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    Question Communication problems, GF not listening

    We are in long distance relationship with my GF. Everything is ok, except she talks way too much about herself. Sometimes when I ask something, I have to ask/say same thing about 10 times that she answers or remembers the thing. She talks always about herself instead of me when we are having conversation.

    When she is with her friends she only talks about me. She really likes me.

    I told about the problem that she talks too much instead of paying attention to me. Always... Instead of constructive disscussion she starts to "Im so shit GF!" After that she has to "calm down" alone or she changes subject. It leads to nothing. We simply cannot talk constructively if I say something negative feedback she goes butthurt and starts selfblame.

    Should I totally freeze up when she starts to talking about herself and she ain't listening? How am I able to make her listen and to think things constructively what I've said? Is there any way to speak about negative things without butthurt?

    What should I do for better for constructive conversation and listening?

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    Default Re: Communication problems, GF not listening

    she talks way too much about herself.
    This is not bad.depends though.when a girl likes a guy on some level she may get comfortable and start talking a bit.there are a few girls when they are aroused sort of they get talking and taking over the threads.This would reflect on lengthier inputs from the other party.

    When she is with her friends she only talks about me. She really likes me.
    Woah man how did you know .Yep she seems to like you on some level.

    We simply cannot talk constructively if I say something negative feedback she goes butthurt and starts selfblame.
    Don't take this stage of the relation for granted i think that you run risk of doing that cuz she seems into you.instead keep being the attractive guy.Chill with the name calling, and be very careful the words you say to a woman.esp in your dynamic.words mean a lot to them sometimes. <-- that was for you

    Should I totally freeze up when she starts to talking about herself and she ain't listening?
    She may be using this as a crotch if you are talking about something she isn't really into.if that happens change the subject why?to train yourself to talk to women more.while you get as hang of what they don't mind talking about you will take your calibration to the roof.Then you can decide what you will talk about and not even then you will find more balance.
    Personally i would keep conversation to minimum.but if you will the above should help.your girl sticks around.should have gotten turned off but you can't keep doing this.

    How am I able to make her listen and to think things constructively what I've said?
    It depends on what you are saying.Questioning her about her life, rounds she makes where she has been too much may make her cringe after a while, if you have done that.that said she may just be talking about her self for normal reasons but the part about constructive.. got my attention.

    What should I do for better for constructive conversation and listening?

    explore talking to women.attractive topics are best.talking about dynamics, places you been, films,intersting things that happened to you .getting her to talk about soap operas and giving your input on wht she is saying or simply listening whilst apply progression of touch .In a nutshell don't feel too force to have conversation.minimal ism is sometimes best.


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