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    Default HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    Hey guys,
    Quick background, I met this HB last semester and we clicked texted back and forth for about 3 months, during which she used to call me and even start text conversation at times. Then she just stopped replying to my texts (2 of them), So after the second text (9 days apart) she gave me a dry ass reply, so I just cut her loose, but she was still coming at my job every now and then to get groceries and other stuff. Every time she came and we saw each other, I always make sure we talk and acted as if it didn't mean much to me that we stop texting and always smile and talk to her.

    Fasfoward to 6 months later, today she came through and as usual I smiled and talked to her teasing her, and she asked me about school, which I responded that everything was fine, then I returned her the question and she told me she was done and graduated last semester, so I responded playfully "that me and her couldn't talk or be friends anymore, because she graduated before me and I hated her for that". She played along and say why? We Should still be friends. And I said that I would think about it.

    Before she left she pulled up her phone and act like she was going through it, and said "I think I still got your number", and I said "oh really!?! Well don't be a stranger".
    And she said " your number start with xxx, right? And I said yes and ejected.

    So now she texted me few minutes ago saying " hey it's HB"
    now my question is how to answer to that without sounding too excited and without over gaming? I don't want to lose that one the way I dd before, but I that same time I feel like if she came back, I should fall back and let her do the chasing.

    I was thinking about using some of the stuff we talked about today like:
    " still hate you HB, and we still can't be friends ;-)"

    What are your thoughts on that guys? Help needed.
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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    May depend on how you lost her the first time around. Did you drop the momentum? Make a mistake? Or was it something external?

    If it was momentum, I would be sure not let it fall off again. Don't over-correct, though, you still want her to be chasing you, just give her a little more in return than you had before. Playing hard to get is a calibration game, overdoing it is just as bad as underdoing it. PUAs know not to give girls attention for free, and to make her work for it, but sometimes we forget to reward the girl when she is chasing. How many times in overhearing breakup speeches have you heard a phrase like "I try so hard to please you, nothing I ever do makes you happy." There's the thrill of the chase, but at some point everyone will quit a game they think they can't win.

    Your response phrase is good, though you might go with something a little fresher than just repeating the prior tease. Don't have to throw it out entirely, could just tie it together with something else.

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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    You could use yours, my only hesitation is I don't like the word friend at any point in the interaction. You did well with it the first time, but there's no need to keep dropping the f-bomb.

    "HB? Hmm I don't know any HB..."

    "You've reached Sexting 2.0, a personell will be with you shortly."

    "I saw the wildest thing last night..."

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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    Quote Originally Posted by Magnum View Post
    May depend on how you lost her the first time around. Did you drop the momentum? Make a mistake? Or was it something external?
    I think that was something external, because now thinking about it and she told me she just graduated last semester, it might have been school. The momentum was good, and I was makin sure to match her "texting excitement" with same length text message, so I don't think it was a mistake from my end, as after sending 2 texts (days apart) and getting a dry reply, I cut her loose.

    Thanks for the insight, I'll try to work more on my text as you pointed out and try and refresh it a little, I'll kep you posted.
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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    Quote Originally Posted by Lancelot View Post
    You could use yours, my only hesitation is I don't like the word friend at any point in the interaction. You did well with it the first time, but there's no need to keep dropping the f-bomb.

    "HB? Hmm I don't know any HB..."

    "You've reached Sexting 2.0, a personell will be with you shortly."

    "I saw the wildest thing last night..."
    Totally agree with you on the f-bomb, as it could very well be a onee way ticket to where I don't wanna go.
    But at the same time, I don't want to over game her too, as if she falls back and let me do it, I will end up in the position of the one chasing her and she already had that opportunity and didn't take advantage of it lol. Now I want to lay back and let her do the chasing because she the one who reangaged me!! On the other hand I want to reward her for it but not game her.

    Thanks for the response guys really appreciate it
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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    You got it man; you might try playing with freezing on a small scale. I do it all the time; a girl sends a text, and I take my sweet time to get to it. Definitely let her do the chasing but you can still be witty and surprising.

