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Thread: Tinder - How not to mess it up

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    Default Tinder - How not to mess it up

    For those of you unfamiliar with Tinder, it's a dating app for iPhones and Androids that allows you to go through photos and small profiles of people. For every person you like, you swipe their photo to the right (the ones you don't like, swipe them to the left). Before you can make contact with anyone, they will have to like your profile, too, so the initial interest is mutual. It's based on your location, so you can only see profiles that are near you within a certain radius. It's notorious for being a hookup app, but that doesn't mean ALL of the women on there are loose.

    It's like online dating without the absolute randomness associated with it - when you send a message, she will be more likely to respond since she's already liked what she's seen so far. Since it's already on your smartphone, this relates more to texting than anything - hence why I posted this in the texting forum.

    I was up in Nashville for work one day and decided to check out the local talent. Now, I live in Atlanta, which is about a four-hour drive from Nashville, and I'm not really expecting anything to come from any of the conversations I start up with any of these women - until I made a match with an HB8 who is from Atlanta and will be coming down here in like two weeks as you'll see from the transcript I'll be posting.

    This is a good case study in texting game, folks, and to be honest, I have some highlights and questions at key parts in the conversation. Some things I did well, others I think I could've done better - hence where you guys come in. I'll be posting parts of the Tinder conversation since it's kind of long and move on to the texting conversation later in the thread. I'll sprinkle in my commentary and questions at the pertinent parts. You're free to use whatever clever/stupid lines of mine you think worked well.


    Me: You made a good choice

    Her: Yours was okay.
    Exceptionally mediocre I'd say

    Me: Hey, don't you talk no crap about my choices - I only pick the best!
    And have a little confidence! Youre' the woman; you're supposed to make this a challenge! Don't start throwing yourself at me just yet - I get enough of that already
    Paid her a compliment here but in the right way while dhv. Feel like I pulled it off, but open to suggestions to make this better.

    Her: Hahahaha I respond well to flattery. Well done.

    Me: This ain't my first rodeo, sweetheart :P I know exactly how to treat a woman right and make her feel incredible

    Her: Hahah well not sure if you've met a lady such as myself but I appreciate your optimism
    First sh1t test.

    Me: Bon Jovi said it best: I've seen a million faces, and I've rocked them all
    Me: But you should be a million and one =D


    -SHORTLY LATER ON-


    Me: I want to play a game.
    About to introduce the "game" idea that I saw somewhere on this forum.

    Her: Okay. Are there rules?

    Me: Yes, and it's tough, too, just to warn you. In fact, I'm not sure you're up to the challenge....
    Okay, the rules: we can ask each other any qeustion we want, but we have to be 100% honest, and you HAVE to answer - no matter what it is. Think you're cool enough to handle it?

    Her: Hahah FUN

    Me: So you're up for it. Good! Alright, I'll start easy: where are you from?
    I wanted to ease into this. Thought it wouldn't work out too well if I started with, "Are you a virgin?" Figured that would be too bold, but then again, I know most here would say, "Where are you from?" is AFC. I feel like I framed it the right way here, though. Open to thoughts here.

    Her: Atlanta

    Me: Cool - now your turn. Ask me something.

    Her: Do you have a pet/s?

    Me: Sorta - my parents have a dog and two cats.
    Now we ratchet it up a bit: when was the last time you got drunk and made a fool of yourself?
    This is my way of getting her ready for the harder questions later like, "Are you a virgin?" - think I did this well, but again, open to thoughts.

    Her: Getting drunk now. I teach 17-year-olds so I make a fool of myself often. Said boob instead of boo today.
    Her: How do you feel about man bags?

    Me: Haha, now we know what's on your mind, Ms. Freudian slip! You sure you don't have a few females mixed in with the dudes you've been swiping? ;P
    A reference to Tinder's swiping and trying to play a joke off her apparent Freudian slip.

    And you mean man bags like scrotum?? Well, except for my own, can't say I've felt any man bags!
    Attempt at a play-on-words.

    Her: Hahaha that was only once. And I was abroad. And she was hot.
    Hook point for me - and bonus points for her, in my book! It's also the first overtly sexual subject she's brought up, so I figure hey, those areas are fair game now.
    And NO I mean a man purse like a murse....

    Me: Remember, you have to be 100% honest here! You'll have to send any photographic evidence of said encounter as proof!
    And murses are gay. :P
    Okay, now my turn: have you ever made out with a woman before?

    Her: Hahaha okay good.
    No photographic proof but like I said I was abroad so that's normal, right?

    Me: It's hot is what it is... ;D
    Better response, anyone? Was thinking of something like, "Well, you'll just have to recreate the scene sometime... " but wasn't sure how that would go over this early in the conversation, so played it more-or-less safe. I know a bunch of PUAs would say that's just expressing interest in her too early or whatever, but I have a very blunt, calls-it-like-I-sees-it personality, and let's face it - two chicks making out: that's hot.


    -SHORTLY LATER ON, AFTER N-CLOSING AND STARTING TO TEXT-


    Me (first text): Congratulations - you won the privilege of having my number! Save it to your favorites - it'll be the most important one you have! -Rico-

    Her: I don't know, Rico this feels pretttty generic.
    Here it comes....

