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    Splendid is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Getting that first message on C-date right

    I did some searching around the forum, and I failed to find a thread on c-date, so I take the liberty of starting one and hope some of you have some good clues for me.

    As you might have guessed by now, I recently signed up for c-date. For those of you who are not familiar with the concept, this is a site designed for casual dating. Making a profile is simple, because there are very few things to fill in. Anonymity is key. You can add a picture, and choose when to un-blur it to a contact; you add you height, figure, hair, eyes and starsign, and that is it. The only thing left is to pick five photos from a gallery that are to illustrate your mood. Evidently, mine is "a bit romantic". Then the page will give you a handful of contacts each day, and these you can write, but of course their profiles have no more information than yours.

    The tricky part is how to open when these are the only clues you have?

    I have tried a few things: I have tried some remarks on the sign they are, asking if black eyes and blond hair is a normal combination, commenting on their height (I am tall myself), and I have tried several varitites on these mood pictures. This has been pretty much in vain.

    Most respones have been scammers asking for my e-mail and money for a plane ticket; two have answered politely, but without giving me anything to work on; and one where the talk is mindless and sad (a poor girl with plenty of issues is not what I was hoping for in my casual date, and now I doubt we can get off that track).

    Any ideas on how to open with a funny remark on their profile and get a reply?

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    Default Re: Getting that first message on C-date right

    Question by casual dating do you mean hookup site? Also do women pay to be on this site or is it free for them?

    I'm not sure you can do anything here but maybe asking them what they like to do for fun.

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    Splendid is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Getting that first message on C-date right

    Thanks, PokerPlayer. It is a hookup site, and as far as I know, women also have to pay to sign up. Their prices are not listed anywhere, but I think both sexes pay here. I should sign up with a female account to get a look from the other side, but first I will send away some messages asking about fun.

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    Default Re: Getting that first message on C-date right

    I'll add a couple more pointers. My experience with DTF chicks online has told me this:

    No matter how crude their username, profile, and pictures are don't open with a really crude message and at least part of it should be non sexual. Something like "What do you like doing in or out of the bedroom?" is about as sexual as it should get. It's weird but even girls that call themselves sluts don't like being treated like sluts right off the bat. Think of it like a business meeting. You both there to do business but chances are you're going to start with some unrelated small talk before getting down to business. Same applies here. Also 99% of the guys are going to send messages like "Wanna fark? Here's my phone number and address, come over tonight. Even DTF chicks view that as crude and desperate.

    Also be warned every DTF chick I've ever met came with baggage. That doesn't mean they're all bad people but just about all of them had something happen to them in their past that made them that way. Also a lot of them have STDs so be careful and don't take their word on anything related to that.

    Also if the site allows you to see when a profile was created then don't contact the super new ones. Fake profiles usually get deleted after a couple weeks.

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    Splendid is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Getting that first message on C-date right

    Thanks again. For good or worse, the blunt messaging is not quite my style, so I avoid the very direct style. I doubt I would be eager to contact a girl with an opener like that.

    My impression too would be that baggage often is a factor. And you are absolutely right, baggage and STDs alike do one little good.


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