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    Default Girls scared of orgasms

    So basically, I've ran into a frequent problem with girls who are afraid to cum.

    I would go down on them or something, give them my best, and when it starts coming, they would stop me with "Stop, I feel weird", or "stop, else I won't be able to stop myself" or something similar.

    And even if I'm like "that's the whole point, duh" and keep going, they would make me stop, even becoming violent or jumping out of bed.

    It happens mainly with clit stimulation, and with FOB asians, but it might be a general thing, I'm not sure.

    Sex is still great, and they like it, but I would still love being able to give them orgasms without them stopping me.

    Has someone else encountered the same issue? Any idea about how to let them accept it?
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    Default Re: Girls scared of orgasms

    That is a very interesting issue. I've been with two girls that had this problem.

    They would be so close to cum but somehow they make you stop every time. Hell even one of them once told me: "this this the closest I've ever been to having an orgasm". And I wondered why the hell didn't you let me keep going then?

    The way I see it, both girls had parent problems and this affects the way they see men and relationships big time. They could be afraid of loving it and getting addicted to it, to you. They don't want to give you this power over them, it's psychological and takes very advanced game and a psychology background to deal with such cases.

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    Default Re: Girls scared of orgasms

    I had this problem with a girl I was in a very long-term relationship with. We were both very young when she struggled with this, and there are several reasons I found that she had this issue.

    The main factor was confidence. When women orgasm, they really do lose control. A woman who isn't confident with herself will want to remain in control of the situation, and hence, won't let you bring them to orgasm.

    So how did I get around this? It took a lot of comfort building, and talking about it. If there's an issue, lots of times the best way to deal with it is to address it head on. Ask her why she's uncomfortable with it. Don't do it while you're being intimate either, do it after or at another time. If you do it during, it just sounds like you're complaining.

    Next, a woman wants her man to reassure her. Woman most strongly pair bond with a guy who can protect her and make her feel safe. Therefore, you need to make it known that it's okay if she lets herself go in front of you. You're not going to let any harm come to her and you're not going to harm her yourself.

    Which is directly related to my next point. WOMEN ARE DEATHLY AFRAID OF BEING JUDGED. How does this relate to your situation? Well a woman who "lets go" of herself is no longer in control and is afraid of what you'll think of her actions. This means you have to reassure her that you won't judge her and that it's actually very attractive when she does let go.

    Also, if the girl relatively inexperienced with sexual contact, then as they become more used to it they will naturally become more comfortable with it. So obviously time plays a big factor.

    Hopefully some of these tips help you out!
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    Default Re: Girls scared of orgasms

    Ok, thanks for the advice people. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one having met these issues!

    I feel stupid for not having considered the "talk to her" approach, as it is usually my main solution to every possible issue

    I will try that, and build comfort next time I face the issue. And hopefully, keep you informed about how it went, thanks
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