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Thread: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

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    Default Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    So Ive been texting this chick for a few months actually , i was going to start dating her but shes gone from hot to cold, all the IOIs ive been forcing have kind of started to die off and the mystery aspect of me being new and attractive is gone too, im trying to get her to come down to go on a date but since its already really hard to do (she lives with very anti male involvement parents) about an hour away, shes not going to do it unless i can get her attracted again.

    Suggestions on escalating from here?

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    Default Re: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    Have you both met in person yet? I've realized as soon as I Number Close I try to meet up very soon afterwards. From there I try to get as physical as possible within reason. Maybe she feels you're a good texting buddy that provides comfort and attention due to being out of range distance-wise?

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    Default Re: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    Nah , ive never actually met her, i met her on facebook through some mutual friends , but earlier in the deal she was talking like every day about how she wanted to do the deed , but now barely any although she still says she doesn't want to be with anyone else a lot.

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    Default Re: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    There is an old saying:

    "Strike when the iron is hot"

    This saying refers to the blacksmith who works with iron. First he heats the iron until it is red hot and soft. Then he immediately hits the iron with his hammer to change its shape. If he waits, the iron becomes cold and hard again, and he cannot shape it.

    I don't think you can get her hot again but you should give it one more shot.Freeze her out and then re-engage her with a text starting a new thread.

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    Default Re: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Roxasinside View Post
    but earlier in the deal she was talking like every day about how she wanted to do the deed
    Yeah dave nailed it perfectly. When she suggested about meeting up and getting physical, that was your queue to initiate. I wouldn't conclude that you've entirely missed your chance, but at this point it might be hard to come back from it. Freeze Out like dave mentioned and hit her with an xyz date early on

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    Default Re: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    Ya Freezing out might work cause she really does seem to want me to respond to her when she texts and gets mad when i dont, This girl has said she wants me to date her so i just need to stop the lukewarm. What exactly though is an XYZ date?

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    Default Re: Trying to get things from long to short distance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Roxasinside View Post
    Ya Freezing out might work cause she really does seem to want me to respond to her when she texts and gets mad when i dont, This girl has said she wants me to date her so i just need to stop the lukewarm. What exactly though is an XYZ date?
    It's when you firmly set a day, time and place without asking for her permission. But first I would negotiate on a day that works best for both of you but from there respond:

    Ex: "Aight Tuesday, Joe Schmoe's Bowling Alley @ 8:36"


    I like to use a random time to add humor to it. If she responds with why the weird time? or something like that I usually reply with "Being different is awesome" or something along those lines.

    Girls mainly hate the burden of making decisions. Ease her mind by doing it for her and acting Alpha. It'll show you know how to take charge which builds attraction towards you. Just don't let it make you controlling over time you know


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