Ok This is my first post regarding success and/or failure with openers in general.
While browsing the forums I saw that many of the people reside in the US, not really a problem but when you consider how people behave in Ireland and then the US it's a fairly wide gap. For example you drive on the wrong side of the road and vice versa.
However I didn't really think about what openers would work until I started talking to Ashley, a woman from Denver staying in my house till august when she told me "It's so weird here, I've been to a few bars since I've been here and not been hit on". She went on to say how people only go to bars to pick up, however in Ireland we go to the bar for the main purpose of craic and pick up isn't a big thing.
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Anyways I thought the same principal would carry over to online dating too and I've tried a few different openers and in the last two days I've gotten some positive feedback.
I don't consider a reply success but follow up messages to my reply a success. For the purpose of this thread I won't be using my real name but replacing it with Foxes
First one that is doing best for me
Hey I just saw your profile and just had to introduce myself, I'm Foxes
Crap... This is the part where I usually put in a joke to lighten the whole mood but right now all I can think of is a really bad knock knock one. First world problems
Quick question though, do you prefer strawberry or vanilla?
Of the five I sent out yesterday I got an 80% response rate and of the four that responded I got conversations from 75% of them and a number off one (Haven't number closed the rest)
Some of the responses I got too.
Her: Ha well hiya I'm sheryl. And strawberry every time ! No one likes anything vanilla
Me: Nice to meet you Sheryl
I thought so, you look like the type of person that likes the sweeter things in life.
You don't like vanilla? even ice-cream?
Her: Nope vanilla is boring so I keep away from it . Need more flavour in life
Me: More flavour in life? Is that what got you into tattoos and art then?
The opener with the second best hit rate for me is(And yes I am aware this is already posted)
I would skip all the internet dating formalities and ask you out for a drink but, as you know, the internet can be a dangerous and murky place. So I have devised some carefully selected vetting questions to ensure my safety:
1. Which is bluer the ocean or the sky?
2. Peanut butter or strawberry jam?
3. Early mornings or late nights?
I've sent this out three times and got a 66% hit rate but of the 66% I got into conversation from both of them, I tried to Number Close one of them, a 25 year old teacher and she thought that I ment "Play another game" and suggested we play the word association game. Fun.
But here's the response from the teacher which I wasn't really prepared for but I do a lot of improvisation in drama college so I got around it quickly and kept the message tempo up
Her: You have thought this through. 1. Neither. 2. PB. 3. Late nights.
Me: Hey you can't be too careful! I once had a Nigerian prince try to sell me antivirus, crafty buggers everywhere!
You prefer peanut butter? Like omg. Ew. And here was me thinking asking these questions were a good idea. Perhaps we can meet in the middle with a chocolate spread option?
Her: Ew no thanks. My chocolate needs to be semi solid! Ha. Lindt ,no?
Me: If it's good enough for the Swiss then maybe it can help us through this peanut debacle. I'm willing to forgive and forget if you are
It was hard to try and work and think at the same time because I kept thinking she was sh1t testing me. It got even more fun(I use that loosely) when I found out she has a bachelors degree in psychology and I did the cube game with her. It got very fun around the time when she asked was "Is this a Freudian personality test?" But still I got past it, she was impressed with the answers and we kept talking until 2am when she wanted to go to sleep and I tried to number close =/
The last successful one(Use that lighty) is simple enough, I might use it to text one of the girls who gave me their number later to start a conversation.
Hello is this 999?
I have an emergency!
I've gotten one hit back from four and of that one her response was "Um ok?" But I had her attention so I rolled with it and said
"It's too late they got away Wait a minute, if you're not a gard, what are you doing answering phones in a garda station?"
her: I don't know it's kinda random. Just sorta woke up here!"
Finally is one that I gather has pissed off more people than it made giggle.
Hey do you cook? I'm looking for somebody to cook and work while I sit at home all day in my underwear and play videogames.
PS I like bacon
So yeah they are just a few of the openers I've tried and the success I've had with them in my area.