So I'm posting this now hoping I can get some advice. I came to this site a year ago and asked for some advice regarding a girl I liked, I was just out of high school and she was in grade 12. Things kicked off and we dated for 4 months, ended up breaking up after arguing over little things etc started to happen a lot. So a day later we talk and we were more on friends with benefits terms, very oddly she didn't really tell it to me that way or her friends and when I tried to say that's what it was we were "still friends". Turns out, I slept at her house one night when her parents were gone. I knew something was up because we were still on this break (been 2 months) and I go through her phone. Turns out, the week before I sleep at her house I find out through her phone she got farked by some guy. I got more mad and took it pretty stupidly, I should have just acted calmly and gtfo outta there but she took advantage of how I didn't know the whole story.

Was in a really bad situation, I left and the next day she apologizes and basically says it was all an accident but really.. She had this sh1t planned, maybe not the farking but it could have been avoided. Considering she had sex with me 3 days after the fact, in fact all I really know is that this guy fingered her but in the end she came back to me and I forgave her. I think half the time a girl would you right there if another guy was better, but now I'm sitting in almost the exact same situation...

After the forgiveness and forget, we got back together and started dating. How ever, she was going to college in 2 months 2.5 hours away from our hometown. She was very caring to me in the sense we saw each other everyday even though we had busy schedules and didn't live together, go out for dinners and did things we both liked. She said she loved me, I had never heard that even from our previous relationship because we both believe it takes time to just say that flat out to a person.

So she leaves for college, and a week in shes starting to have doubts because we had one little silly argument. I thought things were going fine, but a week goes by and she calls me one night saying how she feels like shes holding me back. Right then and there from past experience, I told her I'm not gonna fight for something that's pressuring her etc so I just said lets go on a break and she said well if it worked before it'll work again.

But, if I never looked at her phone that night then who knows what could have happened? I really don't know what to do, I haven't seen this girl in a month and I'm driving to see her tomorrow so we can talk and I'm driving her back home. I want to be with this girl, but if she can't see it my way and come a full 360 and not give me excuses as to why she can't be with me now. She still say's she loves me, but how can you just be friends and have that slight possibility your gonna go off and sleep with someone else? Or should I just not give her an ultimatum, see where it goes because she says she doesn't want to leave me no matter what happens but whats the point if your not dating imo...

Sorry for the long post I'm really mind boggled right now with women, it's funny because all of my friends have less stable relationships than the one we did. But the more I think of it, is this girl just playing me? Why would someone say they love me, make me drive 2 and a half hours to pick her up then either find something out which I highly doubt I would hear straight from her or just her tell me that we need more time... I really just don't get it!!!