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Thread: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

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    Default Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    So before I go on with the story I have to say up front that when it comes to texting girls, I'm typically incredible and can most of the time get another meetup or f-close...this time I think I really screwed up though...let me know what you guys think:

    So last Saturday I was at a bar with some friends celebrating my buddies last night visiting me at the shore before going off to work. I had been drinking most of the night and quite honestly was pretty drunk. I managed to pick up this really cute brunette (no it wasn't beer goggles...she was still an HB7.5 the next morning ) at the bar waiting for a drink. We danced, had fun, I made her laugh with awesome twirling dance moves and then next thing you know, I'm making out with her (which she initiated).

    We get a cab back to my place and (trying not to go into detail too much) do everything except f-close because she's not on the pill and I didn't have protection. Usually I'd be upset at myself for not planning ahead but in this case I just wanted to be safe and I was exhausted from all the drinking. So we both went to sleep.

    The next morning we woke up together and I drove her home. It wasn't an awkward ride to her place though because I continued to be the fun, energetic guy she met at the bar the night before. I made her laugh and we talked about just graduating etc.

    So here is where the text game comes in:

    When I was with her in the cab home she gave me her number and I texted her:

    Me: Ayooo it's Shoreguy28. Save my number cause it's the most important one you're gonna get

    I texted her that so she would have my number the next day but I probably should have put a winkie face at the end to be more playful...

    The next morning after I dropped her off and honked my horn as I was leaving (as a joke);

    Me: Ayooo hope I didn't wake up the parents....
    Her: Haha they are awake. Didn't bother me tho lol
    Me: Hahh you should have let me meet them +(party hat, monkey face, and beer glass emoticons)

    I realize now that it probably sounded really creepy getting a text like that from a guy you barely know but I was really just making a joke and idk if she got that...her response:

    Her: Lol funnyy
    Me: Go to bed butthead (sleeping smiley)

    Me (Five hours later at 530 PM): WAKE UP WAKE UP WAKE UP!!!
    Her: Lol I've been awake. I slept until 2
    Me: Lol I passed out at 5 till now and currently grabbing a drink what are you up to
    Her: Haha lucky. I'm probably just going to stay in and do nothing. I'm tired from the weekend lol
    Me: Such a bummer cause I was planning on flying us to Vegas, getting married, argue about our third kid's name, divorce, and grow old, lonely and depressed hahah
    Her: Lol sounds fun

    At this point I really felt like she wasn't interested so I stopped texting her until the next day:

    Me: I have a fantastic idea...

    ....No response for 6 hours.....

    Me (again): Well I'm going to AC tn for a show and have a free room...you should drop whatever plans you have and come...but if I don't hear from you in the next 13 minutes I'll assume you hate my guts and no longer want to have my babies hahah

    ....No response......

    Now that I've wrote all this out I'm kind of realizing I came on wayy too strong which isn't something I typically do. It's been 5 days since we met and 3 days since I last texted her...my questions is, should I even bother trying to contact her again?? If yes, give me some opinions of what to do...If no, I'll leave it alone and maybe she'll hit me up for the weekend.

    Side note: Since practicing my pick-up I've truly enhanced my life in more ways than I could have ever imagined. I've been with more gorgeous women this past year than I could have thought possible but for some reason I CANNOT get this one out of my head! Probably because I haven't screwed up this bad in a few weeks but the last thing I wanna get is oneitis

    Let me know what you guys think and don't hold anything back.

    As usual, thanks so much in advance guys!!

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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    You came off very desperate and needy.
    And to be completely honest,recapturing her interest will be VERY difficult, but not impossible.

    Use this situation as an experiment. you said you didn't f-close.
    So text her and say "lets get drunk again and finish what we started"

    You shouldnt worry if she replies or not, the key is to incorporate that same attitude in future encounters when youre texting.
    -"Dependence is only a state of mind, Independence is a state of being, because in the end all we really have in the world is ourselves"

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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    I can see two possible reasons to why this happened. One is out of your control, and the other one is.

    The first one is that this was just probably a One Night Stand. She wasn't looking for anything serious, you two just had your fun, and she went off on her separate way. From the start it didn't seem like she was engaged, and she dropped off more and more the further you went on. No matter what you did, you would have not gotten her in the end because it was not her intention or desire to continue.

    The second one was the point that you brought up. It does sound like you were overbearing the entire time, and you can't play the role of the funny guy 24/7. Being a comedian, I learned that the number one law of being funny is to only do it when necessary. It is not necessary to entertain 24/7, and taking it down to a more serious and intimate level at times can build up some big time attraction and rapport.

    Another piece of advice I can give you is this: when you are expecting to spit fire, do not do excessive drinking. When out at the bars, you want to try and keep your head in the game as much as possible. The more alcohol you have, the less control you will have.

