Hey everyone. So, I've got a profile on Match, POF, and OKCupid. The profile itself seems to be decent, I'm getting a decent amount of views, but I'm not getting the responses I'd like from women I'm interested in.
I get a lot of women I'm not interested in emailing or winking at me, and even saying how 'refreshing' or 'different' my profile is, but when I email a woman I'm interested in, I'm not getting responses from either a first email or a 'no response' follow-up I send out.
I'm a big fan of Scot McKay, so I've tailored my profile and way of messaging after his. I'm not really into straight up copying & pasting messages, but I'm not opposed to taking something and changing it up or putting my own spin on it.
Anyway, my messages below are in Scot's suggested format. Basically you quote something from her profile and comment on it, make a joke/be witty about it, etc. and then sign off, just creating some intrigue or something for her to respond to.
I think I'm coming up with some good and/or funny stuff, but like I said, I'm not really getting responses. So if anyone can give me some pointers or any advice, I'd appreciate it.
First messages I've sent:
1. QUOTE: "…a late night movie or law and order all-night marathon"
So, who delivers the better one-liners, Lennie or Horatio? [laughs]
I took the quote straight from a part of her profile. Lennie is from Law & Order and Horatio is from CSI: Miami (I figured she'd probably watch that show too). Anyway, I got no response from this.
2. You know, I’m rarely at a loss for words, but you’ve succeeded at giving me absolutely nothing to go on in your profile. [laughs]
Come on… I sense there’s an interesting woman in there somewhere. Let’s hear about her.
I've used this one several times when a woman has very little or nothing interesting in her profile. I've gotten no responses from this one either.
3. OK, curiosity is getting the best of me here. Exactly what species of furry mammal are you and your friend wearing on your heads?
Used this when her and her friend had on strange animal hats. No response.
4. QUOTE: "…I substitute teach and bartend until I teach full time in the fall."
I'd say you're preparing yourself pretty well. You're gonna need to pour yourself a stiff one every night after teaching science to a bunch of highschoolers all day, huh?
Quote was pulled from her profile and she mentioned she had a degree in biology. Nothing from this one either.
5. Ok, let's talk about awesome concerts. You go first...
She mentioned she loved music and live shows. Got nothing from this one.
6. QUOTE: "I love road trips and just having fun!!"
Alright, so let's get creative... My truck is packed up and we're headed out on the road. Where's our destination and what's on the agenda?
No response from this one either.
7. QUOTE:"and my favorite.. laying on the beach with a good book and a cold beer."
As long as it's not Twilight and Michelob Ultra, we can be friends. Haha.
And again, crickets...
8. QUOTE: "Food is pretty much my passion. I love to eat and I especially love to cook."
I've been getting into cooking some interesting things recently. We should have an Iron Chef battle in my kitchen. Haha.
Nothing from this one either.
9. QUOTE:"I double majored in a predominately male career field; so I'm tougher than I look."
Wait, so you're telling me you're a pro wrestler? Have you hit anyone with a chair yet? Haha.
She's a thin little blonde woman, I thought this one was pretty funny, but no response.
My no response follow-up message:
Hey, look. I've noticed that a lot of sharp women online tend to wait for a guy to notice them, and then they wait for them to remember them and email them a second time. I'm one of those guys and this is your second email.
I send this 4-5 days after the first email when they don't respond.
Sorry this is so farking long, but any and all help would be appreciated. Also, my name on POF is: Open-Horizons if you're interested in seeing my profile.