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    Default How to answer to this sh!t test?

    This girl opened me up on okcupid, which was very surprising.

    Her: Hi it's Maddie.


    Me: Hi, Maddie. Or is it Mandy? Madeline, perhaps? :P

    Looking at your profile, I have a feeling I would be a way better speller than you. However, you definitely trump me when it comes to cooking :P


    Her: Madeline.

    Me: I guess my guessing skills haven't deteriorated. That's a nice name.

    Btw, do you have a job? I need a woman who can support me while I play video games all day.


    Her: Wow. Also thats rude.



    Basically, how to get her into a more talkative mood. So far she's been replying with short answers. Thanks..

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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    Anyway, I replied

    Me: Whoa! Let's slow down and drop the bitchy shield. I took you for someone that can take a joke..maybe I was wrong?

    Her: Not funny

    What do I say to that? Lol, it's clear she's interested in me seeing as she messaged me first (and her reply message is "very selectively") and is throwing a couple of sh!t tests my way.

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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    Dude, that is extremely rude. You are in now way being funny, and her responses are not even remotely sh1t tests. She isn't even interested in you right now, at least not anymore. Now she probably takes you for an insensitive moron who can't even recognize when he's stepped over the line.

    First off, you NEVER attack a person's name like that. You should always compliment it. In addition, I've seen the cooking opener that you have used before, and you set it up incorrectly. This just made it look like you are a rude obnoxious freeloader. Lastly, that shield comment was also incredibly rude. You are flat out insulting her, and you expect her to take your ass-like comments with a grain of humor? That's not going to work with any girl. I would go into more depth with this, but the overall problem is that you clearly lack the ability to socialize with women and recognize social cues.

    I hope to GOD you are not trying to neg her right now. Those things are so stupid and dangerous that any rookie using them is going to crash and burn hard. It's far better to flirt with her, which you also don't have the grasp of. It's safer, everyone loves it, and no one gets hurt.

    In the end, you've already blown it with this girl. Before you do anything else with women, I highly recommend that you go through the forums and figure out how to actually interact with them. I especially recommend conversation, flirting, and attraction.
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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    Huh.. how did I attack her name?? I figured Maddie was a nickname and I was trying to guess her real name. And I do think Madeline is a nice name...where do you see in those messages that I attacked her name?

    And the cooking comment was meant to be a joke seeing as I dhv slightly by saying I think I'm a better speller, but worse at cooking.

    I'm still surprised she's replying to me given how I've gotten off to a pretty bad start. Any chance I can redeem myself in this case?

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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    Looking at your profile, I have a feeling I would be a way better speller than you.
    You basically implied that she was too stupid to even spell her own name, considering that this immediately followed guessing her name. You may not think this is what it was going for, but what she sees and interprets can be completely different than you. I would have not gone into alternate name guessing games. She just gave you her name, leave it at that and don't try to alter it. In addition, the cooking joke after this can be taken as sexist (unless it was in her profile).

    Btw, do you have a job? I need a woman who can support me while I play video games all day.
    The cooking comment I am referring to is this one. At this point, she's already mad about the spelling and stereotypical cooking joke, so this only drove her to think that you are nothing but an ass. That's why her response was "Wow. Also thats rude", because that's what it basically was.

    As I had stated before, there is no redeeming for you. You are clearly at the negative end of the attraction spectrum, and you pretty much landed in a zone where she won't have anything to do with you. She's only responding to you right now to tell you off for being a d1ck to her. And like I said before, you need to go do some studying before you go out in the field again.
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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    Agreeing with Swagman, I'm gonna add one more thing here.

    This right here is the perfect example on matching her energy level. We usually say keep the same energy amount with her or slightly higher. But in your situation, you were way above her level.

    She started and went on with short messages because she probably never initiated convo before on a social dating site so she might be a bit nervous. However, you replied with long-ass messages, freaked her out and made her think like: "Whoa whoa this guy, maybe I should have thought about this one more time..."

    It's acceptable to show off your PU skills like using the video game line, I used to do that too. But, next time, please, please, observe the situation first and try to stick to the basics. Since it's a virtual setting, you have more time to think about what you're gonna say unlikely in face to face interactions. Use it to your advantage.
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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    I don't think playing with her name was a big deal. Maybe the spelling comment was a bit much. And I still use the video game one today and it still works. I have other issues with what happened and Wolf24 brought a really good one up. Which was your energy level.

    Have you ever asked a stranger "Morning. How are you?" and they LITERALLY go into their entire life story for the next 20 min? That's kind of what happened here. She opened you, yet instead of letting her steer the convo you completely took it from her and demolished it. Next time just let her pick YOU up if she shows she's willing. This includes face to face interactions as well.

    Another thing I see here is that although your teasing was ok, using them back to back is just overkill. Even in person this can be overkill. Your main focus online is to build comfort and show your humorous side. Teasing should be heavily minimized when online because she really doesn't know if you are who you claim to be or even worse...someone who is dangerous.

    And lastly "Whoa! Let's slow down and drop the bitchy shield. I took you for someone that can take a joke..maybe I was wrong?" Never say this again my friend. It's wrong in so many ways. First you said bitchy shield. Errrr. Wrong. Then tried to qualify her by saying you thought she could take a joke. Error again. The whole thing just leaves a bad taste in the mouth.

    I know a lot of our responses may have been harsh, but just understand that mistakes build character and experience and we have all done these same mistakes or worse at one point in time. Yes, I mean me as well :P
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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    UPDATE!

    This girl deleted her profile like a week or so ago (around there) and figured she either found somebody..or couldn't deal with the likely amount of sexual messages she was getting. But recently she made a new profile with a new username and actually sent me another opener saying "Hey my name is Maddie." Okcupid also said that I was high in her quiver matches.

    I thought with the way I treated and messaged her about a month ago that I basically blew my shot with her, but she either has amnesia, or is willing to give me a 2nd chance.

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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    There are three possible situations I can think of to why she would message you again on a fresh note.

    The first, that you had mentioned before, is that she doesn't remember what happened. All she knows is that she's been through too much sexual comments, and she's had it. That's why she deleted her account, and started up a new one.

    The second is that she is bored. She may remember what you said to her, but she doesn't really care. It doesn't matter what kind of value you have. All that she cares about is entertaining herself for the time being.

    The third is that she is giving you another chance. She does remember what you said to her, but it was a while back. Another opportunity is being given to you because she sees high value via appearance or some other listed quality.

    No matter which of the three scenarios you look at, they are all in your favor for the present moment. Just respond appropriately, as in don't respond like you did before , and don't let this second chance slip you up.
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    Default Re: How to answer to this sh!t test?

    It looks like a spam. Cause she send the same message to you again.
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