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    Hey guys, whatsup. Little background, I've been seeing this girl since April and a few weeks ago we decided we wanted to be exclusive. We're college students living in different cities over the summer until school starts back up (I visit occasionally). We text or talk everyday, and this is something I enjoy and look forward to. However, there have been a couple of instances in which she doesn't get back to me promptly when she could at least say she's busy. Last night, we were on the phone having a good conversation, and she was interrupted and said she'd call right back but didn't. It'd be one thing if she said something came up and she'd call back tomorrow, but leaving me hanging is really obnoxious. Up until now, I always pretend like I don't even notice these things and then everything eventually goes back to normal.

    I want to say something. I want to let her know how annoying it is, and that I'd like her to nor repeat the behavior. However, I don't want to sound like a whiny bitch. My first response would be to ignore her until she contacts me again or text her later and make a joke like "so you were kidnapped right?" But I also don't want to act like I care so little that she keeps doing it. How would you all react? I'm afraid of appearing needy or clingy by saying something, but the behavior is rude.. I don't have much experience communicating issues in relationships. Thanks guyzzz

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    Default Re: communication issues

    Well for one.....sh1t happens. Don't get so wound up. You can't always be in control or be like Burger King and have it your way.

    First, let her contact you and allow her to explain herself. If she does not, then that's a different issue. The issue of consideration.

    If she contacts you without explaining then you want to focus on stating your standards and expectations. No need to argue or attempt to tell her what to do. She is an individual and is allowed to make her own choices. Hopefully part of those choices is respecting you.

    "You know it wasn't cool for you to do that right?" Simple. To the point. When you get the chance, change the subject. If she tries to argue your point DON'T. There's no need to argue about why she should or should not. You know what you want/like/expect. If she doesn't like it then there will be consequences. Mainly her not getting the sweet bf that she is used to talking to.

    I can't stress this enough. NO ARGUING. There is no need. If she seriously tries to argue then tell her you will talk to her later. It will likely mean she is just getting defensive and eventually will get over if as long as you allow her and not interfere. Arguing about it will only make things worse and you will look weak.

    If she does explain why (if she's a good gf she will) then just let her explain and tell her it's fine. Move on and try not to control every little thing in your relationship. Hope this helps and good luck.
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    Default Re: communication issues

    I almost wonder if I accidentally upset her or something. I normally don't ask if I did. But sounds like solid advice. Definitely wait for her to contact me though?

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    Default Re: communication issues

    If you upset her.....so what. Girls get mad. So do we. We eventually get over it right? So will she. I don't really try and NOT get my gf mad. Cause then if she does you'll end up trying to scramble the pieces back together and look foolish. Again, she will start to see you as weak. If she's mad...then let her be. That's part of life and part of a relationship. Sometimes people just get mad.

    Definitely wait for her to contact you. She is the gf. She will eventually.
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