So I've been in a relationship for a little over 6 months. First oneitis.
She seeks my validation and attention and has no signs of losing attraction/interest, seems pretty attached and affectionate. I keep her chasing.
We see eachother only on weekends. It's either me going back to old town (grandma and lots of friends there) or she comes to me for a few days.
I'll try to keep is as short - This weekend she was visiting and we went to a disco downtown. We both got dizzy and I went to the WC. Her phone was in me during that part of the night and don't know what got into me but I checked her chats. Some might have been hidden but I can't know that. Had a great time during her visit. She travelled back home on Sunday.
Not many guys in the chats there. Actually, 2 only. Chat was boring with one of them. The other one had 3 or 4 messages, probably some deleted ones. Complete strangers. Now, what bothers me is that I think she craves validation and qualifies herself when talking to people, I've noticed that around friends.
The day before yesterday we got into a little fight over the phone. She got really annoyed and hung up. I went no contact. I didn't return her call yesterday and went to a disco with a friend and a girl. During the night, she called twice and messaged me twice asking whats wrong. No answer.
When I got home, I saw she had, yet again, qualified on one of those guys' facebook status from like 10 days ago.
Something along the lines "Men like women but they like cars more".
TBH I'm getting worried, he's fugly but apperantly she has some interest in him. Not sure whether it was the one with few messages or the boring one. But I guess it was the first one. Last time I acted jealous was around 3 months ago. She, on the other hand, knows that girl like me and expresses her jealousy openly and fears losing me.
I really feel like confronting her. I know that every attractive girl has guys that try their chances with her but I think she's too responsive to this. I can say I had accidentally seen him message her as when we were home she opened her messanger to type one of her gfs in front of me, which really happened. Checked him out, 0 mutual friends, he lives in a close neighbour city.
Give me some word of advice here. I think I should confront and tell her to show me the chats- first time I'll be doing this- they've probably chatted yesterday. Could she be doing something behind my back?
If a red flag occurs, I'll next her.
I believe there is no manly way to handle this. Things with her have been going very well lately, sex is amazing, too. If I will cut other girls from my life and not pay them attention, she is supposed to do the same, right?