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    Default Text game fails too often, why?

    I meet most women through online such as POF etc.
    Problem is, though ive had some success, a lot of potentials just fade out. Id say about 60% of numbers i get i just end up deleting because they never go anywhere. In person things are fine with the women i do meet.

    For example on POF we will be messaging for some time until i Number Close. Start talking on Whatsapp and they totally change, often ill say something they will just not reply until i message again to bump start the convo.
    Then when it comes to arranging a date, often they show no interest.
    Today i asked a girl when shes free, she said 'not today', i said, 'I can't today anyway, i wont be free until next week, what day is usually good for you?' To which she replied, 'Ohh, dont know'.
    Responses like that just make me insta-delete their number without saying anything because its so irritating. Particularly when the night before we were talking for a long time on Badoo, light hearted stuff and lightly touched on meeting up.
    Another one i was messaging on POF, number closed. She has a child though, but we said we could meet Tuesday as she has plenty of babysitters she can contact for when she goes out.
    On the day when i asked if she was still up for it, she said she cant get a babysitter, and 'i'm not just saying that either' - her words.
    So i said 'its cool, you can make it up to me [IMG]file:///C:\Users\Kurt\AppDat a\Local\Temp\msohtml clip1\01\clip_image0 01.gif[/IMG]' No reply. A bit later i asked what shes up to today, she said shes going to a mates (im assuming taking the baby with her?), then i touched on meeting a different day, she said, 'yea another time maybe'.
    Just seems so flakey, why?

    Its not all bad though, some girls i number close are just how they were when POF messaging through and through, then in person they are as funny/natural as they were via text, those are the ones that i F close every time without much effort. The last one being on Monday, she was just natural and responsive from the start

    What gives? Maybe i could use some special text guides or something?

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    Default Re: Text game fails too often, why?

    There is a text thread here on the site, check it out and a few more tips here and there on the topic. I don't know if you come across needy or too pushy but this would reverse the direction of contact drastically, try not to respond immediately, be playful and just toss out meet up suggestions as if it were something you already had planned and she could tag along and if not no worries, be a mystery, be busy, and be semi flexible like you've kinda shown, but most importantly don't come across as needy what so ever. I've had flakes and iffy responses, but ill hit them with clever stuff that makes them respond and Freeze Out, get em all worked up with Push Pull then eventually ill get the invites and suggestions, try it out and be sure to go check out those other threads.

    hope this helps, let us know how it goes.
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    Default Re: Text game fails too often, why?

    You are being too flirty which is bad.as soon as they are attracted transition.or else you may end up in the grey zone.may follow through with those IOIs.PEACE

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    Default Re: Text game fails too often, why?

    Texting many things become bad voodoo asking when a girl is free is usually pointless. They rarely have a plan and if they do they will rarely keep with it or be on time.

    Set a time, place and activity and ask if she would like to join is much easier if not but she does want to see you she will usually then try to negotiate a time that works for her.

    Too much chatter via text makes you appear like you have nothing better to do which is no good.

    Master the cliffhanger. Your texts should be interesting and provoke response or they will most likely get bored.

    And lastly frequency, even if you are flirting and seems like conversation is well a new text blowing up you phone gets old quick especially if you are trying to get something done or starting something you want to get done.
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    Default Re: Text game fails too often, why?

    I meet most women through online such as POF etc.
    Problem is, though ive had some success, a lot of potentials just fade out. Id say about 60% of numbers i get i just end up deleting because they never go anywhere. In person things are fine with the women i do meet.
    I want you to see your problem.
    I meet most women through online such as POF etc.
    with online dating, the flake rate is going to be really high no matter how solid your game is. many of the woman who turn to online dating are the shy type to begin with, meeting up with someone for a "blind" date can be quite intimidating.

    it is so much easier to meet girls via social circles or even cold approaches. just having saw you in person for 15 minutes can make all the difference in her decision to attend your date.

    i'm not a fan of online dating. imo the advertisements for these websites lie, online dating does not make meeting woman any easier, if anything it actually complicates the process by being less personal and forcing you to build a lot of trust before getting a d1.

    of course if your into online dating and its working for you then kudos. however, I would not use it as my primary means of meeting woman.

    the guys above have good advice for online dating. just be careful that it doesn't become your only way of meeting woman.

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    Default Re: Text game fails too often, why?

    exactly. you should be the one to provide the time and place and the plan and she should agree with it because it is her one chance to impress you.


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