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Thread: FB Message

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    Default FB Message

    Hey guys. I befriended this girl on FB. All was going well, but then she stopped replying:/


    Me: Hey I saw your profile show up on my mutual friends. You look familiar, are you at the Wooden Center often?

    Her: hahah, yeah I was there quite a bit.

    Me: Hah, I thought so. Are you the one that always hogged the squat rack

    Her: Hahahahahaahhahah ALWAYS yes

    Me: Yeah I thought so. We're where you when I needed a spotter? Do you still go to the Wooden Center?

    her: actually I graduated So I'm back home now!

    I did not say anything until couple days later.

    Me: Since you like to beast mode so much haha are you into any sports.

    Her: well, I mean I've played a lot of sports. Mainly soccer and volleyball. But I've played basketball and softball growing up as well.

    Me: Damn, you played all those sports. Making me feel lazy here.

    Me: I def can see you play volleyball though. Did you try out for UCLA?(one minute after I sent last message)

    She has not replied yet despite seeing the message on Monday. TBH, I was kind of deciding what to say after the she said she graduated and is back home. I did not know what to say and my message came off weird. I think I was doing what you said not to do and filtered my thoughts. The comment of asking her if she played any sports as well as the "beast mode" was not being myself whereas the previous comments were. She capitalized always, me believing that I thought she was interested. Not sure if I blew it; I have not responded again. Don't want to seek approval from here even though I may have already did from earlier message. What do you think?

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    Default Re: FB Message

    All I see is your questions at the end of each message. You pretty much linked the questions' contents, so it doesn't sound too boring, that's good.

    But take a break from asking questions and create some connection. After the 5th question your convo does go into interrogation grounds. That might be the reason why she didn't reply.

    And dude, you don't need to finish your sentences forcing to hook her. What do I mean by this?

    Me: Yeah I thought so. We're where you when I needed a spotter? Do you still go to the Wooden Center?
    Right here. Assume you didn't ask that last "Wooden Center" question. Your ending question would be "Were where you when I needed a spotter?" That's a nice question, which can easily build comfort and start some playful role-playing if you work on it. But instead you asked another question and now she has a choice. Of course, she's going to answer the second one because it takes a lot less effort, commitment and contribution.

    You felt like the "spotter" question is just a silly statement that could make her laugh and doesn't offer any continuation. No! It's a great way to start. You don't need to ask solid and serious questions to get to know a person at all. I only ask those kinds of question if the convo is really really going dead.

    One more thing, let her get to know you. She plays volleyball? Soccer? Basketball? Softball? There you go. She already gave you a lot of hooks. You can connect easily if you played one of those sports. You didn't play any? At least, state your reasons why you like them or dislike them. Don't keep asking questions all the time. Give her some hooks so she can ask questions to get to know you too.

    Good luck,
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    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: FB Message

    Me: Damn, you played all those sports. Making me feel lazy here.
    This is where you faulted.the dlv came from here.stick to emotional charged topics like childhood experiences(talk about when you started noticing the world), interesting things that happened during the day,travel,unique experiences you have had,relationship dynamics in movies, things you have in common.etc.
    A mixture of these should get her attracted more.you did ok in the beginning but you also dwelled on the sports a bit too much.don't allow yourself on that anymore.

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    Default Re: FB Message

    Thanks guys for the responses. Really helped, the "making me feel lazy" wasnt me ; it was filtered text from an advice of a friend. She has not replied as stated before.
    Should I reply, but in a different way or just let it go?

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    Default Re: FB Message

    What wolf and rock said are very true. It's best if you just let go of this all together. Since Facebook Messaging is just fancy text game, I would recommend going through the forums and reading through some of the guides. If you also can, I would recommend getting some books on pickup and reading through those.
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