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Thread: HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

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    Default HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

    Hey, guys!

    I have no idea in which direction I should go with this HB.
    Some background:
    We know each other since primary/elementary school. We went to the same secondary school too, then our ways separated.

    After 5 years, during the finals she postet a problem with her Italian final and asked me, if I could help her, although there a plenty colleagues who are as good or even better with the Italian language.

    So our conversations started and are going on till now. I haven't known how to text properly with girls, so there was plenty of q&a and sh1t, but also nice conversations and she often responded with more than a few lines or changed the thread.

    But I have no idea what her intentions are. Friendship or something more. I wouldn't mind friendship, wouldn't mind something more. She also has very much male friends, which some are ex-boyfriends. So she may be a tester (I haven't completed pandoras box yet^^).

    Here are some pieces of conversation, translated from German to English. I don't want to waste something more than friendship, but wouldn't like to destroy a friendship. So it is difficult for rAFCs like me to act properly.

    Conversations:
    me: Someone seems to have a day off?
    Wednesday 16:04
    her: hey nooo i am on sick leave-.-
    me Oh. What happened?
    her: flu-.-
    me: Uh. Get well soon! That's what happens, if you care more for other people than for your own. [note: she's a paramedic]
    her: you have a point there (:
    what's up?
    me: Nothing really worth mentioning^^ If I had gotten my schedule from university already, I would have a sideline [note: secondary job] by now. But nooo I'll get it only after the application closing date xD
    her: oijeee .. what do you want to have as sideline?
    me:Anything that gets me money xD But you cannot apply for a job without knowing your schedule^^

    And what does a paramedic do while being on sick leave? Treat yourself?^^

    her: yeees you have a point there (;
    hhm nothing just lying around -.-
    youu? are you at the lake
    me: No alone it's broing. And that friends of mine who would go with me to the lake are all busy with work, the duty at Austrian Armed Forces or international vacations. But the terrace is nice too. You could listen to music or something?^^
    her: yeees music is on (; if I weren't ill we could go to the lake immediately (;
    me: That's right. Just let me know when you are well again.
    Wednesday 20:18
    me: [sent her a fun post about a b00b adjuster for model shootings]
    Best sideline EVER
    Thursday 12:09
    her: hahahaha (; is this job paid well
    me: I think, I wouldn't give a sh1t about the payment xD
    her: haha (;
    Thursday 18:43
    me: Are you well yet? [note: It is hard to translate from the Salzburger dialect. This sentence is always said with a funny undertone. And always understood as funny.]
    48 minutes ago
    her: no-.-
    me: Oh... But at least you aren't bored anymore? Are you entertained by something?^^
    her: yes sleeping (:
    me: Alone? [note: maybe here I should have winked with ""?]
    her: haha no with my cat

    Every advice for further steps is welcomed
    Last edited by Tow; 07-19-2013 at 06:48 AM. Reason: some typos

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

    109 views and not a single reply from you?

    Do you understand everything I said? Are there rules I broke?
    Just say and I explain/solve the problem. But please respond somebody.

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

    I think your doing pretty well, your flirting and its not AFC, she's flirting back and keeping the conversation going.

    Your escalating into a sexual zone (with the boob adjuster and the sleeping in bed), you just have to set up a meet up.

    If you dont care about getting sick maybe say you just found the awesome cure all chicken noodle soup that heals you in a day, and you've got to go over to administer it to her. Then you can Kino, escalate, and go in for the kill.

    Or wait until she's better and hang out on the lake together.

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

    Thanky for your answer.
    The problem is, that my AFC-mind always thinks she is just nice or she just says things like she wanted to meet me at the lake.^^
    Do you get my point?

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

    One good rule to follow when learning these skills is ALWAYS assume attraction. Two reasons:

    1. Your behavior will filter through this Mindset. So if there is an opportunity to escalate (like kissing) then you'll take it. If you think she doesn't like you then you'll miss it and appear weak in her eyes.

    2. Even if she isn't attracted to you, that is just for the moment. Because you are behaving as if she is already attracted then you could actually CREATE attraction within her since you aren't exhibiting AFC behavior by assuming she doesn't like you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 - friend or target? Texting advice

    Thanks BatMan. Yesterday I've realized, that concerning picking up women, I am my worst and biggest enemy.^^


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