Re: How to deal with hard-to-gets/attention whores
The way I handle them is like a dance. They're attention whores because they live and breath off of validation. So devalidating them is your tool. The real trick is that you have to get them to seek your validation in the first place. You can do that by giving a tiny bit of validation, but then removing it. Which will make them seek for more of it. Ex: Wow you're so awesome. Too bad you're not my type. Anyways blah blah blah....
Sitting back and being the cool wallflower may not be enough. She'll be getting so much attention and may not notice you not giving it to her. That's why the concept "active disinterest" was created. So that you can engage in conversation with her (which could potentially show interest) yet you do and say things that will confuse her about your interest in her and she will then seek your validation.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."