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Thread: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

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    Default Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    Brought home a girl and we were making out. I moved on the bed were I removed her bra but couldn’t get past the pants and she stood up.
    As I didn’t want her to leave with that memory, we sat another half an hour as we hugged and touched a bit.
    I thought it would have been a sure thing on the second meet up.
    But now she writes:

    “It’s a great evening. But I have a BF.
    That’s why I couldn’t stay with you. (that's why she could make out and snuggle all the time)
    I thought you want to be my friend (yeah sure).
    But its okay. Have a nice day and weekend”


    I was a bit put off and angry, I didn’t expect she had a BF (and thank god I didn’t walk her to her place ).
    She received a call from someone during the evening to whom she said quite dismissively “I’m busy now” and talked for less than 2 minutes, I guess that was him.

    My reply:
    “it will be our little secret.
    Yes, nice evening.
    (inside silly joke)
    Until next time



    How does it sound?
    Maybe I shouldn't have stressed about the "little secret" as that makes her feel a cheater?

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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    The message is pretty good, you can probably go through with it. Everything else you did was pretty good, from preventing buyer's remorse to salvaging the night.

    If you want to get at this girl, you're going to have to start doing two things. The first is bf destroyer. The sooner you can get the other guy out of the picture, the sooner it won't feel like there's a roadblock in getting her. The second thing to do is to transform your interactions. You want to establish yourself as a fantasy, a forbidden fruit that will give her chills and thrills every time she tastes it. Doing that is the quickest way to get her again while she still has the boyfriend.
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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    Texted her this evening and went like this:

    ME
    How was the weekend with (inside joke) D .
    Mine was quite fun.
    When is it a good day for you to meet?


    HER
    Weekend was great.
    But I don't think we can meet.
    I'm not looking for any relationship (I wonder why should she think I wanted a relationship with a cheater here for only some months)
    I'm sorry. Have a nice evening.


    ME
    Neither do I , just looking for a good time with cool people and you seemed so

    HER
    I saw last week what you wanted. (yep, I did it all by myself )
    Anyway I don't have time this week.
    Maybe later, I'll think about it.


    ME
    D. D... I never forced anybody and I'm not gonna start now.
    You seemed like a cool girl and if we feel like sharing a nice time together, let's just do so


    What do you think?
    It puzzles me how at times a girl, especially if with a BF, is so happy to be with you and then never wants to see you again..

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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    i dont know much but im pre sure that she is feeling guilty. im just a started but i hope that helps
    I may be a starter but I like to help whatever ways I can

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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    I wanted help with my text. Is there anyway I can upload a pic of my text?
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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    Sounds good but I would reply at all. If anything run bf destroyer. Should be pretty way given that she is already making out with you.
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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    What Swagman said.
    She's not going to respond to pressure. She feels buyers remorse. A possible route could've been to turn the tables on her by saying, I can't believe you didn't tell me you had a boyfriend, I'm sure he's a great guy and now I feel bad. That would've re-framed the situation.
    At this point it might be viable to freeze for awhile then re-open with that new frame in mind. I don't like that she has complete control of the situation. I wonder if a group date, such as going to the club with friends for drinks would be a way to get back together without the guilt- "I have some cool friends I want you to meet."

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    Default Re: Making out at mine, she texts she has a BF: how to reply

    Thanks guys, appreciate your opinions and suggestions .

    The idea of turning the table and blaming her for not having said about the BF before sounds a very interesting idea, and it would have allowed me to take off my chest that bad feeling I had when I was later told.

    Not really because I'm that into her -even though I'd do her -, but... What kind of person behave likes this?
    When I think about it, I get a grimace on my face..

    I'm not sure if it would have been effective in meeting again though, as she might associate me with bad feelings..


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