All of this has gone in a direction I never expected…
1)My Stats: 26 years old, never married, no kids, good job, excellent shape,
2)Her Stats: 30 years old, divorced, two kids (wait..don’t stop reading here), ok profession.. really nice body
3)I was running online game and sarging at the same time, found her online eight months ago, I met her..liked her a lot and I never thought much of it. Then she started seeing me regularly. The sex was mindblowing and she definitely was extremely into me so I didn’t hold back. One day I was driving back from work and I realized the hell I was doing. There was a chance of her and myself to get emotional, the fact that she had kids, and this could become a major dilemma in the future. I even decided to not to spend the nights at her place, always left after being intimate which bugged the hell out of her. Lo and behold she became emotional over time and went out of her way to treat me like a king: cooking, buying me things, driving over an hour to see me. She even stopped drinking because she knew I didn’t care much for it. She started working out for me, buying new clothes for herself, always doing whatever she could to please me. She showered me with attention, gifts, sex, food etc. The biggest thing that impressed me was that she was extremely TRUSTWORTHY and she worked hard to earn my trust. Then came my worse fear, even though I kept telling myself I wasn’t being emotional, deep inside I knew I had a thing for this girl. I was digging a deeper and deeper hole for myself.
4) Then FINALLY, I received a new assignment to a new location at work. I had realized this was the best time to break it off if I was going to do it because there was no way in hell I was going to be able to keep up with a long distance relationship. That backfired, we got CLOSER. She decided that she was going to fly to see me and do whatever she could to keep this relationship alive. She would fly to come see me every month and talk to me everyday on the phone which she DID. I was shocked. Meanwhile, she changed her phone number, lost a lot of girlfriends because all her focus was on me. She even stopped going out on the weekends and spent most of her time skyping with me. I maintained my relationships with my friends, went out regularly, worked out etc.
5) Now, she has planned to move up here with me and would like me to accept her kids and a long term commitment. Men….with full due respect….I cannot bring myself to be a father to someone else’s kids…they have a father...and I truly deserve my own family (yea sounds selfish). She is adamant about it and said that I am being selfish and don’t love her enough. They need their own father and I cant commit to a relationship and be a father figure to kids that are over 7 years old now. Yes, I understand I cannot expect her to leave her kids but at the same time I cant take on the role of their father.
6) There are two choices here…a)I could end this but this will devastate her and upset me. Breaking a woman's heart that has proved unconditional love for me just doesnt feel right. I will be the biggest douchebag on the earth. This however will be good for the kid’s future because they will stay with their father but in the end I will sacrifice my relationship. b) I could keep going and expect to be a father to her kids plus my own in the future. I just cannot bring myself to doing that…even at the cost of my life. I want my own kids.
7) I am open to any ideas, criticism, advice…take a shot at it guys. I have created a critical situation for myself and am in Emergency Crisis mode right now. Let this thread be a lesson to all the men out there that ever consider dating a lady with kids.