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    Default Help with another chick on okcupid

    Been talking with this girl for almost a week and it seems at times the conversation goes well, then it doesn't. At least compared to the other woman, this one seems at least semi-interested. I'll post the whole convo.

    Me: Hi, Mandy. How's it going on this gorgeous day?

    Had a quick question (the rest is my opener which I don't want to give away. If you guys want something similar, then PM me and I'll help you out!)


    Her: Hey, going good hbu? & I pick berries. If kit kats were apart of the options it'd be a different story :P

    Me: I'm as amazing as amazing can be, thanks for asking.

    Since you picked berries, that means berries= fruit= you being loving and passionate


    Her: I can agree with that

    Me: Glad to hear it, maybe I'll eventually work kit kats into my equation :P

    PS. Bonus points on liking the GOT show and the books, along with The Walking Dead.


    Her: Ha yay for bonus points

    Me: So when did you find out that you wanted to major in childhood education/special education? From an early age, or the past few years?

    Her: I've known since career day in kindergarten when I dressed up like my mom because my mom is a special Ed teacher haha. But I always just loved kids and knew I'd go into the field

    Me: Haha, I see. It makes sense because when I was little I wanted to be a teacher just solely on the fact that I was surrounded by kids and teachers everyday. I adore and love children, except perhaps the unruly ones ;P

    Her: I think even the best teachers can't stand the unruly ones haha. Are you studying to be a teacher as well? or your just saying you wanted to be one as a kid

    Me: I thought about it when I was in High School, but ultimately decided to major in Computer Informational Systems. I figured I would end up being too nice as a teacher and give everybody a good grade, even if they didn't deserve it..lol :P

    (She didn't respond to this, even though she read it. I was worried, but like a day later I reengaged).

    Me: So what's the best place you've ever traveled or been to?

    Her: Turkey would have to be number one because of family and how beautiful it is there but not gonna lie Disney comes in second cause being "the most magical place on earth" ranks pretty high lol

    Me: I guess I would pick Greece since I'm Greek and some of my extended family is there. Also has the best beaches as well! :P. But for real, I would actually pick a Greek Island called Santorini. It has the best view and sightseeing of any Island I've ever been to. As for Turkey, I actually visited Istanbul a couple months ago.

    Her: I can only imagine how gorgeous the beaches in Greece are. & funny my family is actually from Istanbul, now you can know exactly where I'm talking about haha.

    Me: Haha, I guess that's true. And you have no idea, I can't stand even going to the beaches here after going to the ones in Greece.

    I wanted to ask, what are you looking for in a potential future relationship?


    Her: Yea I hear you once you see clear ocean water seaside looks like a garbage dump haha. & it's hard what I want out of a relationship that I'm not in yet I guess but I'm hoping to be in a serious relationship I mean not like settle down for marriage or anything but itd be nice to not just date around like find that one person.

    Me: Yup, so have you ever actually been to the Jersey Shore? . And I'm open to meeting someone special, but they have to actually be special. I think people jump into things before they really know someone. For me, I have to really get to know a girl and feel like she cares about me before I have sex with her. Because I feel like I’m just giving myself away otherwise.

    (Did some cold reading there. Figured her type was NDI, which is a hopeful romantic. Once again, she didn't respond and I got worried I was actually either wrong, which I doubt from reading her questions and profile, or somehow scared her off. But I reengaged again two days later and it worked).

    Me: So..if you hypothetically won the lottery, what would you do with all that money?

    Her: random question haha. Id buy a house and a newer car but that seems typical. I guess just share it with my family, and give a lot to shelters and organizations. Like me giving a few bucks to ASPCA each month wouldn't be enough if I won the lotto haha. What would you do with it?

    Stopped there for now.

    I know what at least some of you might be thinking, I'm using too much comfort/rapport. But the reason I'm doing this is cause her questionnaire stated she potentially would be interested in meeting someone off the site in a few weeks, so I'm using that potential time to build as much comfort as possible. I don't want to Number Close yet.

    Two times she didn't respond to two of my posts, which worried me. But she always asks what I would do during open ended questions.

    Basically, do you guys think the conversation is going well? I do plan on number closing at some point, which scares me cause I have a feeling she wouldn't respond to my number close, but for right now my goal is to build comfort/rapport. We actually seem to have some things in common which helps.