    Me: Generic? What, you accusing me of being fake?

    Her: Or a player?
    Boom - the "are you a player" sh1t test. I see it as a good sign that she's interested but afraid that I'm just playing her.

    Me: Hmm, I played football in high school and play music on my phone if that's what you're asking
    Me: I play video games when I'm bored, so... Yeah, I guess I'm a player! :P

    Her: Haha okay well played

    Me: "Well played"
    See?? Player!! =D
    Not gonna lie - I feel like I knocked this one out of the park.


    There's more to this, but that's all for now since this post is getting long enough. I'll add other sections that I think I as well as others can benefit from later on. Let me just say, though, that there's a lot of promise for this one since she'll be down here in October for a little while. Thoughts on how this played out?

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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    I like what you did here. I'm new so I'm not sure how you could do better. i was actually hoping you could give me advice. I'm trying tinder but I'm not sure what to put for a tagline. i saw tinder on the name so i clicked. any advice?

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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    Looks like it was a fun text thread. Did you all agree to meet when she was in town?

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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    Wait what's so great about this Tinder thing again? Just liked about 30 hot chicks and not a single like. Some girl on Tinder posted her FB/IG info online so I hit her up but she hasn't responded.

    The general rule around here on these forums is I have 2-3 messages before giving up so I have 1 and no reply. What should I say to her when I hit her up again on FB or should I hit her up on IG since she said to follow her to all the guys on Tinder.
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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    Quote Originally Posted by NoctisCaelumPUA View Post
    Wait what's so great about this Tinder thing again? Just liked about 30 hot chicks and not a single like. Some girl on Tinder posted her FB/IG info online so I hit her up but she hasn't responded.

    The general rule around here on these forums is I have 2-3 messages before giving up so I have 1 and no reply. What should I say to her when I hit her up again on FB or should I hit her up on IG since she said to follow her to all the guys on Tinder.
    So far I've matched like 60 people and only 2 have selected yes back. It took ages to get the first. I'm very new to it but what I hear you just keep matching and have patience. The way it works is if you both like each other then you can chat. It is displayed at random so it can take a while for those 30 to see you. If those 30 don't log on for a few day it will take that much longer. All you can do is keep clicking, enjoy looking at the hot girls posting pics for you to gawk at, and wait for some of them to like you back.

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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    Sounds like Tinder is a new POF. Same interactions therefore same approach and technique will equal a similar result.
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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    Quote Originally Posted by Bimmer View Post
    Sounds like Tinder is a new POF. Same interactions therefore same approach and technique will equal a similar result.


    Yeah POF x10. POF the same hot chicks over and over everyday. Over 6 months it peaked at about 10 hot chicks I was trying to talk to (never responded). Now with Tinder there is TONS more local talent even liked 1 or 2 18 and 19 year olds but no likes yet. This is definitely a fun app but very very low expectations here. However Tinder and POF are the new thing for my downtime (winter months) for when I don't go out. But I definitely won't need them during the Summer! I think I will follow that chick on instagram which is largely a chick site (targeted towards female audiences) I don't know why they want guys to follow them sounds dumb but may be the only way to get her attention.
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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    Quote Originally Posted by NoctisCaelumPUA View Post
    Yeah POF x10. POF the same hot chicks over and over everyday. Over 6 months it peaked at about 10 hot chicks I was trying to talk to (never responded). Now with Tinder there is TONS more local talent even liked 1 or 2 18 and 19 year olds but no likes yet. This is definitely a fun app but very very low expectations here. However Tinder and POF are the new thing for my downtime (winter months) for when I don't go out. But I definitely won't need them during the Summer! I think I will follow that chick on instagram which is largely a chick site (targeted towards female audiences) I don't know why they want guys to follow them sounds dumb but may be the only way to get her attention.
    So, I've been playing with Tinder a little while now and know some girls using it too. With Tinder, most girls do it because it's fun, easy to set up, and noncommittal. There are also girls that just want to boost their instagram followers, there's also hookers, and webcam girls. Past all of this, you will find girls that actually want to meet up. And the ones that do want to meet are down. I tried actually being selective at one point in time, and that took too much effort on my part, so I started liking EVERY SINGLE girl on Tinder. Before the pics even load, I've already liked the girl. Then, when one of the girls likes me back, I see what she looks like. If ugly, I block her. If pretty. I message. I don't know if other people would find that a little harsh or inconsiderate, but it's saved me a LOT of time, so I can focus on other things in my life while maximizing my chances of meeting a girl off the app.

    Additionally, you will not often find out for a while if a girl likes you back because it's based on when they use the app, so don't sit and wait. It could take a while, but by swiping away until there are no girls in your radius that you haven't liked, you at least know that you have a shot with any girl that goes on.

    Hope that helps.

    I like tinder because the girls tend to be younger and hotter,

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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    And I got a match. Finally my word. Liked 60 hot chicks like a week ago and finally got matched. I realized it's likely because I am 50 miles from the Big City and their search criteria is probably less than 50 miles so I kind of get screwed on that one till I move to the Big City in 8 years.
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    Default Re: Tinder - How not to mess it up

    It was great that you posted your whole conversation so that others could learn from it. Good job getting her to meet up with you in Atlanta too!


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