and said ďso Iíll see you again soon?Ē again showing continued interest. I texted her the same night saying ďI like you, you seem fun. We should definitely get together again next weekĒ and she responded back ďyea for sure!Ē.

    I let her be for a few days over the weekend as I was camping with friends and she was busy with hers, but texted her the following Monday about getting together again this week. Hereís the text string.

    Monday:
    Me: So what you got going on this week? I was thinking walk around Summerfest for a bit one of the nights, like maybe Wednesday
    Her: I was going to say that is the only night I might be able to after work.. It kind of depends on how much I need to unpack and homework I have (she just moved over the weekend)
    M: Ok, yea it would be fun. Thereís a little shuttle from my house that works awesome to get there and Iíve got free tix left
    H: Ok well can we play it by ear? I donít want to say I can and then have to cancel if it doesnít work :/
    M: Yea for sure, Iíll go either way. Itís just a matter of with you, or other people..
    H: Haha ok sounds good!
    M But congratsÖ since I asked you, your my first pick this time..
    H: Haha well thanks J

    Yesterday evening:
    H: Hey so a couple of my friends wanted me to go to summerfest tomorrow with them too, is that alright if we go and then maybe meet up with them later? I should be able to go because I got a lot of stuff done today
    M: Hey, oh ok sweet. Yea thatís cool should be fun
    H: Ok cool I work until 7 so where should I meet you?
    M: Want to just park over by my house and we can walk up to that shuttle?
    H: Sure sounds good! Ill text you tomorrow when Iím at work

    This morning:
    H: So Iím really sorry to do this and I didnít want to but I canít go tonight anymore I have so much studying to do and I already know that I wonít be able to do much this weekend :/ maybe we can try and meet up next week? It should be a little less hectic then

    I have yet to respond. I know a lot of people may say ďdonít text backĒ but I kind of feel like a Jerk. But at the same time I donít want to go super wussy. Suggestions on a response?

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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Why would people say to not text back?

    I would write something like:
    Ooh you poor thing I feel sorry for you because we both know hanging out with me is a total blast . Hang in there and try to be strong for both of us!

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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Truthfully! If she has a genuine reason for canceling than it's cool. Just don't be needy and be like " F u, I thought we had something, I liked you but I guess you rather do homework than hang with me". Lmao DO NOT DO THAT. Just tell her you understand and that's that.
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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Go to summerfest anyway, have fun, take pictures of you with girls, and send them to her with "it was so much fun, met awesome people, hope you managed your studying!", and voila
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Trying to make the girl jealous is a bad idea and might mess up the attraction.
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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Quote Originally Posted by Mikalichov View Post
    Go to summerfest anyway, have fun, take pictures of you with girls, and send them to her with "it was so much fun, met awesome people, hope you managed your studying!", and voila

    Yes, "hey! look at me bragging about me having fun! yes, look at me! you didn't go on a date with me, so I'm showing off how cool I am just to make you see that I have a life besides you!".

    Not really. There are many reasons to cancel a date. Either she doesn't have enough comfort with you, enough attraction, she might have something important to do, or something better to do. Either way, invite her again.

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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Yeah, it came off worse that I intended. Point being: go to summerfest anyway, and have fun anyway. Try to genuinely meet new people, and tell her in a non-sarcastic way it was too bad she missed it because of her studies, and you hope she did well

    Basically, make her realize that she would have had fun if she were with you without being a d1ck about it, and she will want more to be with you the next time
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    Lol in a girl's mind it'll come of as bragging and him trying to make her jealous.( meet new people if you want but just keep it simple when you text her). " the fest was awesome, next time No excuses you're going with me!!"
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    Default Re: Help with this canceled date text response

    She seems genuinely in to you dude. Don't stress about her cancelling, I know from experience that I've had to cancel on girls because of studying, it shows that she's committed to her studies which is something you can use (compliments, etc).

    Also, when girls cancel, it all comes down to how you handle it. I had a girl cancel a casual meeting once (she said she forgot about a commitment to a friend she had made) but instead of flipping out and getting pissed about it, I just said "no problems" and then put the ball in her court by making her plan the next meeting. That obviously makes them invest more and is a subtle way of making them truly commit. I did this with this girl that cancelled and it ended up being the best date I'd ever been on.


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