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    Default Re: Help with another chick on okcupid

    Why the Jersey Shore line 2nd to last post? Unless she mentioned it in her profile or something.

    As for this girl, I have a feeling she seems at least a bit shy.

    http://www.puaforums.com/online-dati...ype-woman.html

    Is this that same girl you posted about? If so, then I think that proves my theory about her being shy more. And I'm almost positive she's a hopeful romantic from what you said, so you weren't wrong I believe. Maybe she didn't respond at certain points cause she's become a bit overwhelmed that somebody might actually be interested in her and like her for who she is. Trust me, if she didn't like you, she wouldn't be responding (or at least be sending you short messages to drive you away).

    As for right now, just continue building some comfort, but definitely try to Number Close at some point. Even if it doesn't work, you have to try sometime :P

    If not number close, then maybe see if she has a Skype or something and if she'd be willing to talk to you/video chat with you there.
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    Default Re: Help with another chick on okcupid

    About the Jersey Shore comment..Ya, she lives in Jersey and her profile touched on it slightly in the beginning lol.

    Another problem might be is we don't live in the same state. Okcupid says were only 12 miles apart, but she lives in Hackensack just past the Hudson River, and I in Queens, NY.

    And yeah, she's the same type I posted about.

    Cool..I'll try your advice. Anyone else?

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    Default Re: Help with another chick on okcupid

    There's....no attraction. I mean, obviously she's interested. But that's different. There's not much flirting, teasing, even rapport breaking. No push/pull or strategic compliance building. She's just.....responding most of the time.

    And you should get the phone number ASAP. Having the convo all on the dating site will give her less incentive to change the "venue" from online to phone number. It'll dry out eventually.

    Again, get the number ASAP and get into a phone call. Very important. Increase your flirting and teasing. Put her on an emotional rollercoaster. Women are emotional creatures and only go crazy for the guys that are able to give me different emotions.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Help with another chick on okcupid

    Wooooo, finally got my first Number Close online

    This is how the rest of the conversation went:

    Me: I'm the king of random questions, so take that for what it's worth :P
    As for me, a car and house would be obvious. I would also give some to charity, and some to my family to support them. And if I ever had kids, I would open a trust fund for them and give them money to support themselves when they would turn 18. I guess this would also give me incentive to write my own book. I've always wanted to.


    Her: That's good use of money. What kind of book would you want to write?

    Me: It would take place in a western type setting with multiple point of views, and not a fantasy setting like the GOT books. Still a long ways away, but I've already thought up the main protagonist and antagonist :P

    (Two hours I sent another message because I had a feeling she wouldn't reply to this one for a 3rd time, so I took a chance here that paid off)

    Me: Btw, I notice that we've been chatting for about a week now, and you don't seem like the traditional stalker type. Also, I see a bit of a witty, goofy, somewhat "sassy" side about you. You don't mention it in your profile, but your eyes TOTALLY give it away :P. That said, I'm leaning towards being OK with exchanging numbers with you.

    But.... there's one burning question which must be answered first.....


    (Thanks T-mal for your number close technique!)

    Her: I appreciate you acknowledging that I'm not the stalker type, that may be one of the best compliments I've ever heard :P
    & hm what is this burning question?


    Me: Well, Mandy, that question would be: What's your number?

    And just for fun, who's your favorite character in the Walking Dead series and why?


    Her: How can I say no to that one? Haha 201-xxx-xxxx
    & Daryl because of his kick was cross bow :P ha no but seriously Michonne because she doesn't take crap from anyone but even though she puts up an act like she's strong and independent I think she knows she really needs people sometimes, she's layered I guess.


    Basically, my strategy of comforting her for a week worked out, then I went for the number close. Also helped that we have lots of similar interests. Basically, what do I do from here? This is my first ever number close online, so I want to know the best strategy from here on out. Thanks.

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    Default Re: Help with another chick on okcupid

    Awesome job, man!

    The fact that she gave you her number definitely shows she's interested in potentially meeting up with you sometime in the future, because a lot of chicks don't just give their numbers out on sites to anybody.

    Right now I would sent her a text saying "Mania here, now you have my number as well :P"

    Then play around with her, like saying "How about we give each other nicknames, you give me one to put in your phonebook, and I'll give you one as well :P"

    Just my suggestion, tease/flirt around with her now.
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