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Thread: Is this a red flag? How should I react?

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    Default Is this a red flag? How should I react?

    So I've been in a relationship for a little over 6 months. First oneitis.
    She seeks my validation and attention and has no signs of losing attraction/interest, seems pretty attached and affectionate. I keep her chasing.
    We see eachother only on weekends. It's either me going back to old town (grandma and lots of friends there) or she comes to me for a few days.

    I'll try to keep is as short - This weekend she was visiting and we went to a disco downtown. We both got dizzy and I went to the WC. Her phone was in me during that part of the night and don't know what got into me but I checked her chats. Some might have been hidden but I can't know that. Had a great time during her visit. She travelled back home on Sunday.
    Not many guys in the chats there. Actually, 2 only. Chat was boring with one of them. The other one had 3 or 4 messages, probably some deleted ones. Complete strangers. Now, what bothers me is that I think she craves validation and qualifies herself when talking to people, I've noticed that around friends.

    The day before yesterday we got into a little fight over the phone. She got really annoyed and hung up. I went no contact. I didn't return her call yesterday and went to a disco with a friend and a girl. During the night, she called twice and messaged me twice asking whats wrong. No answer.

    When I got home, I saw she had, yet again, qualified on one of those guys' facebook status from like 10 days ago.
    Something along the lines "Men like women but they like cars more".
    TBH I'm getting worried, he's fugly but apperantly she has some interest in him. Not sure whether it was the one with few messages or the boring one. But I guess it was the first one. Last time I acted jealous was around 3 months ago. She, on the other hand, knows that girl like me and expresses her jealousy openly and fears losing me.

    I really feel like confronting her. I know that every attractive girl has guys that try their chances with her but I think she's too responsive to this. I can say I had accidentally seen him message her as when we were home she opened her messanger to type one of her gfs in front of me, which really happened. Checked him out, 0 mutual friends, he lives in a close neighbour city.

    Give me some word of advice here. I think I should confront and tell her to show me the chats- first time I'll be doing this- they've probably chatted yesterday. Could she be doing something behind my back?
    If a red flag occurs, I'll next her.
    I believe there is no manly way to handle this. Things with her have been going very well lately, sex is amazing, too. If I will cut other girls from my life and not pay them attention, she is supposed to do the same, right?

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    Default Re: Is this a red flag? How should I react?

    First of all you shouldn't have sneaked her phone. Not because that's dishonest, but because that's self-destructive and you're seeing how much.

    Ignore her chats, if you can. How do you imagine she should react if that was your phone?

    You're fighting virtual guys. You're the one in flesh and bones. They who should compete with you, not otherwise.

    Hope you've got the message and hope some more people will help.

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    Default Re: Is this a red flag? How should I react?

    Mmm... well, idk what the msgs. Said, but i dont think u should make a big deal out of it, if you dont feel that she is only yours, then leave her. But if you do, then try and take care of business while she is there and make her feel special, i think she will soon forget the other guys, if theres anything there anyways. Good luck!!
    HaPpYGo5

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    Default Re: Is this a red flag? How should I react?

    Quote Originally Posted by happyg05 View Post
    Mmm... well, idk what the msgs. Said, but i dont think u should make a big deal out of it, if you dont feel that she is only yours, then leave her. But if you do, then try and take care of business while she is there and make her feel special, i think she will soon forget the other guys, if theres anything there anyways. Good luck!!
    Wow! Really surprised with her advice again!

    Reacting to the texts is the only guarantee she will go with the other guys. Do not have a talk with her about it. I think, good sex is the prescription for this situation.

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    Default Re: Is this a red flag? How should I react?

    Here is my philosophy when I am in a relationship. I expect that girls will flirt/seek validation from other guys. I don't care though. Why not? Because at the end of the night my girl is coming home with me. I actually get a kick out of watching guys try to flirt with my girl when I take her out, because when last call comes she curls up under my arm to go home.

    You ever take your girl to a big family gathering and have your younger cousins crushing on her? That's exactly how I frame it everywhere else. These other guys are just little kids with a crush on my girl.

    On the dark side, if my girl were to break my trust I would drop her like a ton of bricks and never look back. I'm kinda ruthless. I think that's what makes it work though.

    Remember, you have to be rocking her world and actually doing your job as a boyfriend as well. For this to work you have to be something she doesn't want to lose.

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    Default Re: Is this a red flag? How should I react?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheGeneral View Post
    Here is my philosophy when I am in a relationship. I expect that girls will flirt/seek validation from other guys. I don't care though. Why not? Because at the end of the night my girl is coming home with me. I actually get a kick out of watching guys try to flirt with my girl when I take her out, because when last call comes she curls up under my arm to go home.

    You ever take your girl to a big family gathering and have your younger cousins crushing on her? That's exactly how I frame it everywhere else. These other guys are just little kids with a crush on my girl.

    On the dark side, if my girl were to break my trust I would drop her like a ton of bricks and never look back. I'm kinda ruthless. I think that's what makes it work though.

    Remember, you have to be rocking her world and actually doing your job as a boyfriend as well. For this to work you have to be something she doesn't want to lose.
    Great advice! Let the other guys validate, and you be the one to sleep with her.


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