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    Default Pulled the "what are we" card.......

    Been talking to this girl. she has a boyfriend they have been together 7 months. she told me she loves him. she sees me as a close friend. ive known her 4 months. we've NEVER hanged out/did anything outside of phone(ive tried but she doesnt want him to hang with girls so she doesnt hang with guys). she doesnt have many friends.she is a co worker. my question is this how should i go about this. how deep should i read into "close friend" to a girl that has maybe 2 people she ever hangs out with. last night she told me that if she had met me before her current boyfriend maybe things would be different. now keep in mind im not stuck on this girl. i want her but im not making myself unavailable. i just want to know how to move forward and create a relationship if the boyfriend messes up. am i in a pretty good situation for that case? should i stay the close friend? how do i stay the close friend without being deeply friend zoned?

    The boyfriend is 18 and a senior in highschool. She is 18 and graduated. i'm 22.

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    Default Re: Pulled the "what are we" card.......

    Since you talk to her on the phone that's great. Check out the Boyfriend Destroyer topics on this forum to see how to continue. It's a powerful tool so only use if it's not going to affect your morals. To remain out of the friendzone, simply don't act like her friend. Act and say stuff that you would to someone you're having sex with, not to your best friend. Make sex jokes, don't always be available, flirt with her etc.

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    Default Re: Pulled the "what are we" card.......

    Ive tried pushing sexual flirtation but she doesnt respond to well to it. i mean she deffinetly responds but doesnt respond with a flirt back. like say we are texting.

    This was a recent late night flirt i tried.

    Me: i'm coming to you're house to steal you're pillow
    Her: you cant have my good pillow. or my stuffed animals i need them to cuddle lol.
    Me: How about i just trade beds. yours sounds better.
    Her: no way jose
    Me: This is a situation.
    Her:

    i mean it was alright. but im a guy that likes perfect results. and i guess for a girl that loves her boyfriend this wasnt toooooo bad but eh....

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    Default Re: Pulled the "what are we" card.......

    Texhnically you really didn't go in directly, you went in indirectly. Like when she said " you cant have my good pillow. or my stuffed animals i need them to cuddle lol." It would have been better to reply with " hey we can share, I'm coming over to cuddle just save me the softest one" ( something along those lines would have gotten you somewhere.) And remember not every situation's going to give you perfect results. Learn to work around what she gives you and be flexible.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!


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