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    Default Need help with short/dead end replies

    Known her for a while and we are friends. She dated a mutual friend and they broke up 2 years ago. In the meantime I worked on myself. Gym, goals, appearance Etc and it paid off. We went running the other day and afterwards she insisted on coffee. At the end she said something along the lines of "let's do this again sometime..hang out..if your sched is free"

    Waited a couple days and sent her a MSG

    "Hey whatcha up to this sat?"

    And she replied "Not much"

    I didn't respond.

    Kinda kicking myself now as I should've been more upfront. The response is unusual because she's a highly energetic/free spirited and sends multiple texts (a typical text would be: "heyy not much I think nothing planned." and followed up w a second text "You?"

    Am I over thinking this? Should I just follow up? Or should I just ditch this friend nonsense?

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship with her. Comfort without attraction is a guaranteed friend zone. So let me ask you, is she attracted to you?

    Regardless, don't overthink it. Throw her a cliffhanger..."You'r e not gonna believe who I ran into yesterday. You're gonna LMAO"

    When she responds ...I'll tell you over our next run. Saturday 2 pm. Don't whimp out.

    See where that takes you. Again, if you're friendzoned she might blow you off because you are not a priority to her at the moment.

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    I wouldn't overthink it. You always want to assume attraction to insure you don't miss opportunities, like the one you're about to miss now, just because of speculation.

    If you knew, without a doubt, she was into you then you wouldn't question this. And you'll kick yourself if you find out later on she WAS into you, but you just never took initiative because of the way she text you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    It's been hard for me to figure out what she thinks of me. A while ago she asked me if I was seeing anyone and her reason was "just wondering". During the run she noticed my time in the gym. It's hard getting to the next level cause were friends but I intended to escalate the next time I see her.

    I'm decent looking. 6'1 and in pretty good shape. Haven't strayed from my gym routine in 2 years. Skin is average but getting better. I dress well.

    I was planning on replying to her tmr

    On a side note, she always calls me buddy. I think she calls lots of ppl that/and is the way she talks. Kind of like a "hey man" type of deal. But Perhaps this is an indication that I'm friend zoned?

    Thanks for all the responses so far. I creeped this forum for 2 years and worked on myself because of this place and it's starting to pay off.

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    That's a dangerous thing. The more you try and guess how she sees you the more you will convince yourself she isn't into you and will sabotage yourself. Focus on her proving to you why she would be a good addition to your life. I mean it.

    If you just look at everything she does or says and say to yourself "Eh I don't really like that" or "Oh I didn't know that about her. Nice." You'll be much better off. Because with this Mindset you already believe she's into you and that you need to screen HER. You're less likely to be self conscious about yourself and criticizing every move you make. With this mindset you already know you're good enough for her. You just want to find out if she is good enough for you.
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    hey man, sounds like she is somewhat interested. Tell us, how are your interactions when you do hang out with her? Flirty? Kino?

    I think getting her to hang out is not the issue, but rather what to do to escalate her. I would recommend the text, meeting up, and being playful and confident. Let her see the new side. If she is responsive, escalate. If not, then you need to trigger jealousy to get out of the friend zone.

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    That's a dangerous thing. The more you try and guess how she sees you the more you will convince yourself she isn't into you and will sabotage yourself. Focus on her proving to you why she would be a good addition to your life. I mean it.

    If you just look at everything she does or says and say to yourself "Eh I don't really like that" or "Oh I didn't know that about her. Nice." You'll be much better off. Because with this Mindset you already believe she's into you and that you need to screen HER. You're less likely to be self conscious about yourself and criticizing every move you make. With this mindset you already know you're good enough for her. You just want to find out if she is good enough for you.
    Thanks this is really an insightful post.

    It's funny because its easy to have a "screening" mentality with 4/5/6s but you completely forget about this mindset when she's a 8/9. Will try my best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fuser View Post
    hey man, sounds like she is somewhat interested. Tell us, how are your interactions when you do hang out with her? Flirty? Kino?

    I think getting her to hang out is not the issue, but rather what to do to escalate her. I would recommend the text, meeting up, and being playful and confident. Let her see the new side. If she is responsive, escalate. If not, then you need to trigger jealousy to get out of the friend zone.
    I think she's kind of flirty by nature. She doesn't really have a hard time w guys. Not sure if its special but I can make her laugh/make fun of her jokingly and I get that weak little punch-thing from her. Wow that's the most retarded thing I've ever typed online. But you get the idea.

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    So escalate, point being is you need to go for it. Or otherwise you will just wonder 'what if'. Start by more Kino...let her know you are comfortable touching her.

    Give her a hug, massage her shoulders a bit, tell her she's a stressball. You prefer more relaxed girls . Just make the move bro

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    Default Re: Need help with short/dead end replies

    Hi everyone,

    This is going to go off topic from the texting game but I want to keep my story going in the same thread.

    I was overreacting. She sent me 2 follow-up texts during the lunch hour. Guess she had a busy morning at work.

    Kept to the regimen and tried my best to keep texting for setting up the logistics only with a little flirting and a few jokes thrown in.

    Went to the farmers market with her and had some dessert afterwards. Good conversations the entire time. Worked on Kino which I think helped me a lot (thanks for the reminders everyone). A bonus was that I kept running into girls I've met randomly this past month all of whom are pretty attractive (7/8s). She seemed a little uneasy and kind of walked away everytime I ran in to a girl. We were at a really busy place so it just seemed like she was looking at something when I ran in to girls. I think it's because she didn't get ready enough or something - she was rushed prior to us meeting up. who knows? I played it cool and kept all conversations short with the other girls. Just a simple hi how are you doing.

    Dropped her off and she gave me a hug and a really quick/almost unnoticeable kiss on the neck (which I was definitely not expecting). Shes leaving for a 4 month exchange next week. I said "so last time I'm seeing you?" and she muttered something along the lines of "oh what no we can meet again".

    I think shes girlfriend material. I just don't know if its smart to make things "official" right before she leaves on a 4 month exchange.

    Am I out of the friend zone? Should I go for the kiss? and also, what would you do if shes leaving on a 4 month exchange?

    Thanks everyone


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