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Thread: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

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    Default Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    I met a girl while travelling recently and added her on Facebook. I'm travelling through that area again soon so was trying to get something going before hand. I remember teasing her about being Irish, well more so that all her friends were Irish and that I couldn't understand.

    Anyway I message the following:
    Hey xxxx,
    It's a shame you weren't drinking Saturday people find me much funnier when they have been (: I can't believe you bailed early! Sorry that I only understood half of what you were saying, maybe talking over facebook will be easier. So where did you run off to anyway?


    Her:
    Hi, I left early to go home. You did tell me that you were not happy to know that I was Irish.


    Should I ignore it, say I was joking or that she misheard me. I'm actually going to Ireland next year so was considering saying that.

    Any help on what to say next would be appreciated.

    Thanks

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    Default Re: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    You could still tease her about it like " wow either you have a good memory or you just can't stop yourself from thinking about me"
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    Default Re: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    Yea keep it playful. If you do happen to want to somehow apologize indirectly you can say "Oh wow really? Hahahaha man what a messed up thing to say. Damn so I guess I used all my douche line rations for the week....." Then change the subject and keep it playful.

    I also like Marvilo's response. That would probably be my first attempted response to see if she responds well before using my line. Mine is more of a backup.
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    Default Re: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    I like marvilo's response too. I'm just not sure I'd be so direct with it. If you actually did hurt her feelings (i.e., she's not just throwing a shit test out), it means she's acting irrationally and that line is just going to make the situation spiral because it cuts a little too hard. On the other hand, if it's just a shit test, then that line is golden.

    The safer route is to make a statement that implies what marvilo is saying, but isn't so direct about it. You can try something along the lines of:

    "Really? I don't even remember, but I can't be expected to remember every little thing I say over the course of the night."

    You're saying the same thing as what marvilo said (props to him for the line, because I wasn't even thinking along those lines) without saying it outright. The keys to this line are 1) you're dismissing the importance of what you said, 2) you're lowering your attainability (pushing) by implying that you don't over value your communications with her, and 3) your implying that she puts a lot of stock in your communications because she remembers all the "little" things you say (which lowers her value).

    This is the mid-point between batman and marvilo's lines. Once you deliver it you're going to want to change the subject because it changes the value dynamic between you two A LOT (i.e., it's a big push, now you're going to want to pull a little).
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    Default Re: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    Try to get a style you like. I'm pretty sure every PUA has some sort of style they use when talking to women; ex: mine is playful, tease a lot, and make women qualify to me. Just remember just because it works for me and the girls that I talk to doesnt mean it'll work for you and the girls you talk to. Plus create a back story( more of a persona but that word sounds like someone that isn't you). In school I'm the fun, playful, and always flirting with women/ Kino a lot... Lmao I kino so much that it's now natural to me everytime I meet a girl even if I don't like her.
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    Default Re: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    I like the dukes line it's more me. So just use that then wait on reply or change subject after?

    I was thinking of teasing her about understanding again, at one stage that night (at a loud club) I said we should stop talking and just sit and text each other hence the tease about facebook messaging. So I thought, 'haha no way I said that, although I guess you would remember. Maybe we should have just tried texting.' then moving on to something else.

    I had also thought of just saying 'haha, no way I said that you obviously couldn't understand me either. I thought your accent was cute'. I don't know saying 'cute' seems a bit push/pull in itself.

    This forum always seems like the best for advice on this stuff. Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Downhill quickly, don't remember saying that...

    You should say to her "well my first wife was Irish and she was a horrible women" .... when she questions you about being married, say to her "come on now, do I seem like the kind of guy that would marry an Irish girl??" and then move on


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