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    Default Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    This girl at work i started talking to. she asked for my number and i gave it to her. She has a boyfriend that i found out about on my own she never told me. two months later we have texted everyday. i fear i have become friend zoned. as a test i posted on facebook about all the beautiful women around campus. SHE LIKED THE STATUS. is this a sure fire indicator of friendzone? should i Freeze Out? She doesnt go to my college. if i am friend zoned i need out fast. keep in mind ive tried asking her out while she has a boyfriend....yes i know thats slimy to which she hasnt said no but has changed the conversation. shes not a slut.

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    Alright well I'm going to say something that's probably not something eerybody wants to hear: A girl has a bf, SO WHAT!!! Unless she states that she's not interested and means it and demonstrates a disinterests in you then you don't have a problem. Here's what I say to myself " If you're trying to get the girl why are you worried about her bf if it's obvious she doesn't bring him up and doesn't stop you when you flirt with her." Keep on flirting with her, and if she changes the subject about meeting up then confront her on it. Be persistence, don't be a wuss. And texting a girl everyday is bad because she will become too comfortable texting and won't want to meet up in real life. ( that's probably why she change the subject because she knows you'll go with it). ( be the leader not the follower.)
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    Do you think i should Freeze Out then? do you think her liking my status was a way of saying shes watching me and shes pissed?

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    Yeah you should freeze her out because she's use to talking to you everyday so it's not special anymore. Forget about the fb situations, I don't really understand that part but your life is based on if a girl is pissed at you or not.
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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    okay thanks alot brother. When should i break the Freeze Out? and should i just say i was busy and keep my replies really short until i feel things out?

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    I don't think you should confront her because she changed the subject when you asked her out. I would rather use it as an indicator that you haven't built either enough attraction or comfort, and therefore act on it. Remember, PUA style is to always act cool, in control and appear unaffected.

    Based on the fact that you guys been texting everyday (if you not the one initiating all the time) tells me that comfort is there, so you work more on attraction using the guides on the forum. Like Marvillo pointed out tho, too much comfort ain't good as you not that special anymore, so think about making your convo a little scarce but productive each time they happen, reason why you should have a lot of HB on your text line to alternate convos and give each a break.

    Good luck.
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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    I really don't see the point in putting in the effort of trying to go after a girl with a bf.There are so many girls at so many different locations that are available. It's just not worth it.

    As a guy who has been cheated on, done cheating, and been the guy a girl cheats on her bf with, it's just unnecessary drama and baggage.
    I understand that some people find it as a rush, or a challenge, or it strokes their ego, but really?

    Idk, for me, I sleep with girls to add value to their sex life. not complicate it.

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    i'm not trying to have sex with her. If thats all i wanted i wouldnt have wasted my time. She's a cool girl i could see myself having a relationship with. i think shes unhappy with her boyfriend but stays because she's comfortable. they have been dateing 4 months when i started talking to her they where together 2 months. so i dont think she was into him to begin with.

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    Quote Originally Posted by iamchance View Post
    i'm not trying to have sex with her. If thats all i wanted i wouldnt have wasted my time. She's a cool girl i could see myself having a relationship with. i think shes unhappy with her boyfriend but stays because she's comfortable. they have been dateing 4 months when i started talking to her they where together 2 months. so i dont think she was into him to begin with.
    Sounds like you're shooting yourself in the foot either way. There are three outcomes I see if you choose to pursue:

    a.) you guys hook up, but she stays with her bf, or goes back to her bf afterwards as she's "made a mistake"

    b.) she leaves her bf for you and bam! you now are in a relationship with a girl with a history of dick hopping (only until she finds a new shiny object)

    c.) she turns you down and your now the coworker who tried to get her to cheat on her bf.

    I'm not here to shit on your parade. You are completely entitled to do what you feel is right. But I've been on both sides of the situation you're in right now, and I've seen firsthand how these things turn out. If you REALLY like this girl, and think that she's just stuck in something mundane and wouldn't ordinarily cheat. Then go for it, maybe start flirting around with the other girls at work. She needs to see that she has choices to make and she can't have her cake and eat it too.

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    Default Re: Did i fall into the Friendzone? whats next?

    Quote Originally Posted by iamchance View Post
    i'm not trying to have sex with her. If thats all i wanted i wouldnt have wasted my time. She's a cool girl i could see myself having a relationship with. i think shes unhappy with her boyfriend but stays because she's comfortable. they have been dateing 4 months when i started talking to her they where together 2 months. so i dont think she was into him to begin with.
    I agree with oasis. Even if you start a relatioship with her, it will already start with her cheating on her boyfriend or dumping him for you (wich is almost the same thing, as you'll start flirting in the process). Either way neither an easy nor a good route to take. She gotta be really worth it..


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