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Thread: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

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    Default I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    Ok background story before I start:

    Met her at my workplace she needed a job at a office I knew about so exchanged numbers texted a lot (if I had to guess at least 1000 txts exchanged between us so far? In the span of 4-5 months knowing her)

    she thought I was using the job as an excuse to talk to her because her current job was stressing her out so I lost contact a bit. Pretty much that spark of getting to know each other was gone. Ok I screwed up whatever

    time flies and she came into my workplace again, we chatted and caught up a bit. Told her that if she was still looking for that office type job she said yes so I told her I will try again.

    Our texts started having that same spark when we first started, it was nostalgia again... but I was skeptical because if I couldn't hook her up with the job I was going to be back at square one.

    Albeit finally after some back and forth I managed to get her a day in the office even though it wasn't a permanent position but she was happy for the opportunity. During this time we had a few phone calls back and forth (which probably totalled like 2 hours of experience) and some txting back and forth.

    She saw me at a boat party and gave me the usual hi + hug, but being the stupid guy that I was she had to stroll along with her best friend but I decided to be dumb and hang back with my friends. When I strolled with my friend again I saw her walking past me and said, "Hey how's the party over in that direction?" She gave me a, "I can't deal with this sh1t right now look" and use the hand gesture to brush me off. My friend was like, "Are you sure that's your friend because she kind of brushed you off like you were a nobody."

    Bummed I got home and surprised to see a txt from her, "OMG so glad I'm in bed." Since her office gig was suppose to start the next day so I just said a few witty things and got no answer, the next day she said " Sorry passed out!" So I figured ok maybe she doesn't hate me since she mentioned she wasn't mad that day she was just so tried.

    Next day she mentioned how busy the job was and such so I did my usual reply but I was busy myself so I mentioned just things about the job but in the end she flaked me. Meaning I say something and she never replied back and of course this has happened many times.

    The conversation would go deep and then she kind of disappear out of thin air, sometimes I re-read my txts wondering if I said something wrong or was I not interesting enough? Back then she would be apologizing to me like "Oh sorry passed out" or something along those lines but these days its just poof gone.

    A week later she posts something on facebook of a photoshoot (since she is a HB9) and I commented on it. Then out of no where she sends me this txt on my phone.

    channeled my inner Asian today

    Jul 21 7:15 pm
    haha good thing the photo was black and white... otherwise I would have mistaken that ball in your head for a piece of kung pao chicken or something :PO

    Jul 21 7:17 pm
    Hahahahahha
    Jul 21 7:18 pm
    I'm definitely Asian
    (sends me a video of her photo shoot)

    Jul 21 7:19 pm
    holy cow! is this what you do on your Sundays? Setting a higher standard for us Asians eh? Just because your Portug"ese" doesn't mean your Vietnam"ese" or Chin"ese" you know

    Jul 21 7:25 pm
    Hahaha always working. Hustling never stops
    Jul 21 7:27 pm
    Hahaha "ese"

    Jul 21 7:27 pm
    you ain't hustling looking like that! If anything the guy would be like, "Damn girl screw this drug deal we going for some sushi with one large order of saki please "

    Jul 21 7:33 pm
    That was a paid shoot so yes!
    Jul 21 7:34 pm
    Hahahaha

    Jul 21 7:34 pm
    veryyyy niceee! I remember you telling me your modelling was voluntarily so that's good your working up the food ladder! Next stop on the cover of Maxim am I right?

    Jul 21 7:37 pm
    Yes I was very surprised when she asked what I charge haha
    Jul 21 7:38 pm
    Oh I don't know about hat one

    Jul 21 7:38 pm
    haha that's always awkward not knowing how much to charge, looks like the hustler got hustled :P but hey look on the bright side you made the waiter think twice before he ask you, "You need fork?"
    Jul 21 7:40 pm
    lol don't be so modest, if you got the, "paralyzer" look why not fault it? Its like having a nice car and going, "Nah your civic is better buddy!"
    Jul 21 7:41 pm
    flaunt*

    Jul 21 7:41 pm
    Hahahaha omg

    Jul 21 8:00 pm
    talk to you in a bit something came up
    something really did came up, its been two hours but damn i'm tired of this sh1t. I don't think my mind is up for it anymore, talking to girls is suppose to be fun not nerve wrecking I got better things to worry about (running a bar/restaurant business). Hell the most messed up part about myself is that I have more fun talking to my ex-girlfriend and an enjoyable time than this. I guess it was my mistake to dump my ex in the first place because I thought I had a chance with this one (since me and my ex are just friends but she still cares for me so despite having a new bf already).

    comments? questions?

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    hm wow is my case that hard or something?

    she came into my workplace today (which I don't work anymore) and she texted something along the likes of

    "man this place is quiet, it is not the same without you."

    I txt back with no humor and just basic AFC crap about not working today, what cha doing later and the like and haven't gotten a reply since.

    GO figure

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    no ones reading cause it is long. summarize it to a basic question

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    well I thought details are good... can someone at least comment on the txting part of the game (in quotes) I've seen posts longer than mine get answered so I figured it was the standard length since some threads people complain about not having enough info.

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    i still don see a question...
    comment on texting. Texting is fine, go for a date.
    this is actually too much banter ... shes already a short fuse, if u keep this up only thing that will happen is you will become text buddy

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    . you ended convo first which is good, now id wait day , send another text then imddieate ask out.
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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    actually ive been keeping this up for awhile... that txt you read i ended it but when she txt me back and we back and forth I sent one weak txt and she didn't end it so I got devalued. I've made futile attempts to ask her out before (like, lets grab a brewski and talk more about it) but instead of saying no she continued the conversation ignoring my attempts (which would be like 2 or 3 at least)

    not sure how I should proceed... guess I should just risk it all instead of being her friend eh?

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    Well the first thing I see is that you've fallen into "the entertainer trap." Every text she sends, you respond with a long and clever message. They are clever don't get me wrong. And that's a good thing. But look at the underlying tone of the convo. All she has to do is respond with a "hahaha omg" and you're off! Imo it looks more alpha for a woman to try and keep the guys attention by being funny/clever than a man trying to keep her attention with clever convo.

    Again, it's not a bad thing. It's just overkill. Relax a little. I've gotten great responses by simply saying "Wow" or "Lol you're dumb" just to see her go off and send 2 or 3 texts after.

    Overall you aren't giving herself enough room to chase you. Always asking her out and always trying to keep convo going only to be left in the dust devalues you. You're not a challenge. She knows she can meet you anytime at her convenience. You know who she would make an effort to see? The guy who's just out of her reach. Making her try to meet up with him with him brushing her off. He has value and she needs to conquer this guy. She needs to feel validated by him. So she's going to make more effort than he will. She already feels validated by you my friend.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: I blew so many chances! I don't want to blow this one!

    thank you for such a post! I guess I got a lot to learn and got to move on from that target I am reckoning because as someone said here earlier, "Clowns do not get laid." And this particular girl has use the line, "Oh your so funny! (in the person and on the phone)" I cringe inside everytime I hear it.

    And funny as it sounds your one of many that have told me I got to relax (too high energy). A trait great for business but poor for the dating scene, much appreciated.


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