Re: Need some serious Help!
I agree with dave_xxx. A relationship requires compromise and sacrifice. If she is not willing to do that then she simply isn't ready and that's neither of your faults.
It would be selfish for her to think she can get her cake and eat it to by going out and partying all the time getting drunk and wanting a healthy monogamous relationship. And it would be unfair to her for you to take those things away when she really isn't ready to settle down even though she thinks she is. Unless you were ok with her doing that. Which I know you're not.
Always keep by your standards. No matter how you feel about her. You will look weak if you let her do things that you absolutely cannot stand and you'd lose her anyways. I personally like to go out and drink with friends and party. But I would not want my gf to do that and I would cut down on my partying for her. It's about what you are NOT willing to tolerate and what are you open to discussing. Maybe she can go out with the girls one night a week or once a month. Compromise. (I actually hate that word lol. But it is required for a relationship to work.)
Honestly I notice when people get together after all the chasing and Tension it then becomes one of those "ok now what?" type of scenarios. It's important to have goals, as a couple, to keep both of you stimulated and excited about the relationship. Plan a trip away together. Take a cooking class together. Allow yourselves to miss each other by not talking for a few days. I mean, you don't have to drive yourself nuts trying to keep things feeling alive. But doing these things once in awhile when you feel things are getting stale is a nice skill to have.
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