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    Default Need some time - critique my response

    I've known this girl for several months now. We have a really good time together and things have been highly sexual almost from the start. She's a single Mom and still dealing with issues from a very recent divorce. She's a school teacher so summer was great times, but school has now started and she says that she feels immensely overwhelmed and stressed, as can be seen in her txt this morning:

    " Well......good morning to you too.....hey...um.... ive been thinkin....and well.....i cant date you right now....i have to focus which is V ERY HARD for me to do.....focus on fixing my stupidity before jumping into a relationship....i see me falling for you too hard right now....i have to ta ke some time....so....i have to wait....."

    This caught me quite off guard, since we saw each other this weekend and everything was as hot as it always is. All of this seems like relationship fears, akin to LMR type stuff. Maybe the common fears that people use to push away good relationships when they're afraid that they might lose them instead. Who knows. In any case, stuff like this is really something that I don't want to put up with. I've toyed around with the idea of just saying See ya later, and check back up with her next summer. Haha! Still I figured I should at least give things one last shot:

    "... you're gonna call it quits over a txt? Relationship faux pas! Hahaha! :-P
    But seriously, I hear what you're saying. You do have a ton on your plate. And with school starting up, things probably doubled. If not more.
    However, I don't want things to be left hanging all nebulous like they are at this moment. You and I have built up a good thing. To throw it all away and let it all go, that would be losing something great. And I don't want that to happen for me or for you.
    You're busy at school right now though, so let's talk about this for a little bit later tonight after all this kids are settled, Ok?
    Chin up. You are worth having the best..."

    So what is everybody's eval of my response? Is it beta, clingy, desperate, weak, sincere, sappy, over the top, genuine, or is it so Alpha that it will become Community standard from here on out? Hahaha! If nothing else, I can learn from this to make future game better.

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    Default Re: Need some time - critique my response

    Quote Originally Posted by goodfather View Post
    I've known this girl for several months now. We have a really good time together and things have been highly sexual almost from the start. She's a single Mom and still dealing with issues from a very recent divorce. She's a school teacher so summer was great times, but school has now started and she says that she feels immensely overwhelmed and stressed, as can be seen in her txt this morning:

    " Well......good morning to you too.....hey...um.... ive been thinkin....and well.....i cant date you right now....i have to focus which is V ERY HARD for me to do.....focus on fixing my stupidity before jumping into a relationship....i see me falling for you too hard right now....i have to ta ke some time....so....i have to wait....."

    This caught me quite off guard, since we saw each other this weekend and everything was as hot as it always is. All of this seems like relationship fears, akin to LMR type stuff. Maybe the common fears that people use to push away good relationships when they're afraid that they might lose them instead. Who knows. In any case, stuff like this is really something that I don't want to put up with. I've toyed around with the idea of just saying See ya later, and check back up with her next summer. Haha! Still I figured I should at least give things one last shot:

    "... you're gonna call it quits over a txt? Relationship faux pas! Hahaha! :-P
    But seriously, I hear what you're saying. You do have a ton on your plate. And with school starting up, things probably doubled. If not more.
    However, I don't want things to be left hanging all nebulous like they are at this moment. You and I have built up a good thing. To throw it all away and let it all go, that would be losing something great. And I don't want that to happen for me or for you.
    You're busy at school right now though, so let's talk about this for a little bit later tonight after all this kids are settled, Ok?
    Chin up. You are worth having the best..."

    So what is everybody's eval of my response? Is it beta, clingy, desperate, weak, sincere, sappy, over the top, genuine, or is it so Alpha that it will become Community standard from here on out? Hahaha! If nothing else, I can learn from this to make future game better.

    Still haven't cracked the texting code? Haha the texting issue will be lightly touched upon in Project Iceshield. But either way I have seen this so many times in different manners. But either way look at this one and only one way sh!t test, MASSIVE sh!t test. Your response is a MASSIVE fail as well I hope to everything good and clean you didn't go there. I have seen this so many times doesn't phase me no more. She is just testing you bro. Let me sum it up for you.

    1. She wants a relationship with you but afraid of telling you (opps that slipped out ay?)
    2. She doesn't want a FWB but thinks you are BF material and if you act like a player she will dismiss you.
    3. She is testing your resolve to see if you will respond to a similiar like minded attitude.

    If you push her away now that would be the perfect pull. If you try to pull her in it will push her away. Say something like...

    "Yeah I was thinking the same thing. We should slow this down. I can't handle a relationship either right now." But throw in a slight flirty tease, I am just so busy.

    Example
    "Yeah I was thinking the same thing about you, we should slow this down. I can't handle a relationship with anyone right now either. I..am.just.so...busy ." It will drive her up the flipping wall with your non-neediness and nonchalant attitude. But your response is an attempt to pull her in "Should we really end this through text?" Beta and not advisable. Try what I suggested and put your own spin on it if you want. Smashing post mate.


    Basically you would be doing the opposite of what she expects which is to get needy, get mad, or get weak. When you act like nothing matters to you it drives them crazy. As..long.as..you.tim e..it..just.right. Timing is everything, screw your tiny window of time and you are out on your arse.


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