Re: Terrible at group dynamics
Epic shit test and you failed. This all happened because everything you have done so far has been AFC. As I said earlier, this whole thread reads like a case of "I'm not getting my way so I'm taking my ball and going home."
You said yourself that the roadtrip was your idea. By planning it out and then stating you wanted to do something else you telegraphed that you're a flake and unreliable. Of course there's pressure for her to go on the roadtrip--it's called having the decency to be reliable.
Now you've really put yourself in a bind because no matter what you do you're going to look like an AFC. You telegraphed that you're not interested in the roadtrip and that you want to go overseas, she has shot you down and now you're likely just go to supplicate to those demands. You're following her around like a good little puppy now.
There's no good in. No silver lining. You didn't show you're not afraid of conflict, you just made it clear that when things don't go your way instead of dealing with them like a man you're going to create conflict. And what do you mean "the balls to do what's right"? It's not like you took some morally higher ground here, you just decided you wanted to pull out of the plans you initiated.
It's hilarious when people come on the internet looking for advice but only listen to the advice that jives with what they want to hear. You weren't looking for advice, you were looking for an ego stroke.
I don't even know where to tell you to go from here. You took a small issue and created a whole bunch of drama for no reason. You're going to likely have to supplicate now, because there really isn't any other move left. So I guess I'd say you should try and get control of the roadtrip like I originally said, but even that's going to be harder now because you've tried to back out, so it's no longer really "your plan."
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."