For those of you unfamiliar with Tinder, it's a dating app for iPhones and Androids that allows you to go through photos and small profiles of people. For every person you like, you swipe their photo to the right (the ones you don't like, swipe them to the left). Before you can make contact with anyone, they will have to like your profile, too, so the initial interest is mutual. It's based on your location, so you can only see profiles that are near you within a certain radius. It's notorious for being a hookup app, but that doesn't mean ALL of the women on there are loose.
It's like online dating without the absolute randomness associated with it - when you send a message, she will be more likely to respond since she's already liked what she's seen so far. Since it's already on your smartphone, this relates more to texting than anything - hence why I posted this in the texting forum.
I was up in Nashville for work one day and decided to check out the local talent. Now, I live in Atlanta, which is about a four-hour drive from Nashville, and I'm not really expecting anything to come from any of the conversations I start up with any of these women - until I made a match with an HB8 who is from Atlanta and will be coming down here in like two weeks as you'll see from the transcript I'll be posting.
This is a good case study in texting game, folks, and to be honest, I have some highlights and questions at key parts in the conversation. Some things I did well, others I think I could've done better - hence where you guys come in. I'll be posting parts of the Tinder conversation since it's kind of long and move on to the texting conversation later in the thread. I'll sprinkle in my commentary and questions at the pertinent parts. You're free to use whatever clever/stupid lines of mine you think worked well.
Me: You made a good choice
Her: Yours was okay.
Exceptionally mediocre I'd say
Me: Hey, don't you talk no crap about my choices - I only pick the best!
And have a little confidence! Youre' the woman; you're supposed to make this a challenge! Don't start throwing yourself at me just yet - I get enough of that already
Paid her a compliment here but in the right way while dhv. Feel like I pulled it off, but open to suggestions to make this better.
Her: Hahahaha I respond well to flattery. Well done.
Me: This ain't my first rodeo, sweetheart :P I know exactly how to treat a woman right and make her feel incredible
Her: Hahah well not sure if you've met a lady such as myself but I appreciate your optimism
First sh1t test.
Me: Bon Jovi said it best: I've seen a million faces, and I've rocked them all
Me: But you should be a million and one =D
-SHORTLY LATER ON-
Me: I want to play a game.
About to introduce the "game" idea that I saw somewhere on this forum.
Her: Okay. Are there rules?
Me: Yes, and it's tough, too, just to warn you. In fact, I'm not sure you're up to the challenge....
Okay, the rules: we can ask each other any qeustion we want, but we have to be 100% honest, and you HAVE to answer - no matter what it is. Think you're cool enough to handle it?
Her: Hahah FUN
Me: So you're up for it. Good! Alright, I'll start easy: where are you from?
I wanted to ease into this. Thought it wouldn't work out too well if I started with, "Are you a virgin?" Figured that would be too bold, but then again, I know most here would say, "Where are you from?" is AFC. I feel like I framed it the right way here, though. Open to thoughts here.
Me: Cool - now your turn. Ask me something.
Her: Do you have a pet/s?
Me: Sorta - my parents have a dog and two cats.
Now we ratchet it up a bit: when was the last time you got drunk and made a fool of yourself?
This is my way of getting her ready for the harder questions later like, "Are you a virgin?" - think I did this well, but again, open to thoughts.
Her: Getting drunk now. I teach 17-year-olds so I make a fool of myself often. Said boob instead of boo today.
Her: How do you feel about man bags?
Me: Haha, now we know what's on your mind, Ms. Freudian slip! You sure you don't have a few females mixed in with the dudes you've been swiping? ;P
A reference to Tinder's swiping and trying to play a joke off her apparent Freudian slip.
And you mean man bags like scrotum?? Well, except for my own, can't say I've felt any man bags!
Attempt at a play-on-words.
Her: Hahaha that was only once. And I was abroad. And she was hot.
Hook point for me - and bonus points for her, in my book! It's also the first overtly sexual subject she's brought up, so I figure hey, those areas are fair game now.
And NO I mean a man purse like a murse....
Me: Remember, you have to be 100% honest here! You'll have to send any photographic evidence of said encounter as proof!
And murses are gay. :P
Okay, now my turn: have you ever made out with a woman before?
Her: Hahaha okay good.
No photographic proof but like I said I was abroad so that's normal, right?
Me: It's hot is what it is... ;D
Better response, anyone? Was thinking of something like, "Well, you'll just have to recreate the scene sometime... " but wasn't sure how that would go over this early in the conversation, so played it more-or-less safe. I know a bunch of PUAs would say that's just expressing interest in her too early or whatever, but I have a very blunt, calls-it-like-I-sees-it personality, and let's face it - two chicks making out: that's hot.
-SHORTLY LATER ON, AFTER N-CLOSING AND STARTING TO TEXT-
Me (first text): Congratulations - you won the privilege of having my number! Save it to your favorites - it'll be the most important one you have! -Rico-
Her: I don't know, Rico this feels pretttty generic.
Here it comes....
Me: Generic? What, you accusing me of being fake?
Her: Or a player?
Boom - the "are you a player" sh1t test. I see it as a good sign that she's interested but afraid that I'm just playing her.
Me: Hmm, I played football in high school and play music on my phone if that's what you're asking
Me: I play video games when I'm bored, so... Yeah, I guess I'm a player! :P
Her: Haha okay well played
Me: "Well played"
See?? Player!! =D
Not gonna lie - I feel like I knocked this one out of the park.
There's more to this, but that's all for now since this post is getting long enough. I'll add other sections that I think I as well as others can benefit from later on. Let me just say, though, that there's a lot of promise for this one since she'll be down here in October for a little while. Thoughts on how this played out?