Been talking with this girl for almost a week and it seems at times the conversation goes well, then it doesn't. At least compared to the other woman, this one seems at least semi-interested. I'll post the whole convo.
Me: Hi, Mandy. How's it going on this gorgeous day?
Had a quick question (the rest is my opener which I don't want to give away. If you guys want something similar, then PM me and I'll help you out!)
Her: Hey, going good hbu? & I pick berries. If kit kats were apart of the options it'd be a different story :P
Me: I'm as amazing as amazing can be, thanks for asking.
Since you picked berries, that means berries= fruit= you being loving and passionate
Her: I can agree with that
Me: Glad to hear it, maybe I'll eventually work kit kats into my equation :P
PS. Bonus points on liking the GOT show and the books, along with The Walking Dead.
Her: Ha yay for bonus points
Me: So when did you find out that you wanted to major in childhood education/special education? From an early age, or the past few years?
Her: I've known since career day in kindergarten when I dressed up like my mom because my mom is a special Ed teacher haha. But I always just loved kids and knew I'd go into the field
Me: Haha, I see. It makes sense because when I was little I wanted to be a teacher just solely on the fact that I was surrounded by kids and teachers everyday. I adore and love children, except perhaps the unruly ones ;P
Her: I think even the best teachers can't stand the unruly ones haha. Are you studying to be a teacher as well? or your just saying you wanted to be one as a kid
Me: I thought about it when I was in High School, but ultimately decided to major in Computer Informational Systems. I figured I would end up being too nice as a teacher and give everybody a good grade, even if they didn't deserve it..lol :P
(She didn't respond to this, even though she read it. I was worried, but like a day later I reengaged).
Me: So what's the best place you've ever traveled or been to?
Her: Turkey would have to be number one because of family and how beautiful it is there but not gonna lie Disney comes in second cause being "the most magical place on earth" ranks pretty high lol
Me: I guess I would pick Greece since I'm Greek and some of my extended family is there. Also has the best beaches as well! :P. But for real, I would actually pick a Greek Island called Santorini. It has the best view and sightseeing of any Island I've ever been to. As for Turkey, I actually visited Istanbul a couple months ago.
Her: I can only imagine how gorgeous the beaches in Greece are. & funny my family is actually from Istanbul, now you can know exactly where I'm talking about haha.
Me: Haha, I guess that's true. And you have no idea, I can't stand even going to the beaches here after going to the ones in Greece.
I wanted to ask, what are you looking for in a potential future relationship?
Her: Yea I hear you once you see clear ocean water seaside looks like a garbage dump haha. & it's hard what I want out of a relationship that I'm not in yet I guess but I'm hoping to be in a serious relationship I mean not like settle down for marriage or anything but itd be nice to not just date around like find that one person.
Me: Yup, so have you ever actually been to the Jersey Shore? . And I'm open to meeting someone special, but they have to actually be special. I think people jump into things before they really know someone. For me, I have to really get to know a girl and feel like she cares about me before I have sex with her. Because I feel like I’m just giving myself away otherwise.
(Did some cold reading there. Figured her type was NDI, which is a hopeful romantic. Once again, she didn't respond and I got worried I was actually either wrong, which I doubt from reading her questions and profile, or somehow scared her off. But I reengaged again two days later and it worked).
Me: So..if you hypothetically won the lottery, what would you do with all that money?
Her: random question haha. Id buy a house and a newer car but that seems typical. I guess just share it with my family, and give a lot to shelters and organizations. Like me giving a few bucks to ASPCA each month wouldn't be enough if I won the lotto haha. What would you do with it?
Stopped there for now.
I know what at least some of you might be thinking, I'm using too much comfort/rapport. But the reason I'm doing this is cause her questionnaire stated she potentially would be interested in meeting someone off the site in a few weeks, so I'm using that potential time to build as much comfort as possible. I don't want to Number Close yet.
Two times she didn't respond to two of my posts, which worried me. But she always asks what I would do during open ended questions.
Basically, do you guys think the conversation is going well? I do plan on number closing at some point, which scares me cause I have a feeling she wouldn't respond to my number close, but for right now my goal is to build comfort/rapport. We actually seem to have some things in common which helps.