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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    I like the way you think Lancelot, this freezing on a small scale is definitely the next big thing!!! I'll surprise her alright. In the mean time I came up with this, tell me what you think:

    "Hey there nerdball ( because she finish college), I still hate you for graduating before me."
    Or
    "hey nerdy, I still hate you for graduating before me, which means you got a lot of making up to do ;-).

    Do you think it's fresh enough while mixing up some callback humor?
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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    Nerdball is great, I might steal that.
    "Hey there Nerdball"
    See what she responds with. Why not? You feel pretty confident she will pursue and you don't want to come of as chasing. She'll probably ask you some boring question, to which you will have a funny and/or interesting answer. If a day goes by and she hasn't replied, then just use a canned opener like "I saw the wildest thing last night.." "What?" "Two chicks fighting over some ugly little bald dude. Shits crazy around campus, but I guess you wouldn't know what with your fancy graduation and all."

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    Default Re: HB initiate contact 6 month later...

    These openers are pretty good, but you have got to stop wasting time. Just pick one and move on to the next phase of things.

    It's a new day, and it seems like she's curious over you. However, it's just curiosity, and if handled incorrectly it can quickly go down south. Just play it cool and do some light bantering with her. Flirt and start to get the ball rolling again, but don't push for an interaction for at least a week.

    Nice and easy does it every time

    By the way, is there any way that you could possibly give us more details on your first round with her? For example, what were your conversations like, and what did you do with her? Info like this can be useful in identifying errors and preventing a repeating of history.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    By the way, is there any way that you could possibly give us more details on your first round with her? For example, what were your conversations like, and what did you do with her? Info like this can be useful in identifying errors and preventing a repeating of history.
    Ok here it is, so please telle if you see anything wrong or something I could have done better and maybe fix it now.

    <-- Hey. Its HB (2/17/13)
    --> surprised you still alive after all the beers you drank yesterday lol...
    <-- hahaha 6:39pm
    <-- wyd 9:50 pm

    (2/18/13)
    <-- hey 3.22pm
    --> hey there Mrs alcoholic anonymous 8.40pm
    <-- What are you doing? 8.42pm
    --> Just park to the waffle house, in urgent need of a double waffle #dontjudgeme lol... What it looks like on your side HB 8.51pm
    <-- I'm at a meeting for a presentation. When u going home 8.52pm
    --> Wow really!?! Whenever I'm done working on my food (if I don't get another one) lol huge cravings!! 9.04pm
    <-- cool 9.18pm
    <-- I'm done with my presentation 9.40pm
    <-- R u still eating? I want to eat 9.48pm
    --> I done left 10.01pm
    <-- Aww. I got my McDonalds 10.02pm

    (2/19/13)
    --> hey there 12.13pm
    <-- what's up 12.14pm
    --> About to go to Barnes and nobles you on campus? 12.21pm
    <-- Yes. Sitting in social science parking lot 12.23pm
    --> Alright ride with to Barnes and nobles since you ain't doing much... Lol 12.29pm
    <-- I got class at 1. But I would have loved to go. Love books! !!! 12.31pm
    *then she called me up when I was at B&N and we talk a little*
    <-- You had fun at Barnes and noble? 3.15pm
    --> Pretty much...we definitely gotta do it together next time so I can see what kind of books you like!! 8.30pm

    (2/28/13)
    --> Hey there Mrs alcoholic anonymous 8.04pm
    *no reply whatsoever*

    (3/13/13)
    --> What's up HB... Didn't hear from you in a while is everything ok with you? 9.32pm
    <-- yea I'm ok. 9.51pm
    --> Wow girl you got me worried, but good to know you ok tho... How's your break coming along? 10.26pm
    *no reply whatsoever, until she reopened me yesterday*

    Let me know what you think, because it maybe something in there that I don't see or that I overlooked, thanks.
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