Hey everyone, I'm new here. I read The Game when I was single and found it very interesting. I had the knowledge of what to do with women in terms of picking them up and other stuff, but never really put it into practise. Anyway, it's a few months on now, and I've landed myself a cool girl.
I won't go into my life story and hers or much else because I don't think it's really relevant to what I need help with.
I've been working everyday from 10-4 including weekends leading up till Christmas and havn't seen her a hell of a lot. Maybe like once a week. We've been going out for a couple of months now, but just recently she's been weird with dates and what not.
In fact there's been a few things that have bothered me, so I'll just list them.
1) She all of a sudden txts me a couple of hours before we were due to go a movie, saying she mentioned the movie to the friend she was with, and apparently the friend was planning on seeing it, so she invites her too. I told her that she could either go with her friend, or with me, but she somehow swung me around and I ended up going with her and her friend to the movie, with ME left feeling like the third wheel!
2) I meet up with her last Friday, and 10 minutes into the date, she says she has to leave in about half an hour because she's going to a BBQ. She never told me this prior to the date. Later that evening, she txts me saying that I couldn't stay on the Monday night because she just found out her brother and his gf would be staying (She's still living with her parents and they were going to be out that night. We had planned this date over a week before).
3) She asks me what I'm doing on the Saturday, and I say I'm free after work at 4, so we agree to meet up then, and because we hadn't got to see each other much, I suggested Sunday same time aswell. Well Saturday comes around and at about 3 she txts me saying she has a friend round and so can't make it. Sunday, same time, she txts me saying she hadn't got her 'work' finished in time to meet me, so said she'd just see me on Monday (Today).
4) She wanted me to put some music on her memory stick for her, but I ended up loosing it. So I bought her another one with more capacity, and was planning on putting on all the music this weekend just gone. I forgot. She txt me saying that if I didn't have it, there was no point in meeting up and that she had a friend with her anyway, and was going to some sort of party later on so couldn't stay long. I didn't end up getting to see her.
Btw, my phone broke so I've been getting my friend to txt her today and yesterday and it's been extremely frustrating for the both of us having to argue with her through stupid technology!
So it's 6pm Monday now, and I'm pretty sure she said she won't be able to meet up tomorrow. She's going out of the country to the Philippines for a month on Wednesday or Thursday too. So this past week I didn't want to upset her or anything just so it's all good before she goes away. But I've come to the conclusion that I've been letting her push me around too much and the relationship isn't going to last if it carries on like this.
We're both pretty pissed off at each other and things obviously aren't going the best to say the least! Now all this may appear to show that she doesn't want to be with me, but it's impossible to explain the whole situation on the internet, and I can assure you, it isn't as bad as it sounds. She does like me and I like her.
But I would like some help. I may be able to see her before she goes away on Wednesday/Thursday, so with that possibility in mind, if I do get to see her, how do I go about explaining how I feel about it all? I want to be straight up with her, but I feel that we're not as close as I'd like us to be, and I don't want to give her the wrong ideas when I'm explaining to her how I feel, and it ending in us breaking up. Also, is there anything I should do to/with her or say to her that would make her think more highly of me before she went away? Just so when she comes back she's looking forward to seeing me.
And finally, do you guys have any tips as to what I should do to make myself a better guy in all areas in the four weeks she's away, just so she's even more impressed with me when she returns?
Cheers for reading and I look forward to what you guys think!