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    That_Guy24 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need critiquing on a text opener.

    Hey guys, this is my first time posting here. I met a girl at the bar last night and she seemed to be into me. Got her number and sent her a text this afternoon but got no reply.
    The text said: " so I was a little tipsy last night, but you seemed like a pretty cool chick. Was I correct with my assumption?"

    Looking to improve on my text game, so any input would be great.

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    Looks pretty good actually. You are kind of qualifying her by making her agree with you assumption. An even better text could be: "so I was little tipsy last night, but you seemd like a pretty cool chick, but I could be totally wrong here. Tell me something interesting about you most people don't know."

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    Yea in hind sight that would have been a better choice of words.
    Since I got no response, should I follow up with a second text? It's been over 24 hrs since the first text was sent

    Possibly the "well you've obviously been abducted by aliens blah blah blah" line?

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    It could be worth a follow up. Did you make a date before you got the number? How long did you talk? rapport and comfort-building? I know attractive women who actually joke at the end of the night about the numbers in their phone while deleting them, almost like a competition. Personally I have had girls swooning and making out with me by the end of the night and then didn't get back to me the next day because I didn't build enough comfort and rapport.
    On the subject of the opener. If there is one text opener after a club/bar night that I like, it's this: I just found out some very important news... OR I saw the wildest thing last night... Usually I'll use these 24-72 hours after depending on the connection. The reason they work is because everyone wants to know what the news is, and everyone wants to know what the wild thing I saw was. Even if they have no desire to ever see me again, I'll get messaged back.

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    Quote Originally Posted by That_Guy24 View Post
    The text said: " so I was a little tipsy last night, but you seemed like a pretty cool chick. Was I correct with my assumption?
    I think the problem here is that your first text was "asking" for a reply, which is always a bad idea for a first text message, always a bad idea period. We are on our way to become PUA, and PUAs don't ask for reply, we make statements and let you comment on it, we give you the opportunity to comment on our texts. Like Lancelot opened, he let the girl curiosity go wild and let her decide if she wants to reply or not. If she doesn't it's all good he was just making a statement.

    I think this text put her in a lose lose situation, because if she say no, it might freak you out. If she say yes, she has to qualify and I think she might feel that it's too early to qualify to a guy she barely knows.

    I would say let another 24hr go by and reopen with some new, different and more refreshing, don't even acknowledge that she didn't text you back. One of the reason why you should always have multiple HB on text so each gets a "rest" period at times.
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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    Yea I can see how leading with a question was a mistake. I thought with the type of personality that she had she would have needed to assure me that she was "cool".. But obviously that wasn't the case haha. We talked for over an hour, joking about the bad karaoke and other fun things like that. It felt like we had rapport, but that's about as far as we got because the bar was closing. I got her number and she wanted me to text her so she had mine.

    If I decide to reopen would y'all still suggest something like " I saw the wildest thing last night"?

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    you did good bro, opener looks cool
    Nice guys don't finish last, boring guys does.

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    Yeah man go for it. Next time you sarge, have some events/stuff in mind, perhaps things you plan to do with friends in the coming week. You can casually mention them during conversation (without inviting her...yet). Then as if a light bulb goes on, tell her she's welcome to come along. If she says no it's not a big deal because you didn't really ask her, you just opened the invitation. This is just another little way to ground the number in something real aside from a wild night out.
    You can definitely send another message, you've got nothing to lose, especially with something neutral like that. Sometimes I'll throw something really wild out there in the face of no response: Fine then. But I want my friendship bracelet back. Really depends on your style in the field, I tend to be a cocky funny type.

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    Default Re: Need critiquing on a text opener.

    I like to use humor in openers.

    I woulda said " I met this really cool girl at the bar last night but i cant remember her name, wanna help me out :P "

    But whats done is done so if youre gonna re initiate you wanna minimize any sense of desperation.

    I would re-initiate with something like; " dam did I get so hammered that i typed your number in wrong" DONT put a question mark
    -"Dependence is only a state of mind, Independence is a state of being, because in the end all we really have in the world is ourselves"


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