    Overall, it sounds like you did pretty good, but there are always things you can work on and improve. I'm happy that you are advancing in the game so quickly, and I only wish you will excel more
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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    @Jafari...to be honest, I don't enjoy getting that drunk because it screws up my game so I don't think that's a solid approach at this point..thanks for the reply though...made me chuckle hah

    @SwagMan....As usual...awesome advice, thanks a lot man. I have a feeling it was the second of your reasons because she doesn't seem like the type of girl that does one-night stands (I'm usually a pretty good/accurate judge of girls my age).

    With that being said, do you have any advice for what I can do/say/text her that could help my situation? Or should I just count this one as a loss? LOL
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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    Me: Such a bummer cause I was planning on flying us to Vegas, getting married, argue about our third kid's name, divorce, and grow old, lonely and depressed hahah
    Her: Lol sounds fun <-- if this was her last how much IOIs would you need.

    Tell her you had low battery, so that when you meet her later you can reengage.make sure you hint the vegas text and that you thought you guys just met but she was nice to you so choose to let her in on that.

    sample: my battery got low when i sent the vegas text.so i let if off till the next..

    If this was the problem it could quench fast..

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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    Me: Such a bummer cause I was planning on flying us to Vegas, getting married, argue about our third kid's name, divorce, and grow old, lonely and depressed hahah
    Her: Lol sounds fun <-- if this was her last how much IOIs would you need.

    Tell her you had low battery, so that when you meet her later you can reengage.make sure you hint the vegas text and that you thought you guys just met but she was nice to you so choose to let her in on that.

    sample: my battery got low when i sent the vegas text.so i let if off till the next..

    If this was the problem it could quench fast..

    Thanks so much for the reply but I think you skipped the last part of my story where I texted her the next day after?

    Let me know if you have anything else to add.

    Thanks man!
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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    I haven't read the responses so forgive me if I reiterate anything.

    Actually I've used alot of the lines you've said successfully. They're pretty harmless and humorous. I think it was your timing and frequency. You used three when I would've stuck with just one. And obviously may have been too early which I'm sure you already know.

    You're next step? Backing off for a bit is recommended. How to initiate? Tough call. I usually stick to telling her something that happened in my day that reminded me of her. But if she's creeped out at this point it's not guaranteed that will work.

    It's late to use this technique, but I'll call out the elephant in the room quite often. It let's them know you get it and builds rapport. Say I say something a bit off-putting and I notice. I'll literally say "Whoah that was awkward. I'll go cry in a corner now and write in my diary." Just to alleviate any awkwardness that may have been created and I move onto the next subject.

    Don't let your ego get the best of you. We all had these moments and it's best to let it go and chalk it up to a learning experience.

    The best part about this now is that you can literally try out any technique you weren't sure would work before and use it on her. Because you have nothing to lose
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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    Thanks so much for the reply but I think you skipped the last part of my story where I texted her the next day after?

    Let me know if you have anything else to add.


    Thanks man!
    Get that handled first some girls when they are engaged may not take rejection lightly so along yur line if this is the main..she may coil.
    when you say that do not go into texting right back. wait for a bit.cold calling later may wrk best.

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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    I haven't read the responses so forgive me if I reiterate anything.

    Actually I've used alot of the lines you've said successfully. They're pretty harmless and humorous. I think it was your timing and frequency. You used three when I would've stuck with just one. And obviously may have been too early which I'm sure you already know.

    You're next step? Backing off for a bit is recommended. How to initiate? Tough call. I usually stick to telling her something that happened in my day that reminded me of her. But if she's creeped out at this point it's not guaranteed that will work.

    It's late to use this technique, but I'll call out the elephant in the room quite often. It let's them know you get it and builds rapport. Say I say something a bit off-putting and I notice. I'll literally say "Whoah that was awkward. I'll go cry in a corner now and write in my diary." Just to alleviate any awkwardness that may have been created and I move onto the next subject.

    Don't let your ego get the best of you. We all had these moments and it's best to let it go and chalk it up to a learning experience.

    The best part about this now is that you can literally try out any technique you weren't sure would work before and use it on her. Because you have nothing to lose
    Thanks for the awesome reply man...through the process of screwing up text convos with girls I've also learned a great deal of what NOT to do LOL

    I definitely want to try SOMETHING to regain her attention because I literally have nothing to lose.

    @BatMan...based on your experience, what technique would you try next?

    Thanks a lot everyone again for the help!
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    Default Re: Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...

    Truth be told I think the whole situation was just her wanting to party and have some fun( One Night Stand). She got what she wanted and unless you want something more from her you should just hit her up when you want to meet her up. ( she probably knows that all you want to do is Fark her, so you might as well not pretend you want to be friends with her and all that holly stuff. She probably smelled the bullsh1t.). That's my opinion because I sometimes get those oneitis feeling when I have sex with a girl( the attachment), like I NEED(Y) to keep talking to her so I make myself feel less than a jerk or using her.( that's how I feel and that's my opinion. Hope it helps a little even though you didn't have sex with her it's still probably the same feeling).
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