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Thread: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

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    Default Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    Hey guys long time lurker and first time poster, thought I'd join given my recent conundrum. I met this girl about a yr and a half ago up at school through a friend. I got her number and we had playful texting times but at the time she was dating a guy and then a few months later I met my now ex gf. Over the time I dated I still stayed in contact with this girl and every once in a while we would hang out alone but I never pushed because of my gf.

    Now fast forward I'm single and so is she and we still talk but not on a day to day basis. When we do we have good convos and are still playful with teasing and such about little competitions we have. She's only dated a few guys and is somewhat shy/reserved so she just kind laughs if I throw in some sexual comment. So i'm a little lost there.

    She texted me a couple weeks ago and asked me if I wanted to go to a concert with her, which I couldnt because I was out of town. Instead I told her I was going down to my friends place in the florida keys for the start of lobster season (shes always wanted to try it) last week and asked if she wanted to come (6hr drive for her). She didnt know any of the people we were staying with she literally only knew me and agreed to come so possible ioi?

    She said yes so she met me down there earlier this week we had a fun time there but she's a shy girl so it was really hard for me to pinpoint any obvious IOI's while we were out. Anyway the one day we were out on the boat and my friends cousin who we were staying with assumed we were dating, the convo went like this. I was not around for this, cousin only told me what happened afterwards.

    Cousin: So how long have you and ***** been dating?
    HB: giggling, we're not dating were just friends.
    Cousin: Oh I'm sorry I just assumed, is there anything going on between you two?
    HB: Well **** just got out of a relationship with his gf so we'll see what happens now.

    To me, and maybe I'm reading too much into it she could have shot down the idea to my buddies cousin right there as no one else was around but idk. We have plans to hang out when I get back to school but we have had those before this all went down so idk how to play it. How do you all think I should go along with it?

    Thanks red-

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    Dude, are you blind? did you forget to put on your GIRL IS OBVIOUSLY ATTRACTED TO YOU GLASSES today? Haha, she really likes you dude. Not only did she ASK you in the first place to hang out, but she decided to drive 6 hrs and not care that she didn't know anyone there but you! also the fact that she didn't flake out is HUGE. And the topping on it all that is your 100% sign is that while you were not there she said "we will see what happens" meaning "it is all up to him what we will be", in other words she is wanting you and waiting on you, like you said she is shy, so probably not that great at making a move or the first move or any. Now all of that being said you have a golden opportunity here, but don't start acting like a little yuppy panzy whipped cream sissy haha, keep doing whatever you've been doing. If you haven't kissed her, do so when the time is right. Just keep your game the same and I think you will be great

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    It's time to take control my friend. Her driving 6 hours to meet up with you is one of the biggest It's I've ever heard. Do what cowboy said. Don't go weird and needy on the girl, but she's into you.

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    Only reiterating what's been said already but; 6 hour drive, only knows you & the fact she said 'see what happens' when confronted with your situation speaks volumes.

    I'd stay the course with what you're doing currently. Maybe try to escalate things I.E. get a bit more Kino involved when you see her next and see where that takes you.
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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    Hey guys thanks I appreciate the responses. I'm normally fine with making moves in girls but when they don't give the direct IOIs it scares me a little. Haha I tried a little Kino when we were out in key west playing pool and she seemed receptive to some of it but not all. Like I said she's a shy girl though so that have could having something to do with it.

    She likes to go diving and fishing so I thought that may have had something to do with the fact of why she came down but like you all have said she only knew me and when she could have just brushed it off with LJBF with my buddies cousin I think it speaks volumes no?

    When we go back to school in a few weeks ill try and study with her ask her for coffee after and then escalate to a more romantic hangout from there. Anyone have feedback?

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    just an update guys. I texted her a little this evening and it went ok but not as well as I'd hoped she was out with friends so maybe a little busy. I sent a last text and never heard back so I think I may just wait a week or more and freeze her out till then. i wont be back up to school for 3 weeks anyway. any thoughts on that? I'm just hoping that wouldn't scare her off lol

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    Why freeze her out just because she was busy. Just hit her up tomorrow or Tuesday and start a new thread. Only freeze her out when she does something you don't like
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    just an update guys. I texted her a little this evening and it went ok but not as well as I'd hoped she was out with friends so maybe a little busy. I sent a last text and never heard back so I think I may just wait a week or more and freeze her out till then. i wont be back up to school for 3 weeks anyway. any thoughts on that? I'm just hoping that wouldn't scare her off lol
    Woah man yur outta line
    You need to relax its in steps don't scare her way.any girl MAY decide to be in this position if you run game.So top feeling lucky if you are and focus on the main.we all have been a bit excited but then you need to kick yourself if you act too overwhelmed you may screw up.instead focus more on the next step.remember you are supposed to lead.
    freeze her out till then?
    Nope!!Wait for few days(2 days max) and engage.

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    Default Re: Need help. Confused about a girl from school

    Hey guys I didn't feel like I needed to start a new thread as this ones kind of a follow up. Anyway as I was saying earlier we were texting the other night and the 2 main parts of the convo I wanna highlight are these... just to give insight on what were talking about here, we're supposed to hang out and do some lake fishing when I get back up there but idk if its a just us thing or if others may be invited.

    (I went back up to school just for the day to get some papers in order and never told her)
    HB: You mean you came back to Orlando today and didnt tell me???
    Me: Lol I had to come up and sign some leasing papers and saw a few friends, only went for the day.
    HB: ok I'll forgive you I was gonna say you were just scared of going fishing with me again while you were here!

    later on in the evening

    HB: blah blah blah
    Me: That's cool, when i get back up to school you'll have to come over and I'll cook us up some of that lobster from the keys.
    Me: ..or not lol I'm going to bed gotta be up early for work ttyl!
    HB (hr later) : Sorry! My phone was on silent and the bars loud, calm down .

    Not much of a reply and I was pissed at myself for sending a 2nd txt as it came off as needy. but also like kinda confused what her answer actually meant. She could have just said no but then again why didnt she just say yes? Lol


    Anyway I replied to that text in the morning at work but we didnt really talk all day (shes out of town visiting a friend now) she texted me a pic of her at the beach to which I responded but never heard back.

    I'm starting to wonder about the early signs and what she said to my buddies cousin they seemed encouraging, but I think I might be better off just letting it go now for a few days and then try again or really sarge for it when i get back up to school. trying to not get oneitis here lol



    thanks for all the help guys and go easy on me lol


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