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    Default Want opinions - situation in wich I kissed my friend

    Hi, I'm new in here, as well as in pua, and wanted some opinions from more experienced man. Firstly I'm sorry for any grammar mistakes, as english is my second language.

    Here's the situation: I have this long time female friend, and we've been hanging out a lot lately (especially this year). But recently I came across some pua material, and had many insights.. I realized I've been a beta my entire life, and that I was probably seen by this friend as her gay best friend. I say that because we've been hanging out a lot this year, doing couple's stuff, but without any sex envolved.

    That's when I decided to change things. The first thing I did was to man up and try to kiss her (that was about a month ago). She refused, and right after that I tried to forget about her and start meeting new chicks. I did not stop speaking to her, as we are in the same circle of friends, but I just wasn't as present as before, and started avoiding meeting with her alone.

    I think she felt that, and then a couple of days ago, as we were at a bar (me, her and some other friends) she started to flirt with me, and we ended up kissing. We were both drunk and the kiss wasn't very long, as we did it hiding from our friends.

    The next day she texted me and we also talked on the phone. We didn't mention the kiss, and both just pretended nothing happened. Then yesterday she called enviting me to this bar where she already was with another friend. We hanged out, but as we were among other friends, we did not hook up or even talk about it.

    After we left, as I got home, I couldn't stop thinking about the kiss, as I do have a crush on her. So I called her and told I wanted to talk to her, and then went to her place. As I got there, I told her I didn't forget about our kiss, and that I wanted to kiss her again. She said no.

    So I told her I just wanted to make that clear, and that then we should just forget about it and remain friends. I tried to keep it cool and left. I decided to try to forget about her for real now (I'll just avoid her from now on), and start chasing other woman, but I wanna learn as much as I can from the experience and understand what happened.

    Was she playing me? Why would she flirt with me a couple of weeks after she refused my kiss? And why would she refuse it again the day after we kissed? Did I make the wrong moves?

    The thing is she is single, but I know she has many male friends, and many of them wanna hook-up with her. What started crossing my mind is that she is just a player, and wanted me to chase her, like others do. I'm not gonna do that, but it would be good to understand what happened.

    Thanks for the help, and sorry for the long text.

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    Default Re: Want opinions - situation in wich I kissed my friend

    shouldn't have gone to her place.now you look like all you want is that.which is bad sort of.she was attracted to you though.you may move on for now.unless of course you don't mind..

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    Default Re: Want opinions - situation in wich I kissed my friend

    Please don't double post man. I know it was probably for some mistake, but it isn't allowed here on the forums. Once you post in a category, just keep it there.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Want opinions - situation in wich I kissed my friend

    She wants attention dude. You were friend zoned by being a chump. When you ignored her, you made her miss the attention and want it back - but when you told her you wanted to kiss her again, you laid all your cards on the table and told her it's her move.

    She's not a player, she's just like every other girl out there seeking validation. Heres an old post of mine that talks about these types a little bit

    http://www.puaforums.com/dating-advi...igure-out.html
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    Default Re: Want opinions - situation in wich I kissed my friend

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    Please don't double post man. I know it was probably for some mistake, but it isn't allowed here on the forums. Once you post in a category, just keep it there.
    I'm sorry for that, Swagman. I won't be doing it again.

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    Default Re: Want opinions - situation in wich I kissed my friend

    Quote Originally Posted by The Red Baron View Post
    She wants attention dude. You were friend zoned by being a chump. When you ignored her, you made her miss the attention and want it back - but when you told her you wanted to kiss her again, you laid all your cards on the table and told her it's her move.

    She's not a player, she's just like every other girl out there seeking validation. Heres an old post of mine that talks about these types a little bit
    Hi, Red Baron. Thanks for the feedback. I read the topic on your link, and it does make a lot f sense. So what's your guess in the situation I described? You think it wouldn't have worked anyways?


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