Hey guys do you you Facebook as a dating tool?
Is social media an effective way to meet someone? Does Facebook hold the key to unlocking more dates with the opposite sex? Do you want to know how to amplify your dating?
Social Media is a great tool. It can connect you with virtually anyone around the world, give you insights on everything that’s happening around you, and keep you feeling active socially. But is it really an effective way to create dates? Now first of all let me start by saying that absolutely nothing beats meeting people in person and building a connection with them. When I give advice on meeting people, I always push for you to meet people in person. Meeting them in person opens an entire world of communication, though having a good WiFi connection can also open up a whole other world.
Facebook can be a great tool for meeting people in your area.
1. Finding events that are happening in your area.
There are always events happening and the best way to get up to date with upcoming events is through Facebook. Events such as sports, activities, parties, festivals, and much more! Find people who are already going to the event and send them a message, get to know them and make plans to meet them at the event!
2. Find suggested friends.
Finding suggested friends is easy, click on your friends icon (where you would usually click to accept a friend request), and click “find friends”. This will give you a great selection of people around you, send friend requests and message them… but what do you say in your message?
3. How to message new people.
Messaging is now such a common way of communicating that it almost has rules to what is acceptable and what isn’t. Do not send dirty messages, or messages that tell them you are desperately looking to date someone, no… Don’t do that. Instead, look at their photos. Do they have photos doing a sport or activity you have interest in? Do you they have photos in a great area or have traveled somewhere? If so try connecting to something that is relevant. Tell them you are looking to meet people in the area, and you found them to be really interesting due to such and such. The rule is to connect personally with them. The easiest and most effective way is through their photos.
4. Turning it into a date.
Once you get the ball rolling and are able to contact them without looking like an internet serial killer, then you should start talking about dates. Treat your conversation like a conversation you would have with them on the street when meeting them for the first time. Get to know them and talk for a while. You wouldn’t ask them if they’d like to go on a date when you’ve only exchanged names and nothing much more, you’d ask them after you build a connection. After chatting and connecting on topics and interests, ask them if they’d like to get coffee, or ask them if they’d like to join on event you are going to. (See how this all plays out?) If they have interest in you and you connected well with them then wow! You’ve got yourself a date! As well as you can go to the date knowing you’ve already built a friendship!
5. Don’t go in with expectations.
Just like meeting someone in person, don’t go into the conversation expecting results. If you are messaging them with the energy that you want to date the person you are talking to, then it is going to come of aggressive and needy. Rather go into the conversation wanting to learn about the person you are talking to, get to know what their story is. You won’t know that the person is a possible prospect for a date unless you get to know who they are. Do you have similar interests? Do you connect well? Ask yourself those questions. Just like meeting someone in person if you happen to have no chemistry together then no big deal! Just shrug it off and make efforts to meet others. Not every interaction will lead to great chemistry, but most often when you go into the conversation with the intentions to learn about who they are, you will build a lasting connection that will lead to some incredible dates.