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    Default Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    So I'm trying to built a little comfort/rapport with this girl before I can really start talking to her and get her on the phone, I need some advice plus she's a boring texter, one sentence type of texter.( we just started texting). So I need some advice on how to do it and built rapport and comfort.
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    Default Re: Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    Comfort and rapport is being build by getting to know each other as a person. Make some statements, so she could respond to these. For instance, "I went ice skating this weekend, I absolutely loved it!". Now she could respond with telling her opinion on the subject, if she doesn't then you could ask for her opinion "What do you think of ice skating" or tease her "I bet you are the worst at ice skating".

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    Default Re: Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    She doesn't responds to statements. I already tried a few, all she said was "ok"
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    Default Re: Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    Marv, she doesn't sound like she's interested. If all she's sending you are short, uninvolved messages, then she doesn't want anything to do with you. I'm pretty sure you have sent her at least one message designed for more involvement ( Like "So what do you do for fun?" ), and if that didn't get a reaction out of her then there's really no hope.

    I would say move on, and try something new.
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    Default Re: Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    Either she's a huge introvert and is shy even during text, or she's not interested at all (most likely).

    I would move on either way.
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    Default Re: Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    Like she's interested( bf destroyer worked on her). She answers questions when I ask her them but I'm not used to asking questions anymore lol, I'm more into statements now. ( I think she's the type who wants to be asked question more instead of answering statements. Idk I'll just tell her I don't got time for bs and she should tell me if she's interested or not instead of playing games. Straight forward. ( is that AFC?)
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    Default Re: Building rapport and comfort with new girl

    Tough call man. I usually don't try rapport and comfort until I've hooked a girl with some wild statements and DHVs. Is she still seeing this boyfriend, or did she break it off completely? One dangerous way to build comfort is to say "I'm here for you, I know you're going through a tough time," and offer to come over with some wine or something. It's dangerous because you put one foot into the friend zone. At this point though it seems like her interest level is low, you might try some techniques to reframe yourself; I find gaming other women and posting pics on facebook during a Freeze Out to be highly effective. In terms of conversation, Gambler (aka Richard La Ruina) came up with a pretty cool formula:

    1. question
    2. statement or insight inquiring into her motivation, character, and/ emotion (70 % of speech)
    3. Deeper question related to insights gained.

    Best of luck man!


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