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    Default Girl flakes but text me constantly

    Went on a few dates with an HB8-9, nice chill girl but seems a little emotional/crazy. She canceled our first date but immediately set up another. The dates went great and her interest was high, she would pretty much initiate texting me everyday (even though I hate texting). She text me one night telling me she wants to come over , I agreed and about an hour later it seemed she was dillydallying and wouldn't give a straight answer on when she was coming over (it was already late and I wanted to go out) so I just told her I had friends in town who I was gonna go out with and that we'd have to do it another night, she immediately played the sad card but fark it she took too long so I just played it cool and didnt give in to it and talked to her a little more before I went to a party. She message me the next day playfully snipping at me for not answering her message the night before (I was out and didnt feel like talking) than after a little playful conversation tells me I never asked her out on another date. We messaged a little more than the next day she messaged me again, like usual, and after she says something about never taking her out for a third date again, I set up another date with her; she oddly didnt message me the day before the date and then canceled the day of a few hours before saying she wasnt feeling good and thought she was getting sick. I always half expect flakes so it didnt really bother me and Idc what any PUA says you don't call them out, it just makes you look like it was your priority and you had nothing else to do, it puts pressure on the situation and will never result in you closing, ever. So I just said it was no big deal and to get better. This girl, after flaking messages me again that night and when I'm semi unresponsive (I was watching a movie with the roomates) she sends me a message saying "talk to me :/". I waited till after I was done watching the movie than messaged her and went to sleep. The next morning around noon she messages me AGAIN, saying I "must not like her very much" when I asked why she thought that she responded that "getting me to talk to her was like getting a toddler to sit still", which absolutely isn't true, I talk to her plenty. So I just laughed and explained that I was a face to face kind of guy and not a phone guy. She said it was hard because of how far we lived (20 minutes so BS excuse) than said she was gonna stay away from me while she was sick but wanted to see me when she was better. At this point Idk what to do with this girl. I'm so tired of texting her its just annoying, pointless and boring but I feel like this girl is just running circles, even though she very may well be sick (especially considering she talked about how sick she felt the day after as well) I think if she wanted to see me she would have considering its been a week and a half since our last date where the momentum/interest was very high. She canceled the first date, bullsh1tted around before I called off our one date and than flaked our last date, yet shows massive interest. She is shy in person so Im thinking either A. She's not comfortable enough or feels pressured now that were getting to the point where she knows it'll get physic or B. she's keeping me around for text attention C. She really just had things come up. I plan on keeping her in my rotation, no harm as long as she's not a priority, but I'm just getting bored and need to meet in person again with this girl before she annoys me to death with texts to the point where I cut her out of my rotation for the semester (which I'm trying to make as big as possible for my senior year, YEAH YEAH!) as a side note she looked at my Facebook where I have tons of pictures with girls and she questioned me about being a player, that might also have something to do with this all.

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    i hate it when girls play games. at school this girl would constantly toy with me...

    you're not the only guy shes talking too, i realized girls that do this stuff just like the attention from you, even if the attention is just texting them. idk, girls are crazy and confusing.

    anyone else wanna chime in?

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    I mean that's what I'm taking from it too but its just so weird because SHE asks me for the dates and she actually went on two dates with me

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    Yeah, this girl at school (college) asked me to "hang out" in her room, she had to shower then never texted me back. Texted me in the morning saying she doesnt want a One Night Stand...then she kept doing this to me so i just deaded her.

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    Don't know why, but I have a feeling she may actually be telling you the truth. Trust me, if she didn't like you, I don't think she'd be giving you a second thought.

    She may be texting a couple others (is she dating other guys?), but you're high on her list from what I see.

    If it comes to a point where there's a recurring theme with her (just using you for texting, using you period, etc.), then delete and ignore her.
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    That could be true, ED, mine was just a more worse scenario

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    Yea Johnny bob kinda seem like the same girl, like she doesn't want me to just fck and chuck her hence her asking if I was a player

    ED- that's what throws me off, I mean she initiates constantly and remembers very specific things about me, so she probably is talking to other guys but I know she's not dating one, I think I'm near the top but something's stopping her from " taking the plunge" so to say, I think she realizes its going to get really physical next time we see each other

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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    Brilliant man. You've handled the situation well. If I feel she is going to flake I flake first. Good job. But you're smart enough to know what the issue is. Or maybe you really are a player

    The difference between a PUA and a Player is that a PUA takes the time to get to know her as a person. We make her feel like she is special to US. Not just cause she's hot. But because something unique about her "draws us to her and we can't control it." (Very good line btw.) If she is shy or conservative then it is obvious that she is very, very selective on who she sleeps with. And she will screen the crap out of any guy she deems a player.

    You'll make it easier on yourself if you qualify her and/or build some rapport. Anything to make her feel like she is unique and special to you. Hard to pull off if you're not genuine about it and probably hasn't crossed your mind to do this if you really don't see a future with her.
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    Default Re: Girl flakes but text me constantly

    I have a girl like that. She's doing that for your attention because the other guys who probably tried to fark her gave up because of her neediness and wanting too much attention. For mine I just rarely text her
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