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    Default How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    I ended up getting this girl's number from okcupid and striked up a convo today. This is how it went:

    Me: Mania here, now you have my number :P

    Her: Yay

    Me: Team iPhone I see? I guess you just continue to have good taste.

    Her: Of course . I mean I only wanted the iphone for ernogis but still haha.

    Me: What's emogis?

    Her: The smiles

    Me: Ah, you mean emoji. I guess I'm not so iPhone smart after all.

    Her: Blaming the autocorrect for that one haha. And it's cool I'm no iPhone genius myself.

    Me: You have the 5?

    Her: Nope 4

    Me: Awww, I was hoping for a team iPhone 5

    Her: Sorry, I got my iPhone like a month before the new one.

    -4 hours later-

    Me: So I just thought of something

    Her: and what's that

    Me: What name to put in my phone book for you, and I thought..a nickname ; P

    Her: Please don't tell me it's l-lean I've heard the joke about the girl with one leg too many times :P

    Me: Sugar Glider ; ) (Thanks T-mal for this one)

    Her: I'm being nicknamed after the flying possum? Lol

    Me: For being petite and cute ;P

    Me: Now you gotta think of one for me, haha

    Her: Ha you need a random animal because your questions with me are always so random.

    Me: Like I said, you're dealing with the king of random questions ; P

    Me: So what kind of animal would I be?

    Her: You can be a puffin because they're cute but unique because its like a penguin but different which makes it kinda random.

    -About 40 minutes later-

    Me: Team puffin-sugar glider, hmm interesting team.

    That's it for tonight. I want to know if I'm doing a good job so far? And second, how to turn this into a date. We live 12 miles apart from what Okcupid said, but I live in NY and she lives in NJ. I want to eventually arrange a meet, but don't want to make one so soon, and also don't want her to think I'm just a flirt/texting buddy. Any suggestions?

    So far, she has replied to my texts in an efficient matter, usually replying right away (feel bad for taking 4 hours to reply to her, but that's how the game is played lol)

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    Default Re: How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    If she's responding in a positive and quickly manner, then she might be waiting for you to set something up.

    My text advice isn't the best, but that looks good so far (just avoid the sending two in a row messages if you can help it, although it doesn't seem to matter much).
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    Default Re: How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    You're doing pretty good so far. Now it's time to get to know her a little bit better. Ask some random questions like: "Tell me something almost nobody knows about you?" or "You have to choose, going to tropical swimming pool or going to the beach?" Just ask something random and you can go from there.

    Also interesting to know is a concept by Yad. He says he can keep conversations going by using a imaginary basket of topics. For example, a girl says "I did a work-out with my best-friend yesterday". The topics which are in the basket now are: working out and best-friend. You could start asking about working out, "what do you do, you must be in-shape, how often do you work-out, you got some work-out tips for me". After this topic ends, a lot more topics have entered the basket, for instance: she dances, she is really into sports, some interesting work-out tips, and the topic best-friend is still there.
    Now you could take another topic out of the basket. Each topic gives new topics to talk about, this way you could talk forever.
    All credits for this one go to Yad.

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    Default Re: How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    This looks pretty good right now. Be careful about that King of Random stuff. Sometimes, being random can break the flow of the conversation, and make it seem jumbled up. This can prevent a proper escalation of attraction, and although rapport may be built up, it won't feel like enough. Agreed on the double messaging, but overall humor and flirtation is pretty good (loved the flying possum bit ).

    The basket tip brought up by Kevin is also really good. I know it as nouning, and it's really good for people who have a hard time keeping the flow of the conversation going. Just make sure that when you do use it, you don't go onto a huge question train. When nouning, try to pick out a noun, and then add on a bit related to that noun. Using the workout stuff as an example, she says she worked out with her best friend. You can then talk about how you don't do dry land workouts because you're like a fish out of water, or how your best friend once fell off the tread mill when it was only going at 4 miles per hour. Alternate between question and detail.

    To get this further, you need to go further. This seems like you have known her for a bit, so it's safe to try and take it to an in-person interaction.
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    Default Re: How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    So far, I think I've done well enough. Won't post the convo since it would be long..but I've definitely felt like i have done a good job of comforting her, building rapport, and making her laugh. And she usually responds with at least medium sized messages unless she's busy, with her friends, or tailgating somewhere. My plan is to build sexual attraction (Kino, etc) when I eventually meet up with her hopefully. My routine is always comfort and rapport on text/e-mail, then sexual attraction during the meet up.

    My schedule is still a bit up in the air with me looking for jobs and probably working during the weekends, looking for a new car, and school coming up in two weeks, so I haven't tried to arrange anything in person yet. I'm actually talking with yet another amazing chick who's my type on okcupid and she also lives in Jersey lol. It would be my luck that they aren't around me, although at least there only one state away so it could be worse.

    Really the only thing I could complain about her is I usually text first. It's not that big of a deal to me since we haven't even met up yet and it's understood for the guy to usually do the chasing, but it's probably the only thing that's a negative I guess lol. She responds with long texts and usually right away, which is good.

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    Default Re: How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    Some girls don't initiate contact even when they are highly interested. A girl i'm dating right now is highly interested but is shy and thinks she's disturbing me by sending text messages. If they get more comfortable with you they might start taking more initiative.

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    Default Re: How to turn this into a date? Got her number from okcupid

    Funny you say that, because last night she went to a concert and I texted her a bit when she was tailgating. I eventually stopped texting cause I joked saying I don't want to bug her at the concert. Like two hours later, she sends me a text saying if I have a snapchat. She said she could have texted me some pics, but they wouldn't be as fun. Told her I had one but barely use it as I hate a lot of social media sites like Instagram, twitter, etc. She said the lighting was bad there anyway so just messaged me a couple of pics of what the stage looked like and stuff.

    Basically..your point seems to be true.


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